last year me and my partner split for 3 months in that time he saw someone else which is the reason we split. im pregnant with his child and he just moved in. he told me he got rid of all the pictures but i found on one of his cd's a folder titled her name with about 50 pictures some of them were them kissing and half naked. he looked happier. i confronted him he said for me to copy his cv and destroy the cd. and he said if he was happier with her he wouldn t b with me, now the split was a year ago. he said the reason was he needed to see he truly loved me and he realised im the one he wanted to spend his life with. hes so gentle and always caring for me hes over the moon about the baby. what shall i do
2007-08-20 21:45:21 · 15 answers · asked by vicky s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he wants to get married but i dont want to
2007-08-20 21:55:05 · update #1
You guys are a train wreck; what in the heck were you thinking getting pregnant? Why do so many people with unstable relationships have kids; its just beyond ridiculous.
If you believe his crap lines your a fool. Lets see how things go but I wouldnt' trust him. ridiculous situation.
2007-08-20 21:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi there... i think that he already gave the answer to you... i was gonna say the same...that he probably needed to figure out what exactly he wanted... to ee how he felt about the relationship between you two... just to be certain... people just do that sometimes.. its just something they have to do for themselves... to realize.. you know people always think that the grass is greener on the other side but they they regret their decisions...and then comes that saying..you never know what you got till you loos it..
Well i'm glad he realized that this is what he wants and that now you'll be able to be a family.
God Bless.
2007-08-21 04:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by Chica Loca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're having his baby. Therefore, he should demonstrate that he's willing to accept his responsibility for the baby and the choices that he's made. I think relationship counseling would probably also be a good idea. If he really wants to spend his life with you, he should be willing to marry you and make a proper family for you and your child.
2007-08-21 04:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never know if he is happier with you or if he was happier with her because you seeing the negative side of things.
Just concentrate on the baby & yourself for the time being but do keep him in concideration, the other thing is if your heart tells you to get married go for it but if you have doubts dn't do it.
2007-08-21 05:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People learn by making mistakes. It seems that he realized what a mistake he made and now knows what he wants. I can see why you don't want to get married. Don't let him force you into it. You can have a great relationship with him and your baby without being married.
2007-08-21 04:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you have to ask yourself if you really love that man, if your answer is yes then you have to think about what he has done to you and if you're really able to forgive him forever. If you think that you may never trust him again then you shouldn't go back with him because when trust is gone from a relationship, the relationship is also gone
2007-08-21 05:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should be happy because he came bak to you . if he was happier witht the other girl he would of stayed with her and not come bak to you. and if he so badly wants to get married to you then that means he is commited to spend the rest of his life with you because he loves you and no - one else. i mean you have a baby now, he hasnt ditched you, dosent that mean anything? he loves you darling and he came bak to you, now thats some one special! dopnt let him go.
hope iv helped xxx
2007-08-21 05:01:45 · answer #7 · answered by x-sammyxlou-x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a man and in his situation my baby would come first -- even at the expense of my attractions to another woman. granted women don't want that and that's what worries you so much, as it should. if it were me and i was you, i'd take his word that he's with you because he loves you "for the sake of the baby" and wait for more signs otherwise to worry about this fear anymore.
2007-08-21 04:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats on you again you can't blame him and only blame yourself... you split up because he was seeing someone else... this should tell you that he is not worth being with... you cant save a relationship over a family, if he doesn't cheat then that's good but if he does then leave him...
2007-08-21 04:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by I Heart 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours.
Ever heard that? Y'all broke up. He experimented and found that he is happiest with you. Accept it. Now, let him be your boyfriend and the father of his child.
2007-08-21 04:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋