S Am feeling really low, dont know what to decide as there is consequences on both side?
My family and his family dont get along
my husband asked me to choose between him together with his parents or MY family.
If i choose him and his family he said i wont be able to speak to my family let alone see them.
If i chose my family - i wont see my hubby again.
I dont know what to do, i dont want to leave him as i love him lots but he doesnt see that
but yet again i miss my family so much i cant bare the thought not being able to talk to them or see them
My family live about 350 miles away (although i dont see them much cuz of the distant i speak to them on the phone 1x week)
hubby knows am upset as he saw me crying on my own.
he told me he wants us to be with his family.
am so depressed
he said i have to leave my family at one point especially being a women
am 24, glad we dont have any kids yet
am so so depressed
i cant speak to him because he made
2007-08-20 23:46:03 · 8 answers · asked by Rosy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
cant speak to him as he made up his mind what he wants
2007-08-20 23:48:57 · update #1
If your husband truly loved you he would NEVER make you choose between him. That is itself is absurd and I would tell him good riddance!
2007-08-20 23:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHOSE your family especially if you love them and there isn't any unhealthy relationships there. Your husband should NEVER NEVER tell you to not speak to your family. it sounds like he is trying to isolate you from your support group and then who knows what next. You'll get pregnant and then you are stuck. Please girl run away, there are wonderful men out there who will do everything they can for you because they love you that much. Don't think about it Drop everything pack up one day while he is gone and go back to your family. You do need to leave your family but that does not mean losing contact with them I am 25 and married and I speak to my mom and my cousin three times a week. My husband supports that and usually picks up the phone if i am not near by and talks to them for a few minutes.
2007-08-21 00:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He tells you to dupe your family and be with his? What does this tell you about him? He thinks family can be cast away easily after years of them taking care and raising you. He doesnt honor a sacred relationship such as family and what'll happen later on when he becomes a father? I dont believe that there is a man who would tell his wife come with me and my family and leave yours truly loves her. The choice is yours and each choice is painful, remember he already made up his mind without regarding your feelings, just be sure that its a choice you will not regret later on in life.
2007-08-21 00:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by Révíán 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are displaying classic battered wife syndrome. OK he hasn't physically assaulted you but he is mentally battering you. There is no way he should be asking you to cut yourself off from your family. I think you know this yourself, this man is not worth your love, he should be supporting you instead of putting you down. There is no reason why you should not stay in touch with your family, he does not have to have anything to do with them if he doesn't want to. The same goes for you, you do not need to have anything to do with his family if you don't want to. If he can't agree with this leave him before you have children and things become more complicated.
2007-08-20 23:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by witchnanny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loved you, he would not ask you to give up your family or your friends. He would instead try to compromise somehow. I would stand my ground. If he leaves you, then he really did not love you in the first place. Just don't let your family interfere with your life with him. Tell them to keep their nose out of your married life. If they love you, they will accept that too!
2007-08-20 23:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may have control issues. Choose your family and dump him before it's too late.
2007-08-20 23:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by M G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go along with his wishes.. Your parents will understand. Be tough and stop crying.. In years to come, he will understand and repent his actions.. I have seen this happpening.. so just make your husband happy for now .
2007-08-20 23:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by AdultMale 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
cant believe he has put you in that position..he obviously doesnt care about your feelings
2007-08-20 23:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by yiddo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋