When when their boyfriend/husband watches porn that it's cheating? Even if they want to watch it as a couple some woman become insecure and angry. Why is this? I'm not talking about porn addictions either. I'm refering to oocasional porn watching in a normal relationship.
I watch porn and my husband watches porn too. Nothing in excess either. It spices up our relationship and i dont feel insecure about him watching the woman on the TV, its just a fricking movie. I dont understand, is it low self esteem or something? I dont compare myself to those woman, and my husband knows this. Its just visual stimulation for us.
2007-12-25 20:03:54 · 12 answers · asked by USMCgrlandMommy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sony- just because somebody watches porn does'nt mean they are addicted to it. And i would like to see proof of this study that men who watch porn cheat. Neither my husband or myself have cheated in our marriage. We keep our bedroom open to new ideas and each other. I feel that if a man has to hide porn from his wife or sig-other it would cause more problems. My husband knows he does'nt have to hide anything from me. In fact i wanna see it too!! And if some people consider that bad, i dont wanna be good.We have a happy open marriage and great sex life
2007-12-25 20:30:19 · update #1
JadeyOz - GREAT ANSWER!
2007-12-25 21:12:20 · update #2
The proof the women and men on here are reffering to is in their heads , I have been in this site for over 5 months now and answered so many questions about porn it got the point I had to start ignoring the questions because all the thumbs down from insecure women got annoying .
Here are some answer's I gave previously.
NO if the husband/wife is not ignoring the physical need's of the other spouse it is NOT cheating , and contrary to popular belief especially on here , porn does NOT lead to cheating , if a man/woman is going to cheat , then they are going to cheat , watching porn is not going to encourage them to do it anymore then they are encouraged at the starting point.
Its time people really looked for the deeper problems in their marriages that are far more important then the topic of porn which gets the blame every time.If he isnt making love to you then neither of you are putting enough time and effort into the relationship to entice either 1 of you to give and take on the sex issue.
You know this question get's asked so much , and so many women answer screaming yes he's an addict and need's to get help , all I am hearing from you though is your man loves you , he loves your body and he wants to take every chance he can to touch you and make love with you and your disliking it , why? does he suck in bed or something?
As to the major porn usage , Its time people really looked for the deeper problems in their marriages that are far more important then the topic of porn which gets the blame every time. To me it sound's like you have issues far more important , I believe your not frigid as you so charmingly worded it , so that just leave's his technique , try new thing's , new position's set limit's and open your mind and his , if his technique suck's then obviously communication's have closed down and your not voicing your pleasure's or need's. Speak to him instead of shutting him out.
JMPO and a marriage is nothing if 1 partner is closed off to the sexual desire and yearning's of the other partner.
Personally they need to grow up and move on both sexes perv at the beach / super market / on line in chat web cam sites.I found that my enticing my man for intercourse didnt stop him watching porn but it got my enjoyment fulfilled and that was all I needed to know he was still attracted to my 35 year old mother of 5 body.It is just visual stimulation and it does NOT lead to cheating , my 1st husband never watched porn and we didnt have the internet and he cheated 5 times so as I have stated before if a person male/female is capable of being a cheater they will cheat porn or no porn .
Maybe the people who think porn is to blame should disconnect their internet and not buy any dvd's or video's or pay tv that way porn is wiped , mind you they also better not watch any hollywood movies with sex in them or made for tv movies and tv series because thats porn too right? lmao.
2007-12-25 20:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It usually is insecurity that makes women have a problem with a guy watching porn or admitting that they like watching porn sometimes too. Either they're afraid that they're man will be more attracted to the two-dimensional women on the screen, will want to do "nasty" things that happen in the fantasy movies, or will be judged as weird if they admit that they get turned on by watching the fantasy movies too.
In short, they don't "get it" that it's a fantasy. It's not real. Those of us who don't have a weird hang up about it (as in don't have a porn addiction or harbor silly prudish ideas that porn is "evil") understand that it's just fun. The people in the movies do what they do because they get paid for it. We can certainly ask our mates to try things that are done in the movies, but with the understanding that everyone has different comfort levels and can say no to things they don't want to do. In short, couples can enjoy porn in a mature way and use it to make their sex life and relationship stronger. Perhaps that's why it's intended for "mature audiences".
2007-12-25 20:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I watch a little porn every now and then, some times with the wife (not very often) and I have not strayed in 27 years. so you can tell them all to go fly a kite!!!!!
2007-12-26 01:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Al 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because it is cheating, if a spouse does not like it, out of respect and love and care, the other spouse should stop watching it... plain and simple... it is a valid reason for divorce, as well... if a spouse continues to watch porn after the other spouse told them they don't like it, it's like saying to them, "I don't care"...
as Dr. Phil would say, it's cheating if you know your spouse won't like it...
give me a thumbs down, I don't care... =)
I am one of the few around here who happen to have morals, porn is immoral... and I have children, there will never be porn in this house, and they will be taught that porn is wrong, too...
some of us are hurt by porn, does that mean we are insecure? no, it means it hurts... and when you continue something knowing something hurts them, you don't love them, and that's the truth...
2007-12-26 00:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont much like a lot of types of porn.
,my wife shocks me and likes some i dont.
to me some is just downright lewd.
do women want to do some of those acts?
want the pearls ? ready to take it up the ...?
a choaking gaggging bj.?
i think women get mad case they find out maybe their
man wants nasty sex.
Im not saying its dirty if that what they agree on but maybe that would make some insecure.
2007-12-25 20:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by rufstuff 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
To name a few reasons why some women would think this way: low self esteem, low intelligence, low levels of logical, emotional or moral development, odd ideas about sex, religion, sex negative feminism, insecurity, jealousy and perhaps sexual frustration. Why does he have to look at porn when she may be willing to do such things with him?
2007-12-25 20:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by some female 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
good on ya girl you are secure in your marrage and its good to see you want to keep a good sex life going i dont think its cheating for a man to watch porn after all its just a show
2007-12-25 21:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes its low self esteem in women(some). They fear that their man wants the body type or sexual type he is seeing on the tv screen more than he wants her.
2007-12-25 20:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by alwaysmyself 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
studies show men who are porn addicts are more likely to engage in extramarital affairs....does that answer your question....it has nothing to do with self esteem....porn is a disgusting sick literature, some people loath it because they think its sick
2007-12-25 20:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by Sony 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yes for sure the are insecure...
2007-12-25 20:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by Reer 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋