My wife and I are in the Army, and Im in Iraq right now, my wife is in Korea. We are both 20, and we were high school sweethearts.
We have lived apart now for over a year (due to the Army), and two weeks before I left for Iraq, she said she wanted a divorce (out of nowhere!), and it absolutely destroyed me. She was having hormonal issues due to a shot she was given for endometriosis, but she was so cold. So cold.
Ive given much more to our relationship than she has. She knows I have as well.
Im just so miserable here during all the time I spend not at work, because I cant stop thinking about her.
She said this week that her hormonal issues are gone (no more heat flashes, etc), and she wants me back. I gave her the cold shoulder for a few days to test her out, to see if she really changed. She hasnt sincerely apologized, and now says she doesnt know if she wants to make it work.
Im so lost, Im so confused, and I never knew a woman could make me feel so depressed. What should I do
2007-12-25 19:53:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, may you both get home safely. Thank you for your service.
Secondly, endometriosis can wreak havoc on relationships. The treatments - including the hormone injections/pill/implants/etc. - are often worse that the disease. It is *entirely* possible, despite what has been ignorantly stated here, that the Lupron or whatever she was given has changed her entire personality. Check out the following links for more information about the treatments for Endo:
http://www.endocenter.org/pdf/2007ScreeningEducationKit.pdf
http://www.endometriosis.org
I also suggest, for you, visiting MENDO (Men Who Love Women with Endo). It won't fix your marriage or help with any problems not associated with your wife's Endo, but it will be nice for you to have additional resources and support:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mendomen
Some additional links that might help:
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/erc
http://www.endometriosissurgeon.com
Good luck; hope it all works out.
2007-12-26 13:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by Endo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So, let me get this straight, you were dumb enough to get married before you were 20, volunteer for the American military during an unjust take over of Iraq and not only that, but you're Iraq right now and you're wondering why your wife wants to leave you???
Here's my advice. Option A: You're in Iraq, get yourself shot or blown up or something.
Option B: If you do return alive, hopefully there is still enough patriotism in America for you to get spit on like you deserve and keep your wife, hopefully her endometriosis has her infertile and that way neither of you breed.
2007-12-26 04:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are the only one that knows if its over. Hormone problems-been there done that one and it does play hell with your emotions. Get some counseling--I know that its there for you cause a friend of mine over there got it when his relationship went south. Work your way through it and then make your decision, dont let some one else make it for you. And you can't afford to have your mind else where while you are there dealing with all that is going on there.
2007-12-26 04:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by firefly06 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your marriage is over, nothing to be confused about. You grew apart with everything thats happened in life 4 you. I would sugest getting a divorce and seeing were life takes you from there. Thing could work out down the road with her you can always get remarried. But for now get a divorce and move on.
2007-12-26 04:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by frank61799 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Your test worked. The hormone excuse was bs. It's over dude. You don't need someone in your life who makes you feel this way.
2007-12-26 04:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The second you both said "I do" your loving relationship was over. Even if you were soul mates. Marriage destroys all relationships. The circumstances have nothing to do with it. You want her back, get divorced and then see if she still wants you. If she does, stay with her and never get married again. If she doesn't and you fall in love again, learn your lesson and never get married again!!!
2007-12-26 10:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would say its over. But your still young and you have your whole life a head of you. You'll find some one that cares for you as much as you care for them.
Be safe out there bro. Pray that God brings you home safe.
2007-12-26 09:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by Trust 15 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
divorce her pal she baggain the whole company where she.s at common sence ?
2007-12-26 04:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it might be time to kick em to the curb and move on..
2007-12-26 12:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by panamarandy 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋