Since I've been pregnant, sex seems like some forbidden fantasy to me. I ask to have sex all the time and he'll just change the subject or act like he's busy. When I'm not pregnant we do it all the time. I think he's just unattracted to my bubble body even though he says he's not.
2007-08-20 23:28:08 · 38 answers · asked by keri_ricker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he probably doesnt like the idea of sex while there is a baby inside you!
every time i think of it i always imagine im bashing the babies head in with my *****
i know im not but its what i imagine!
i think you will jut have to wait till you give birth!, until then you could just masturbate
2007-08-20 23:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Well, this is a tough one.
First, it might be wise to avoid regular intercourse (not including manual or oral stimulation) in the very late stages of pregnancy because the wrong position could be harmful. I'm no doc, but I believe in the later stages of pregnancy intercourse is best in the "side-by-side" position with penetration from the rear.
Second, your husband may just find it a hassle because he's not very comfortable with the afore mentioned position. In addition, he might even be concerned about potential risk to the fetus - although there is none as far as I know.
Third, men can sometimes run out of sexual steam - particularly if they're over thirty. You will know this for sure only after you've delivered and some months pass.
These are just some possibilities. You should ask him directly why he doesn't feel like sex anymore rather than asking him if he finds your pregnant body unattractive.
2007-08-20 23:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by urbantroubadour 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I know you have needs, but I think you need to be understanding that some men are very uncomfortable with the idea of having sex with their heavily pregnant wife. Mine was for about the last 6-8weeks. You could just explain to him that you have needs and suggest that maybe you could do it in a position where you are facing away from him so he can't see. It's not because he finds you unattractive, I think it's this stupid thought that the baby is right there, like they are gonna poke it in the head or something! Maybe a little out of sight out of mind may work in this case? Good luck.
2007-08-20 23:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by j81s79j06 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There is no way to have sex with a man who isn't in the mood. Fear not, though, as his sex drive will return eventually. One thing you could try, and I'm not saying it will work, is to remind him that with the weight of the baby pushing down; he will feel more physical contact...for what may be the last time...
and btw skunk pie and company..there is nothing in the world more beautiful than a pregnant woman.
2007-08-20 23:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by bg4gb 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This situation is very common in worldwide relationships and marriages.
Although, I'm by no means an expert on heterosexual sex-lives, I recommend trying to spice up the sexual fantasies the both of you have.
If it's sexual interaction you want, then I'll explain what I have suggested. Explore, simple as that.
If you or he has a fantasy, explore it.
Humans aren't like animals, you can't exactly throw some horrid odor on your body that will attract the oppisite sex signaling a want or need for sexual intercourse.
But I do recommend exploring or maybe even watching a "play movie" together.
I hope this helps, as I said in the beginning, I'm by no means an expert on heterosexual ordeals.
Oh, one more thing..it may worry him, the pregnancy, so you may want to ensure him that everything is alright. =) Hope I helped.
2007-08-20 23:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It may not be that he is not attracted to you, many guys are afraid to have sex with a woman when she is pregnant. Have him go to the next OBGYN appointment with you and when the both of you are there, ask you doc if it is okay for you to have sex while you are pregnant. So many guys think that they will hurt the baby and hearing it from the OBGYN will often help them relax and enjoy it. Unless you are having a troubled pregnancy, it is fine to have sex up until your water breaks and as along as it is comfortable for you.
2007-08-21 02:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
buy a vibrator and as soon as he climbs in bed (you know before he starts snoring) start buzzing. When he asks what the noise is, guide his hand in the right direction. If he doesn't get the picture....well he'd have to be male.....you might suggest different positions. From behind ( sort of you sitting on his lap just you on your back him on his side) seemed to work best for us, that gives him ample opportunity to play with your now also bubbly boobs!!!!!!!! and if he doesn't take the bait....welll at least you've got the vibrator! LOL
2007-08-20 23:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Nati 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think pregnant woman is more attractive cos of the swollen breast, plump vagina etc. I think your husband might be worry that he would hurt you or the kid during make love.
Openly tell him your needs and a sure him that it won't hurt you or the baby. Maybe you can seduce him like wearing sexy dress of being naked infront of him. Try to start with kisses etc.
Good luck.
2007-08-20 23:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Roohan Selvan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This does seem to happen a lot when the woman is pregnant but it's not always the guy who doesn't want it - there are a lot of cases where the woman doesn't want to have sex and you sometimes find the guy's a bit nervous anyway ! I would ask your husband what's wrong and go from there :o)
2007-08-20 23:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Some men think that sex will hurt the baby. It is doubtful that he finds you unattractive. If your sex life returns to normal after the baby, then everything will be OK. You may have to resort to pleasuring yourself until the baby is born.
2007-08-20 23:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Of course he is not going to tell you that he finds you unattractive. Men are not that stupid. However, that is how it is.
"Since your husband is not taking care of your needs, find a lover. It is not like you will get pregnant.
2007-08-21 04:23:07 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋