my ex... is being dificult....
we have a buyer - she is dragging out the sale by not agreeig a date for completion which seems to mean that we cant exchange.
what can i do ?
its a big mortgage that we have to pay, i am paying 3/4 and we split up 15 months ago...
Ahhh... please help !
2007-08-20 23:12:45 · 13 answers · asked by Maximus_Decimus_Meridius 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she wants to be difficult and you loose the sale or in danger of loosing the sale you could do what my husband did with his ex. Stop paying the mortgage to the extreme of it being repossessed this may sound mad/harsh but it makes the final break.
Threaten her with this first and see if she will then budge
2007-08-20 23:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine is going through something similar. She is now with someone else, and wants to sell the house she had with her ex. He, being very bitter about everything, is stalling with as much as possible, ranging from refusing to be available for viewers, to refusing to negotiate the price.
She has had to get a solicitor involved, who basically said that, because they were tenants in common, with a 50/50 share, he could be forced to sell to provide her with her share, or to agree to buy her out for current market value.
If you are both named on the mortgage, then you should be able to agree to a completion date, without her agreement. Also, as the principal mortgage payer, which you should be able to prove from statements etc you have the upper hand if you wanted to try to force her to release your share of the capital. Either that, or you tell her you're going to stop paying 3/4 of the mortgage, only half, until she agrees the completion date.
Either way, if you link this to one of your other questions at the moment, I think this is the time you stop being nice, and bring in the big guns in the form of solicitors. At the very least, you should be able to get some free advice from a local firm - although even if you have to pay for an hour's consult, it might be worth it if it gets a result.
Good luck
2007-08-21 13:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by cranston 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest talking to your solicitor about this and try and get some sort of agreement in writing between yourselves.
If she is being unreasonably difficult, you may be able to do something about it - not sure what exactly, but as you are paying 75% of the mortgage, you might be able to be seen as the 'senior' partner in this, and might be able to force the sale through? Talk with your solicitor!!!!
Maybe someone else out there can advise if this is a valid argument?
2007-08-21 06:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Paul W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are actually divorced than there is a clause in your divorce decree that splits community property. There should be a set time by the Judge that all assets be sold and distributed equally. Talk to your lawyer on the facts.
2007-08-21 08:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by Dee D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the US, you had better tell her that the market for selling houses is going to change very soon. It will be hard to finance a house, even if you have good credit. There have been too many foreclosures due to the ridiculous creative financing they were doing for so long.
2007-08-21 06:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legal help. Citizens Advice, Solicitors etc.
2007-08-21 08:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why you get a prenup, and never go in half for soemthing, or on a long term lease with a woman.
2007-08-21 06:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that, are you still on talking terms? - would it be possible to meet up & explain how unfair she's being to you ? otherwise as others have said solicitors & citizens advice.... Good Luck.
2007-08-21 08:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by Arlene 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get moving with it and slowly make her shes being mean just keeping telling them yes and move on nearly without her she has to sign if she don't get the judge back or something.
2007-08-25 00:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sell your 2/3's lol.
put pressure on your solicitors to put pressure on hers.
is the house in joint names? if not and only in yours, just sell it and give her notice to move out by such and such date.
2007-08-21 06:23:46 · answer #10 · answered by Paul S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋