My boyfriend of 2 years blurted out the other day that he "tag teamed" his cousins ex girlfriend with his cousin....
I know its in the past and I know its not my place to feel jealous and I know he didnt cheat on me because I didnt even know him when it happened.... but am I over-reacting by feeling a bit akward about this?
2007-12-31 01:46:31 · 18 answers · asked by He moonwalked on my <3 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Frank R my father loves him.... like a son.
2007-12-31 01:52:05 · update #1
If by threesome you mean he had sex with his cousin and the girl...then run!!! But it sounds more like him and his cousin both had sex with the same girl at the same time..BIG DIFFERENCE. I could see you being upset if he were with 2 women at the same time and was bringing it up in hopes of you agreeing to something similar but this does not seem to be the case either...how did the info come out? Did he mention it out of the blue or were you discusssing a subject and he was being truthful rather than cover up something you may find out about one day?
Have you been honest with him on every sexual experience you had before him? maybe you did something in your past that he would find appalling, judge on the person you have been with for 2 years not things that happened in the past.
2007-12-31 05:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by cowbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how you feel about 3 somes and whether you have had them or would have them yourself. If you answered no to my questions, then YES you should feel odd about it. Also, it's not like you just met him a couple of months ago. 2 years is a long time to withhold important information about a person's sexual past. Besides it being awkward, doing it with his cousin is actually disgusting and just makes him plain old weird. YUCK!
2007-12-31 03:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by SWEETYPI 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well there are some things that you just keep to yourself especially if you have been with each other for two years now. I would wonder why after us being together for so long why he was bringing this up to me now? If I were you I would be asking him that question. I would also let him know that this makes you look at him differently and makes you feel uncomfortable because to you it was an act of being with someone that was just plain nasty and you had more respect for him before he decided to inform you being like that with people that have no respect for themselves and not think about those life threatening diseases that are out there. I would inform my boyfriend now that any intimacy that you have shared with him has been out of true feelings ...and now he has put this ugly picture of himself in your head when the two of you get sexually close. I sware....sometimes I wonder what guys are thinking when they tell us some things we don't care to know. Are they bragging? Do they think it turns us on about them? What are they thinking???? Are they so stupid and hurtful that we think WOW...my boyfriend is really sexy to me now because he is so experienced? Honestly your guy was really dumb for giving you that lovely picture of the cousin thing. If you go around this cousin you will never get past the image of the sexual escapade they shared together.
2007-12-31 02:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be as bothered by what he did (though I do think it's disgusting).. as the fact that he did it with a relative! That's just sick..
But you're right, it was in his past.. before you even knew each other. So, in that sense.. it shouldn't really effect your relationship now. I guess you just need to decide if you can handle being with him, knowing he did that. Also, I think that the way he talks about what he did, should say a lot too. Like, for example.. was he bragging about it, or just telling you? If it's something he seems "proud" of, I would think that would be a definate red flag.. well, it would be for me anyways.
I don't know.. I've not been in that situation before. My husband and I know everything about each others past, and even our worst doesn't even almost compare to that. I'm not sure I could have even been with my husband, if he had told me something like that. I just think it's absolutely disgusting..
Just talk to your guy, and let him know how you feel about what he told you. You're the only one who can decide if this is something you can deal with..
Have a great day!
2007-12-31 02:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not feel comfortable with a guy who has been involved in a threesome, that is your right. No one can tell you to be comfortable.
Jerry Seinfeld did a show about being involved in a threesome. As he said, once you do that you join a different sexual league.
If you are not comfortable with the guy then tell him that.
Take care,
Troy
2007-12-31 02:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happen before you, could it be you are bothered by the fact your boyfriend did a 3some, some people think thats gross,maybe you should find out more about your boyfriend past, so it want be know more surprises,and take it from there.
2007-12-31 02:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by priscilla h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With his cousin??? Ok, I'd be sick too.
2007-12-31 02:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by *Almost ready* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be upset about the fact that he would even do that sort of thing yes. Makes you wonder if he still fantasizes about doing it again. I wouldnt want someone that did that or might still want to. Its not a matter of jealousy I dont think.....its a matter of morals. Would Frank R approve of this behavior?? I doubt it
2007-12-31 02:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by jslorri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bet your dad wouldn't love him like a son if he knew this little tidbit about him.
It's OK to feel awkward about this confession. There are too many unanswered questions to go with it.
What was the purpose of him telling you this? Is he trying to prep you for the time he will return the favor for his cousin with you? Does he want you to have a three way with him? He did this with his cousin (male?). Does he like guys, too?
You need to talk with him to discover the reason for him telling you this. Then you can decide if it is an issue you can or can't live with.
2007-12-31 02:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a personal question of your own and is not at all becoming. you need to make this decision on your own what to do can you live with whats been done don't lay dirty laundry out for all to see take care of it at home. if you can't make a rash
decision break up with whoever it is ...over-reacting he was acting as a low lifer at the time.
2007-12-31 01:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋