My husband comes from a long line of cheater from his mother side of the family! 5 generation to be exact that he knows of Great Gr.grandmother, Great grandmother, Grandmother, his mother, his AUNTS on mother side and his 2 sisters, all have or are cheating on their husbands!
This traumatized my husband SEVERALLY. I was his older sisters best friend growing up and knew family quite well.
During my Divorce I had a problem with my ex. who threaten me an abused me, when my current husband saw me get hit he went to work on the X sent him to hospital!
Our marriage of 10+ years has in fact been a happy one I'm even more in love with my husband today then I was when we first got married, he's been their for me everyday of our marriage helping me out !
My husband has gotten help for his HATRED of CHEATERS who he calls BOTTOM FEEDERS we work on the trust exercises almost everyday together and it help him tremendously and I must also claim improvement in my trust for him & love!
2007-08-20 21:45:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The problem is his mother and Grand mother, who openly discuses their affairs and have no feelings of remorse!
This last time they were over my husband grabbed his mother by hair and dragged her outside and told he to never bring he "DIRTY P***Y here again"!
for the next week my husband went into an almost meltdown situation that for 4 nights he slept on day bed in office!
Things are fine now but my husband fears have made him so perceptive to cheaters that he's taken it on himself to expose them without mercy!
He's getting therapy ( his own doing) and I hope the bad feeling he has for family wont bleed over into our marriage more then it has!
Truth be know I know what it feels like to be cheated on in 1st marriage so I would not do it to him that would be a fate worst then death to him!
So let me ask this anyone know of ways to help him feel more confidant in himself as well as our marriage?
Any suggestion that can be helpful will be greatly appreciated!
Thank you!
2007-08-20 21:45:50 · update #1
Good Lord your husband needs counseling for his anger. Putting someone in the hospital? Grabbing his mom by the hair? That's normal? After all this time there is nothing you can do to get over it. This guys a freak; Anyone that is that insecure and has such a terrible anger problem should not be in a relationship. he's lucky that guy didn't press charges or his mom didn't either.
Your irresponsible for accepting this behaviour; its like your enabling him thinking he's such a victim and poor my husband. You dont' think his anger can go against children? Your just as lost. Your a part of the problem; he physically assaults people and your worried about your poor bottom feeding husband? wow
This guy is an emotional train wreck and there is nothing you can do to help it. He sounds like a friggin idiot. What a nut job. Good luck your going to need it. I'd rather see a cheater than a stupid psycho. What a mess.
2007-08-20 21:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god. Get away from that dude because he's a freakin' psycho! How could he pull his mom by the hair just because she cheats!? That's HIS MOTHER!! Wow, that is MESSED UP. You just don't do things like that to the person who HAD you, RAISED you and MADE you who you are.
Call the cops on that lunatic husband of yours. Who cares if he has issues about cheating? He isn't even sane. Especially if he's flipping out about something that's never happened to him!
Either get him some HARDCORE meds or run for your life, because your hair will probably be the next thing he'll grab. I could see him getting set off by something you did that makes him think you're cheating and absolutely knock you senseless.
Think of this: If he will harm his own MOTHER, what would he do to YOU?
2007-08-20 21:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by dawgdart 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, some adults do not realize the effect they have on children. There is not much that you can do, other than to keep reassuring him that you will always be faithful, and that all women are not like that. I wish both of you happiness. It is nice to know that there are people in this world that value moral character. I sometimes begin to think that there are so few of us left.
2007-08-20 21:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey nice i am really touched by this story...
see y dont u approach sm director it could make a nice movie...
nd if this is a real story i hav pity on u gal no 1 can help it... nywaz i ll pray to god for ur happy life...
god bless u ppl....
2007-08-20 21:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by niks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's definitely a good idea for him to get therapy. I think it's wonderful that you want to help him. Maybe you could ask him this question.
2007-08-20 21:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your husband is dealing with his own demons.all you can do is remain supportive and when a situation comes up where you can be involved do it.
2007-08-20 21:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by Katrina D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there still love there will be ways.
Love is like plant. Water it everyday.
Make him feel so much love that he wouldnt want to leave you.
2007-08-20 21:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by NY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try u best. I think one day he will know
2007-08-20 22:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by kherng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋