Marriage & Divorce - 25 December 2007

I'm not stupid. I found a very expensive piece of jewelry and a sappy love card that my husband had bought and I assumed he was going to give me for Christmas. We exchanged presents and the jewelry never made a showing. Thinking that he was being cute I snuggled with him and asked him, "Is that all?" And he laughed and hugged me back and said, "That's everything but me."

Well... I kept waiting and it became obvious that he wasn't giving me anything else. I wasn't sure what to make of it at first but he is going to be out of town for Christmas, he said for work. He has been acting funny for awhile, saying he was working over and staying late an often lot, I'm not asking if people think he is cheating. I made that mistake in my last question and received some rude answers.

What I want to know is how do I approach him with this? I have had my suspicions but this present thing, it can't be put off or ignored and I want to ask him about it. How should I go about it?

2007-12-25 23:52:00 · 15 answers · asked by Bailey J 2

2007-12-25 23:39:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

**serious answers only**

2007-12-25 23:17:07 · 27 answers · asked by Drews Princess 4

....is a good man, with good family values and wants to do well for himself and his wife and possibly have stuff in common?

I am thinking long term.....as I tend to see a lot of couples who decide after a while they do not fancy one another any more and then go off one another......

I have seen him on a dating site but not met him yet. I can honestly say I don't fancy him at all by the pics I have seen of him but he is a lot of traits I am looking for......so unsure if I should give it a go?

I have not dated a man for 8 yrs (that includes snogged etc) and sometimes I do think to myself....I really wish I could have a kiss and cuddle with someone. So I think even if I didn't fancy him....at first....because I am err a bit desperate at the moment....I might end up fancying him. What do you think?

2007-12-25 23:04:42 · 27 answers · asked by Blue_Bell 1

Just looking for chat with married women. I dont see anything wrong with harmless flirting . Does anyone know any sites that are good for this ?

2007-12-25 23:00:43 · 8 answers · asked by Qurious 2

2007-12-25 22:59:42 · 34 answers · asked by dhanurdhari1987 1

For many years I had really very long hair, my boyfriend always told me he liked it. A while back some of his University friends came over for dinner and after we had a few drinks, & when chatting one of them said she was amazed he liked me because his girlfriends had always had short hair and to my surprise he agreed!. I became so obsessed and worried about it I went to two hairdressers one after the other and asked them to cut it short , had it completely cropped and cried bitter tears when I came home. But when he saw it although shocked at first he admitted he really liked it. At work some of the girls make fun of me and said that I look “butch” and I now feel so unfeminine when I look in the mirror but I I so want to please him I wonder how do convince him to let me grow it again without hurting him or worrying that he doesn’t find me attractive?

2007-12-25 22:57:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-25 22:54:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

normal BUT he is planning to get maried to a 20 years old.who is younger of all of his children is this normal,do I have the right to talk to him about the huge gab between the two of them?????

2007-12-25 22:46:31 · 17 answers · asked by farha h 1

for the reason that my husband refuses to get a job and support his children? Will a judge let me take my kids out of state where cost of living is less and my parents are near so that I can support them on my own? I am currently living in NY state.

2007-12-25 21:34:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-25 21:13:28 · 12 answers · asked by Alex R 3

I just courious why older woman get married to younger guy, and why this guy wants her??is it love or financial benefit?? Why this young guy try so hard to approach her.Any opinion of yours??Speak up your mind plz...

2007-12-25 20:25:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

When when their boyfriend/husband watches porn that it's cheating? Even if they want to watch it as a couple some woman become insecure and angry. Why is this? I'm not talking about porn addictions either. I'm refering to oocasional porn watching in a normal relationship.
I watch porn and my husband watches porn too. Nothing in excess either. It spices up our relationship and i dont feel insecure about him watching the woman on the TV, its just a fricking movie. I dont understand, is it low self esteem or something? I dont compare myself to those woman, and my husband knows this. Its just visual stimulation for us.

2007-12-25 20:03:54 · 12 answers · asked by USMCgrlandMommy 6

My sister and her partner are not married. Precisely what does this mean and are there any legal barriers to not having their parents married when the children grow up. What are the social implications in some social circles. Thanks

2007-12-25 20:01:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've known this girl for about 3.5 years, about 6 months ago she accepted to be my g/f finally, though we have been seeing each other for those past years with no title, we've been intimate since the beginning, and we talk every day, there were a few times we didnt talk to each other, cause we got mad at each other, but overall i love her, and will do anything for her and her boys. She was married about 5 years ago, so she tells me she has to be really sure about her next relationship, When i talk about a relationship she always tells she has no time for more than a b/f g/f relationship because of school, kids, work. my frustration is that i want more, i want her to be my wife, but i'm sure she will say no, and i just don't know what to do. it's been a long time and i dont want to waste another 2 or 3 years waiting, but at the same time i love her. i've talked to her and she keeps saying thats all she can give me, but i dont have assurance that it eventually lead to something?

2007-12-25 19:54:33 · 4 answers · asked by jack a 1

My wife and I are in the Army, and Im in Iraq right now, my wife is in Korea. We are both 20, and we were high school sweethearts.
We have lived apart now for over a year (due to the Army), and two weeks before I left for Iraq, she said she wanted a divorce (out of nowhere!), and it absolutely destroyed me. She was having hormonal issues due to a shot she was given for endometriosis, but she was so cold. So cold.
Ive given much more to our relationship than she has. She knows I have as well.

Im just so miserable here during all the time I spend not at work, because I cant stop thinking about her.
She said this week that her hormonal issues are gone (no more heat flashes, etc), and she wants me back. I gave her the cold shoulder for a few days to test her out, to see if she really changed. She hasnt sincerely apologized, and now says she doesnt know if she wants to make it work.
Im so lost, Im so confused, and I never knew a woman could make me feel so depressed. What should I do

2007-12-25 19:53:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-25 19:43:38 · 15 answers · asked by MALIK 1

i'm married 7 year ago .ihave no happiness in my life even thoug after having 2kids.husband have no responsbility.now recently i'm having financial problem because my husband is not working properly.i can't cover everithing with my salary.i,m worried about my future & my 2 beautiful kids

2007-12-25 19:39:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Since i was told girls there do not allowed to meet and even talk to the stranger..So how ppl they meet each other and get married?

2007-12-25 19:39:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

it always seems most of the time when a relationship ends, it's the woman ending it, and she usually doesn't return. on those occasions the man leaves, it seems he is more likely to return to that relationshp than the women is to return. that's what i've seen. do you agree with that?

2007-12-25 19:02:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to know what people don't consider of when they think of marriage. Is it really different from what people imagine? And also if you can, give your age. Is marriage worth it?

2007-12-25 19:00:20 · 18 answers · asked by sweetdreams 2

Specific stats would be great

2007-12-25 18:57:58 · 14 answers · asked by Lotsa Q 1

If you could choose between spending Christmas Day with your family (wife and four young, gorgeous, extremely well-behaved children!) or going to work with the lure of triple-time pay, which would you choose?
Financial situation: not rich, not desperately poor either. Own home, no mortgage (paid off), a little credit card debt (not excessive), no other loans or large bills, only a modest income on a week to week basis now though.
Would you stay with your family?
Or is the lure of triple-time pay really that strong for you?
Please tell me what you think you would honestly choose in that situation. Work hours mean not home till 9pm (kids in bed normally at 8.00 - 8.30)
What would you do?
All answers very greatly appreciated. Honesty please! Thank you!

2007-12-25 18:43:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

WHAT can be done to help women who are victims of violence? First, one has to understand what they are going through. Often the harm inflicted by batterers is more than physical. Verbal threats and intimidation are usually involved, so that the victim is made to feel worthless and helpless.

spouse abuse is a complex subject. To be of support, listen with compassion. Remember, it is usually quite difficult for a victim to talk about what has been happening to her. Your goal should be to strengthen the victim as she deals with the situation at her own pace.Some battered women may need to seek assistance from the authorities. At times, a point of crisis—such as the intervention of the police—can cause an abusive man to see the seriousness of his actions. Admittedly, however, any motivation to change often vanishes once the crisis has passed.
Should the battered wife leave her husband? The Bible does not treat marital separation lightly. At the same time, it does not oblige a battered wife to stay with a man who jeopardizes her health and perhaps her very life. The Christian apostle Paul wrote: "If she should actually depart, let her remain unmarried or else make up again with her husband." (1 Corinthians 7:10-16) Since the Bible does not forbid separation in extreme circumstances, what a woman does in this matter is a personal decision. (Galatians 6:5) No one should coax a wife to leave her husband, but neither should anyone pressure a battered woman to stay with an abusive man when her health, life, and spirituality are threatened.

Is There Hope for Batterers?

Spouse abuse is a brazen violation of Bible principles. At Ephesians 4:29, 31, we read: "Let a rotten saying not proceed out of your mouth . . . Let all malicious bitterness and anger and wrath and screaming and abusive speech be taken away from you along with all badness."No husband who claims to be a follower of Christ can really say that he loves his wife if he abuses her. If he were to mistreat his wife, of what value would all his other good works be? A "smiter" does not qualify for special privileges in the Christian congregation. (1 Timothy 3:3; 1 Corinthians 13:1-3) Galatians 5:19-21; 2 John 9, 10.

Can violent men change their behavior? Some have. Usually, however, a batterer will not change unless he (1) admits that his conduct is improper, (2) wants to change his course, and (3) seeks help. Jehovah's Witnesses have found that the Bible can be a powerful influence for change. Many interested ones who study the Bible with them have developed a strong desire to please God. Concerning Jehovah God, these new Bible students learn that "anyone loving violence His soul certainly hates." (Psalm 11:5) Of course, for a batterer to change his behavior involves more than not hitting. It also entails learning a whole new attitude toward his wife. When a man gains knowledge of God, he learns to view his wife not as a servant but as a "helper" and not as inferior but as one to be 'honored.' (Genesis 2:18; 1 Peter 3:7) He also learns compassion and the need to listen to his wife's viewpoint. (Genesis 21:12; Ecclesiastes 4:1) The program of Bible study that Jehovah's Witnesses offer has helped many couples. There is no room for a despot, tyrant, or bully in the Christian family.—Ephesians 5:25, 28, 29.

"The word of God is alive and exerts power." (Hebrews 4:12) Thus, the wisdom contained in the Bible can help couples to analyze the problems they face and give them the courage to deal with them. More than that, the Bible contains the sure and comforting hope of seeing a world without violence when Jehovah's heavenly King rules over all obedient mankind. The Bible says: "He will deliver the poor one crying for help, also the afflicted one and whoever has no helper. From oppression and from violence he will redeem their soul."—Psalm 72:12, 14.

2007-12-25 18:43:03 · 3 answers · asked by Messager 1

I had my husband arrested tonight for hitting our 4 year old in the face really hard and leaving welts where his fingers were.

This is the first time he ever did it, but I panicked and I didn't want a second time, so I called the cops on him right away and he has been arrested.

My family, his family, everyone seems to think I should have just talked to him about it. We've been married for years now and I've never seen him act this way before, but it scared me enough to want to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Was I wrong for calling him him? I feel like I've ruined his life now and that I should feel guilty about it- but I feel like if I hadn't done it, then I would have been being a bad mom and not protecting my child.

2007-12-25 18:38:40 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why sex life should be good and healthy between a couple after marriage?

2007-12-25 18:36:06 · 16 answers · asked by shwet 2

2007-12-25 18:34:36 · 11 answers · asked by stuck in Florida 1

2007-12-25 18:34:33 · 15 answers · asked by russel john 1

How do you share ur work at home? Is it only ladies have to do the cooking if both are working?

What to do? How do you divide your work?

2007-12-25 18:33:56 · 5 answers · asked by jenni 1

how do you overcome a restraining order if you feel the other girl wants to see you? we had a breakup and got into a huge fight - she cheated and i said some thing like threatening to go to her ex husband where she would lose her custody.i didn't mean it. before we had the chance to talk about it - she filed a temporary restraining order. the argument was over another guy she began seeing while she was with me for two months. i went over to her place when i wasn't supposed to so i could pour my heart out, and was afraid i was losing her to the other guy. she called the police. the restraining order went permanent. in the last four months, she has heard through friends why our relationship fell apart and now she understands and wishes she could see me, but she's very scared of losing custody b/c if she drops the restraining order, her ex will use it against her in her current custody battle. what could i do in this situation b/c i still love her?

2007-12-25 18:32:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous