I'm not stupid. I found a very expensive piece of jewelry and a sappy love card that my husband had bought and I assumed he was going to give me for Christmas. We exchanged presents and the jewelry never made a showing. Thinking that he was being cute I snuggled with him and asked him, "Is that all?" And he laughed and hugged me back and said, "That's everything but me."
Well... I kept waiting and it became obvious that he wasn't giving me anything else. I wasn't sure what to make of it at first but he is going to be out of town for Christmas, he said for work. He has been acting funny for awhile, saying he was working over and staying late an often lot, I'm not asking if people think he is cheating. I made that mistake in my last question and received some rude answers.
What I want to know is how do I approach him with this? I have had my suspicions but this present thing, it can't be put off or ignored and I want to ask him about it. How should I go about it?
2007-12-25 23:52:00 · 15 answers · asked by Bailey J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you have to be straight out and tell him you found a piece of jewellery that clearly was'nt for you and you would like to know who it is for..Give him the chance to tell you and remind him now is the time to be honest and it will only make things harder if he keeps anything hidden.In the case that he is cheating get to the bottom of why he is doing it, try be calm. I know it is hard but a guy will shut down if you start yelling and are mad, you need to know what is going on.Best of Luck!
2007-12-26 00:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by khadija k 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should find out what he wants to do for the rest of his life. If he wants to stay with you and you still love him then forgive him because if you leave him the next guy will cheat too or worse. Who knows he might want out. But if you don't think he is cheating you are just lying to yourself. Here are the facts of life you seem to be learning now!!!
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins all relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. I don't lie.
2007-12-26 00:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie the best thing to do is just ask him who is the jewelry for. I know you might not want to ask him like that but I have been married for 3 years and If i want to know something I just ask my husband straight up, and be through with it. Just ask, what's the worst that can happen? - Good Luck and Happy New Year's
2007-12-26 00:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what the truth is. The question is... how far are you willing to take it to get your spouse to admit it. You can ask... and expect denial etc. You can argue your point.... but unfortunately the situation doesn't look good for you. Is there any slight possibility what so ever that you could have misread this whole episode (im sure you haven't but its always good to be certain) im sorry you have to go through this.
2007-12-26 00:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Drews Princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him you need to talk. Say to him that you found a really nice gift with a card that you thought was for you but you never received it. Ask him who it was for. Tell him you know that he hasn't been working late and that his out of town Christmas trip wasn't work related either. Ask him if he has feelings for someone other than you and & would he rather be with her.
2007-12-25 23:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by calendargirl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would take the jewelry and wear it or i would hide it and if he asks i would say i know you are saving this for a special occasion but i just couldn't resist it and if you hide watch to see if he is worried about the jewelry missing and then you will know
2007-12-25 23:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by dreamweaver 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Babe, bring it right out in front of him! Tell him everything you know & even your suspicions! Nothing* is going to change by you hiding what you know! If he is in fact, cheating on you, he will continue to do so! I think unless he asks forgiveness and you feel that you can learn to trust him again, that you may as well give him his walking papers! Better sooner, than later!!
2007-12-26 02:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by Me 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Failed marriages are the product of lost communications. Ask him, tell him your sorry but, you found the jewelry and, want to know what happen to it. If he says he decided not to buy it, tell him you want to know who, what, where when and, how. Get it in the open now and over with.
2007-12-26 00:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't get exactly what the question is to be either, I would expect that he will just try to lie his way out of the situation. If it was innocent (for a family member, being kept for a friend) he would have mentioned it to you.
Sack him and move on
2007-12-26 00:08:53 · answer #9 · answered by Cher R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously cheating on you. So you can confront him, tell him about the jewelry, or you can be more cunning and catch him cheating. In any case you have to decide if you want to continue the relationship or not.
2007-12-26 00:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by ZCT 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋