Why is it difficult this year to get back into the swing of things?

Question

I have 5 teens ages 15-19. This summer, my home became the hangout for all their friends. So at any given time, there was at least 7 huge, hungry kids lounging around my living room. Trashing the place with cans and dishes and shoes and socks. My husband and I drew back to our bedroom and started spending the majority of our time there. I might mention that the two 19 year olds are "special" and are not able to drive or go anywhere by themselves and one of our 15 year olds seriously broke her arm. My kids NEVER left the house. They are ALL back to school now but I am still holed up in my bedroom. I believe I might be going through a little bit of depression but I thought I might feel better once school started back up. Whats up with this?

Answer 1

Hmmmm, complex this is,..... ether way your use of the term "special" can mean different things, not sure if you hinting at a mental defect, nicly, like some do, are if its more along the lines of physical development? Ether way you letting them push you back in the bedroom, is a tad..... wrong for all of you. For one, NEVER, EVER, BABY PEOPLE, NO NO!!!!! Part of being a parent, a friend, a person who cares, is giving people heck when there doing something thats not up to there standards. I mean if you felt that those kiddos were all met to be neglectful, lazy, slobs, then good job, your raising them right, stay out of there productive way!!! Now if its to make them functioning individuals in our society, NO WONDER YOU FEEL DEPRESS, I WOULD! Your failing them, no personal offense, its just the nature of it, my parents give me hell, and I take care of them (long story, lets just say there "special" to..) but they would let me put a cup out of place if it would save my life, and I love them for the heck they give me, I respect it! It makes me a wonderful person in someone else's house, because unlike there friends, I'd be cleaning up, becasue I feel so much more comfrontable when its clean. Not that I'm anal I can tolerate it, but I'll look at it like, why don't I pick it up? Don't I respect this stuff? Don't I respect a trash can? Ether way, get back to the good business of making things uncomfrontable for them to fail at living up to there full potential. Besides I know disable people of all calibers, they know where trash goes, and they know how to be respectable. Also I know parents that would crig at you putting yourself out in your own home, you not teaching them anything that way, its just this is also extremely important at this age. Because we need to be able to turn to our peers/friends and tell them, hey I can't do that my parents would KILL ME!!! That IS our only shield against peer presure, make sure you give that to them.... espacially there friends, give them more heck for it! They'll learn to love and respect both you and your kids.