2007-12-31 01:49:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Rather than marrying the woman against whom you have a No Contact Order and then trying to hide it from your probation officer, why don't you try being responsible, instead of being a sneak? Get the NCO lifted, and then you can enjoy your fiancee/wife without having to worry about your PO finding out and putting you in jail (which she will when she finds out you committed a new criminal offense, violated your conditions of probation, and lied to her)...
And get some counseling for your behavior that led to the NCO...
2008-01-03 13:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by IN PO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that late teen to early 20's is just about the right age for divorce then 16 -18's not to young. Your parents "what the hell are you thinking" response is really quite appropriate to the situation. I know that at 14 you're looking for an answer that gives approval and not good advice. The law you refer to is there for a reason. I presume your boyfriend is 16 now and he probably feels he is quite serious about your relationship just as you do. Both of you have years of growing to do, both emotional and physical, and therein lies the problem. If the both of you could remain on a 14-16 yo mental level the rest of your lives then your families could continue to support you and all would be well. But, that doesn't happen to be what takes place. What does happen is you grow and mature and tend to put childhood infatuations behind you. When that begins is the end of the forever relationship you now have. Do a little serious research on your own and find out the statistics on extremely young marriages and how many are successful compared to the ones that leave a wreck in their aftermath.
2016-05-28 05:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by bev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she finds out maybe you will get a chance to explain it to a judge.
Does your GF knwo about your past the truth will come out eventually.
Be honest with yourself and her and tell your PO. THe PO can really make it hard for you if they feel that you are being honest.
The Provbation department will take a dim view of this bevavior.
2007-12-31 02:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by will_955 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you can't own or possess a weapon or vote any longer. But you don't have the right to get married too?
Why not just tell your parole officer, or send them a copy of your marriage certificate.
Or is your fiance in some kind of trouble and you're not supposed to associate with her on some level?
2007-12-31 02:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a real smart way to start off a marriage, by lying to her? Very stupid!!!!
2007-12-31 01:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by conny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it has nothing to do with your probation then there is no reason to tell her. My opinion of POs is tell them only what is relevant to the situation, that is your probation. Your personal life is not her concern UNLESS it DIRECTLY correlates with your probation. So take that for what its worth.
UPDATE==============
I guess some people relate this to being a "violation" of your probation and is not. you need to report all police contacts and arrests and such but your marriage is really none of his/her business. Certainly there isn't a reason to keep it from her but if you don't tell her then your fine. As far as being able to own a gun and vote, lol, I mean come one people, thats only if your convicted of a felony we/I have no idea what this person is on probation for, and I personally don't care. You will NOT get violated for NOT telling your PO. I agree that being honest with your PO is always the BEST route to go but thats up to you if you tell him/her. You also need to look at if this is a state or government probation agency or a private one. IF its private they generally don't have access to private government databases, however they do have access to public records just as anyone does. But given their case load I don't imagine they are going to the court house or getting online and looking up data on every person they handle. This is why they ask you as they don't have the time to do so.
This is not my opinion this is simply the facts.
2007-12-31 01:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Slick 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course your PO will find out, they do have access to all of your records at the court house.
2007-12-31 01:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends what you are on probation for, but always disclosing important information would be wise from the beginning.
2007-12-31 01:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by Tower Of Strength 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No but why can't you tell her. If it is because your spouse is a convicted felon or has children and you are not allowed to be around children then you could be sent to jail. Better to follow the rules and marry later if at all.
2007-12-31 01:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure she could find out, but why wouldn't you just tell her, it will not effect your probation.
2007-12-31 01:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by *MrS. PrIsS* 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋