Marriage & Divorce - 31 December 2007

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and he wants us to have a baby. He's a very responsible individual (more than I). However, he won't even think of us moving into together unless I'm pregnant. He says I'm rushing him on that, but he's rushing on having a child. I told him if he wants to have a child we at least need to be living with each other first. I would prefer marriage before having a child, but at least living together is a start for a stable home. He says that he loves me and that time is running out for kids and that we can worry about moving in later. I would love for us to have a child together, but not sure if I'm wanting to compromise myself that far.

2007-12-31 03:38:35 · 32 answers · asked by Courtney B 1

I called him to apologize for being in a silly argument and wanted him to say the same for screaming & cussing at me. I checked our bank & noticed an expedited $8 mail fee, called & asked what was going on and he said Guess!?!

Alright, so he's leaving me, naturally I say just dont come home... why would I wana hear from someone who I had Christmas plans with that night that they are divorcing me.

We live in the state of Texas, we were married 01-23-2004 in Arkansas... in September of 2006 he finally convinced me & my disabled dad to move to Texas... we have NO way to move from here now.

He gave me $100 last week & yes I took $350 from OUR account to pay bills because I couldnt understand what was going on & I had to do something.

Now he doesnt want to do anything else to help me, my dad [who has lived with us & helped us TREMENDOUSLY] or OUR dogs..

I cannot get state help because I have a job, its not a grand job that'll carry us thru without him. Any advice or guidance for me

2007-12-31 03:32:17 · 27 answers · asked by pezkandydoll 2

2007-12-31 03:25:00 · 17 answers · asked by jose p 1

Okay I was wondering if this is weird. My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We are very much in love and are happy. But my friend was telling me that our sex life is off. Okay...we watch porn(sometime together and sometime not), I cyber and we flirt but we have the best sex afterwards. I support him masterbating and he does me and we are happy. I figure when we are doing these things its like our type of foreplay. No we havent went outside the marriage to have sex or anything with other people. But she was telling me it was basically nasty what we did. It work and been working threw our dating and threw seven years of marriage. Is it that bad or weird?

2007-12-31 03:24:36 · 20 answers · asked by Jenn 4

if your partner is keen on the idea of putting it in your bum does it mean he has gay tendencies, is curious, or is just adventurous?

2007-12-31 03:19:23 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Did some catching up with my cousin over the holidays with her new set of twins, only to find out that she is in an abusive relationship with the babies' father. Not only are they physically fighting each other, he is biting her!

I can't remember if I've read somewhere or heard someone mention this, but is it true that in an abusive relationship, if the male begins to bite, he will likely end up killing her? The biting comes from a canine instinct in some males to bite or kill in anger?

I've entered various forms of my question on Google, but I'm in a loop and the information presented is not answering my question. Does anyone have a site link that they can forward to help save my cousin from this relationship?

2007-12-31 03:18:44 · 18 answers · asked by cookies 2

My boyfriend and I have been dating since April 2005 and have been talking since September 2004. I am 29 and he is 28. I brought up the subject of marriage in December 2006 and he said that he wanted to think about it for a while. So I brought it up again this December 2007 and he says that he doesn't know if he wants to get engaged in 2009 or 2010. At this time, he doesn't want to get married but has told me that I am wife material and would make a great wife, but doesn't think that he would make a good husband at this point. (He didn't say why).
I respect his answer, but I am ready to get married and to start having children. I am very much in love with him, but since I feel that he's not in love with me, I want to break up or either take a break and possibly get back together later? What should I do?

2007-12-31 03:05:41 · 29 answers · asked by Hurt 1

our children range from 12-16, i just want the children to be happy, and my husband, i have hurt him badly

2007-12-31 03:00:17 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-31 02:35:59 · 31 answers · asked by Ladybug P 1

He has been cheating on me for almost 6 months, Has called me all sorts of names. I left him two weeks after i found out he was cheating and one week after i found out i was pregnant. I still love him but i have gone through so much to finally make it on my own. I am supposed to start college in the summer, which prolly wont happen if i get back with him. I dont want to break up my family. I know its my own choice and i'm very religious and know what god thinks about divorce but there is a passage in the bible that says "if he strays let him go". I'm litterally in a catch 22 with every moral value i have based my life on. Should we really have to put aside our dreams for love and family? I have three kids not including my 7mo old fetus. He has the kids everyweekend and is a good daddy just made a big mistake. He wants to be a good husband but i don't know how i can let him or tell him no or move on without him. He begged me back crying last night. Opinions only

2007-12-31 02:32:26 · 48 answers · asked by Christine D 2

My wife and I have been married three years; been together for 9 years. We fight everyday. She is overly controlling. She is bipolar. I love her when she is in a good mood, but I feel I can certainly live without her. I am unhappy and do not see myself with her for the rest of my life. We are very very different people.

I HATE arguing but she always seems to drag me into one.

And thankfully, we have no kids. I grew up in a home with lots of arguing and violence and if my kids end up in a household like that, it will break my heart.

It seems I have answered my own question, but I would appreciate input and advice.

Thanks.

2007-12-31 02:29:50 · 26 answers · asked by mike b 1

My boyfriend is always broke! He barely makes enough for his car payments, insurance, and cell phone bill. I feel that he has obviously put too much on his plate.
We don't live together yet, but we're moving in together in July 2008. I have a severe fear of money problems, and I can't seem to find a way to get him straightened out! I love him to death, and we've been talking recently about getting married, but I'm scared to marry someone who isn't financially stable! Help??

2007-12-31 02:25:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was with the same guy for 6 years (lived with for 3) and this past August, he finally asked me to marry him. Of course I said yes and for the most part we were very happy. Well on Christmas eve we got into a fight. After much proding on his part (calling me childish) I said the relationship might almost be over and he said it was. So I took off the ring and gave it back to him, all the while not really meaning it. I got the ring back but he says it's still over and he wants me to move out. He says we both have growing up to do and he doesn't want to be a burdon to me anymore. Yet I can't stop loving him and caring about him. He says he doesn't anymore. How could his feelings change so fast? We've been so happy and had many plans for the future.

2007-12-31 02:19:26 · 17 answers · asked by gothicbabe2000 2

Let's say you have an opinion about something that you feel very strong about. (we'll use gambling in this discussion) Your significant other knows that you are opposed to gambling which takes away financially from your family. You've expressed yourself and this issue has even caused medical problems for you (high blood pressure) but to no concern (you feel) they continue.
Does this mean to you that the other person basically just doesn't care about your feelings or are you just being too mean?
Answer honestly. I don't use names for my research just answers.
Thank you in advance and Happy 2008!
Please note that I am asking this for research purposes only. I'm gathering information about marriage and relationships in general.

2007-12-31 02:18:36 · 16 answers · asked by okiemom67 3

I am currently 17 years old. I graduate highschool in 4 months and I am already dually enrolled in college. My boyfriend is a United States Marine. We met when I was 14 but just got together a year ago. He is currently serving in Iraq and will be home about the same time I graduate. He is 20yrs old. I know he is going to pop the ? when he gets back and I love him and want to be with him FOREVER! We do not plan on getting married until I graduate college (2yrs) but is this too young to be considering marriage. I know deep down I am ready for this with him but I know my parents are going to freak out. What do you guys think?

2007-12-31 02:18:04 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my husband I really do but after miscarriging for the second time every little thing is bothering me. I am becoming enrage with jealousy and female friends. I feel overwhelmed always crying and down. I know he tries to understand it's just hard for him. I am tired of crying and being upset I need some sort of help. What can I do to get over the miscarriage and get back to be a good friend, lover and wife.

2007-12-31 02:16:02 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can one file a divorce in colorado for a marriage that was performed in New York

2007-12-31 02:10:31 · 13 answers · asked by voodoo 2

Just wondering on general opinions about getting married young. I personally plan on getting married around 23-24 after daying my boyfriend for over 3 years. (I'm 22 now.) We personally think that it's not too young at all, and it'll actually be easier on me and boyfriend to be together earlier since we can't live together until we married.

My cousin got married at 19 to a 24 year old guy and they've lived happily together for the last 10 years, no problems.

Recently a friend of mine got married at 22 to a 25 year old guy, and they seem very down-to-earth and happy with the marriage.

A family friend's daughter just got married at 18 to a 19 year old. I feel less comfortable with this because they're practically out of high school, not college.


How young is too young? When do you think someone is old enough to make such an important decision about their life?

2007-12-31 02:09:26 · 24 answers · asked by Evoo 4

me and my co worker were closed, flirting each other until i fell in love,he is 46 (he is single never married)and iam 40...........the story----- i mentioned i am separated...... i said, im in love, i love you...... then left right away....next day he said --what you said same feelings......we cant talk cuz its working time......its our day off, i phoned him 5times, text messages, he never called....my messages are -where are you,just start our relation youre hurting me ,have time for me too.............when we were in the clock in, i asked you are not answering my calls.......he was mad,raised voices.......saying STOP HARRASSING, IM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU.........was like a bomb explode and i was hit........he never gave me the chance to talk and you know what he even reported this to the management for harrassing.......... right now, just like we dont know each other.

2007-12-31 01:56:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I keep falling for my husbands bull crap why? He left me two years ago. I recently spent the night talking with this guy and had a wonderful time. My hubby found out and started coming around more than he was he was coming around about everyday anyway. He started saying maybe he wants to be married again staying the night. I love my husband and always have. Then after finding out my mom has cancer thats treatable we found out theres a spot on her lung and spine. Then I went up north to help my dad with his brother who is going to die any like minute now. My father and uncle are the best guys in the world I feel so bad for the both of them. I came back down last night and asked my husband what hes going to do tonight for new years eve thinking he said he would be with me. Now he says he doesn't want to spend it with me and he came over christmas slept half the day and left and so I spent christmas after my kids left to family members houses by myself. why do i fall for his crap.

2007-12-31 01:53:16 · 16 answers · asked by youcandoit 4

2007-12-31 01:49:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend of 2 years blurted out the other day that he "tag teamed" his cousins ex girlfriend with his cousin....
I know its in the past and I know its not my place to feel jealous and I know he didnt cheat on me because I didnt even know him when it happened.... but am I over-reacting by feeling a bit akward about this?

2007-12-31 01:46:31 · 18 answers · asked by He moonwalked on my <3 4

My daughter has a bad head cold. Of course when she is on her cold stuff she is feels better. At my Church we are having a New Years Eve Party and she really wants to go but I am not sure if that is wise because of her being sick. My question is this, what do you think?

2007-12-31 01:43:47 · 24 answers · asked by conny 6

I have been married for two years and WE HAVE TWO KIDS but i have never orgasmed with my husband. i have had several relationships in the past, about three guys but none of them could make me climax. Does is it mean i have a problem. I do masturbate and i orgasm on my own, but i want to feel it with my husband. he feels frustrated because he cannot make me orgasm. i dont know if he thinks i am a freak or frigid. he also might start having affairs, HELP ME PLEASE.

2007-12-31 01:43:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-31 01:32:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well, in 50-ies a man supported a family, and the women cooked, washed, cleaned and do on. Fair is fair.
Now they do NOT want to support their families, they say that women and men are "equal" (men have periods and pregnancies, too), and women go out, work, and contribute heavily to the family budget.
Why, a man is not even supposed to place as roof over his wife and children heads, because he is "equal"!
So, when these women come home from work, they find a husband watching TV, drinking beer and shouting for a "family dinner"!
Don't the dear ge-ges have HANDS to cook it for themselves and all their family since they do not even work that long? I mean, they came home first, and wait for a wife to arrive from work and serve them a dinner, and it's called "equal"?

2007-12-31 00:56:20 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I are having marriage problems, we will be going to marriage councling next week. We do fight all the time, about very trival stuff. Most of the time I don't remember what is about untill she brings the confrontation back up. I do love my wife, but I've read the other day about how couples fight over things that they are not mad about, and not getting to the heart of the problem. She wants to advoid fighting for a week, which sounds like a good idea, so that we can become friends again. One of my many problems is that I don't give enough positive renforcement to my wife. If I try now I'm afraid that she wouldn't take me seriously. My question is how do I accomplish this without sounding like a fake. I don't want to fool my wife I want to sinsear with this.

2007-12-31 00:43:21 · 9 answers · asked by sec8_cm 1

My gf was working with someone on a music project, HE fell in love with her. I told her that he was manipulating her. She kept working with him, he confronted me for being her boyfriend, a position he feels he should have and I gave him a proper beat down. I told her all the while he wanted to break us up. Now she's regretful for ever having worked with him, how can I forgive her for continuing to work with this guy in the past to spite my my warnings?

2007-12-31 00:37:25 · 16 answers · asked by Angry Insightful Black 3

2007-12-31 00:37:02 · 30 answers · asked by rokwad2007 1

my husband and i are going out to dinner tonight and he is a recovering alcholic and he just told me he wanted to have a drink with dinner give me some feedback please, should a recovering alcholic even dring one drink, or it that just opening up a can of worms

2007-12-31 00:34:29 · 11 answers · asked by kathy m 2