ok i dont mean to seem trashy but i need help... I have had sex 4 times but never once have i been able to have a real orgasim. you see all four times were with 4 different guys (that i was seeing)(not at the same time) and i dont understand why i havnt been able too... is there something wrong with me?? i think i need some tips on what i should do when my boyfriend and i decied its time. your see he is also a virgin so i have had a lil more experiance then him. and i need advice on what to do for our special night. please someone give me tips or advice...
2007-08-20 21:57:22 · 24 answers · asked by kay8807 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok so yes i do masturbate. and i have had an orgasm then.. but not durring sex... You see my boyfriend now is the one i want to spend the rest of my life with. i truely love him and i was so happy when he told me he wanted me to take his virginity. and i know hes not gonna rock my world the first time but i told him that in time he would get better. i just wonder if im doing something wrong too is all
2007-08-20 22:28:20 · update #1
there are many different ways this can happen... experiment on yourself, see what works then put that into sex... most girls like the "grind" maybe do some research if you have trouble.... good luck....
sometimes it take a while to get the hang of it...
2007-08-20 22:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had an orgasm through having sex either and it doesn't bother me one bit because I still totally enjoy it. I once read in Cosmo magazine that some women just can't have them through sex. Some need clitoral stimulation. For me I need powerful stimulation, so I went out and bought a massager and I use it to vibrate the clit area during sex. My guy seems to really like it too! Don't let this bother you. Theres always other ways and it might be fun for you and your boyfriend.
2007-08-21 05:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by beachlvr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-21 05:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not just about having sex. Sex is a mind pleasure, tension reliever, and being passionate and in love with the person you love. First and foremost, I apologize if this may sound a little annoying to you but, if you are only having sex just for the pleasure of it, and fun, or for the sake of experiencing it, then that is not the right way. Although there are those who can enjoy sex to the maximum this way. But, that just it. Not everyone can.
There is nothing wrong with you, but when making love, you need to concentrate, keep focus and feel it. Being in love does help a lot. It is all about being passionate.
2007-08-21 05:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by alkazapper 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes time for two people to know what turns each other on. That is the best way to assure that you will get complete satisfaction. You experiment on each other.
Don't expect him to give you an orgasm with his first experience. He will be so excited that You will be lucky if he lasts 30 seconds. Just be patient and he will get better.
2007-08-21 05:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know this would sound weird coming from a guy, but if you can hear me out that'd be cool.
women often times don't have orgasms during sex because for most women the only way to have one is by stimulating the clitoris. vaginal penetration is one way to achieve a sexual climax, but try having oral sex before really doing "it" this can help, well, "bring you up the mountain" I guess you could say. the clitoris can also become numb from too much stimulation so be sure that there isn't too much. (but i guess you would know that by now being that i'm not talking to a guy)
I hope this helped.
2007-08-21 05:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by rockaholic397 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well he would have to be some kind of a virgin to be able to give you a orgasim his first time....
some guys are better at it the other just give it time it will happen, it has only been 4 times...
2007-08-21 05:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by m V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some girls need to know they are giving their body to a man that resects them..with this in consideration. you don't let go as easy as others do because you don't want to get hurt-----if you understand this,, this is why we should not have sex until we feel very comfortable about it first...we feel when we get to around 13 that we are mature enough to have sex,,, but really we are not---our mind isn't and neither is the body----go to the library and do research on a human body its really amazing what one can learn that we probably thought we knew all about.....do not have sex just because your friend is--or your boyfriends says so---give your body to the one you love and want to be with all your life---then you shouldn't have any problems...
2007-08-21 05:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by lorr1941 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
....to be honest it is very difficult for alot of women to orgasm through soley intercourse....they often need other types of stimulus than just straight sex, such as oral or the other alternative (in other words many women can't orgasm unless her cli**rous is stimulated). Trust me this is very normal. You have to start informing the men of what you want more....otherwise men will just go for straight intercourse...many men don't realize women need that bit of extra assistance. Make sure you ask or you often will never get!!!
2007-08-21 05:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ali 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some girls don't actually experience an orgasm until there 24 theres nothing wrong with it's just the way some women are. But don't worry you'll have yours one day.
2007-08-21 05:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋