Marriage & Divorce - 28 December 2007

I was wondering if anyone here was ever in the same boat as me and how you coped with the situation....

Recently my partner of 8 years left me for somebody else she met whilst at work (within the space of a week). Her reasons for leaving were that she wasn't very happy and that this new guy made her feel as though she could be herself. I was shocked and still am shocked that she has gone as I was very happy in our relationship.

What is really eating away at me is the thought of her starting a new life (right this second) with this new guy. The intimate, effectionate and sexual moments we shared together (not three weeks ago) Its killing me and I was wondering how others haved coped with the love of their life gone and in love with someone else.

2007-12-28 23:57:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband cheated on me a few years ago. That was the greatest shock of my life. Until now I can never forgive him. I always thought that divorce is the right choice for me as I don't love him anymore. I stay because I don't want my kids to suffer but I suffer more stay in the same house with him. What should I do?

2007-12-28 23:48:01 · 17 answers · asked by tiara 1

My parents are 55 and 47, they really love each other, but they don't sleep in the same bed, and sometimes even sleep inseparate bed rooms.Believe me they really love each othetr and get along very well.Do you think they have sex.If you don't think so given this scenario, is it normal?

2007-12-28 23:43:24 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I tend to stuff things out of sight. It's very hard for me to throw away anything. My closet is bursting at the seams,along with kitchen drawers, pantry shelves, storage cabinets etc etc.. He says I have destroyed his entire home with my clutter and crafting messes. It is so hard for me. Also he HATES me having our dog in the house, this is the hardest of all, because this dog means so much to me. She is my source of affection and I love her insanely.. My husband now looks at me with disgust in his eyes. He is hateful and mean along with no respect. We have three teenagers, a 5 bathroom home, and I feel like I'm cooking, cleaning and doing laundry all day to impress him when he walks in the door, and then when six oclock gets closer, here I am stuffing things out of sight again. My question is, Does this seem like conditional love? And is this really a valid reason for divorce? We've been together 14 years with full custody of his three kids,18,16 and 13 whom I consider my own.

2007-12-28 23:27:48 · 23 answers · asked by plantasmile 2

now i keep calling his cell and he is ignoreing me he said he wasn't going to bother me but he was the one acting lke a ma ma boy running to his mommy every time we had problems and she would let him stay there he is 43 and i am 33 now she says he can stay he has no respnsibility so i ask for him to come home leaving several cell phone calls he never calls or ask to see me?

2007-12-28 23:15:05 · 15 answers · asked by me 2

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which one of these girls is the prettier?

to prevent confusion, please go by the colors of their shirts (e.g. yellow or blue) so i don't wonder which left or right you're talking about.

rate from 1 to 10

2007-12-28 23:08:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband left me the day before Christmas Eve. We have been together four years and have two kids, one is his biological and the other he has raised since he was a baby. We have never spent a whole day apart the whole time we've been together. For the past two months, he's been cheating on me with a 17 year old girl that he met on a dating site. She is quite a bit less attractive than me, but she was a virgin before she met him. Our relationship wasn't alway perfect. At times I questioned whether he was the one and I often took him for granted and tried to drive down his self-esteem because of my own insecurities. He always treated me good and did everything for me until he met her. Now he went to go live with this girl and her parents and took our daughter with him. (I am a full time student and I work). Now I realize that I made alot of mistakes and I drove him away, but is it too late?

2007-12-28 22:47:21 · 21 answers · asked by Rena 2

aaaaaaaaaa...my hubby has nt been faithful to me anytime,till nw ! I've profe of it!its nt any single girl bt its th CGs,he goes occasionally even nw. I loved him but got nothing in return in last 8yrs! But,best part is tht i ve 2 kids frm him who r my life nw!sm 3yr back a friend of his got closer to me and tdy our bond has become so strong tht he is doing everything to get me in his life.also to add, my kids love him as much as i do.Now we jst see our goal tht we will join 4ever.i'm happy and determined.wht do u say about my husband?to what extent am i wrong towards him??plz tell..

2007-12-28 22:41:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or just not speak to her for the rest of the day?

2007-12-28 22:29:33 · 28 answers · asked by Ahwell 7

interesting right?(you should star...lol)

2007-12-28 22:10:18 · 2 answers · asked by David C 3

I am 24 yrs old and my told me the other day that she is ready to have a kid. I love kids but I just am not ready for this type of responsibility shes a little upset with me right now. Am I being selfish?

2007-12-28 20:21:06 · 37 answers · asked by Booger F 1

I personally feel that often times when I tried to make love happen, it doesn't end up well.

But for the above mentioned question to hold true, does it mean that both parties must not deliberately trying to make things happen?

2007-12-28 20:20:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

An emotional affair was ended and now under counselling (she want to stay, I want to go). Wife threaten to commit suicide if divorce? I said if counselling is useless in 6 mths, divorce will be filed? Am I right?

2007-12-28 20:19:36 · 12 answers · asked by TT 2

my husband was murdered, and we where seperated for 8 months and he was with a married women and she was murdered also, i was a suspect because my husband never changed his beneficiary of 50,000 on his life policy i did not know about this affair but her husband did my name is cleared and this has been a nightmare for me, now his father wants his esate from me want me to sign everything over to him and his father did not include me in the obituary or nothing i was very hurt, this is a very hard time for me i cry all the time and i need some advice please the fingers are pointing to her husband he new about the affair and i didnt and i moved on with my life but i still deeply cared about my husband what a mess please help ty so much and god bless jewels they where both murdered in bed together at my husbands trailor, and a terrible death also and the trailor was set on fire but was put out very sick way of murder im still in shock please help ty

2007-12-28 20:18:55 · 8 answers · asked by jewels 2

We are all here to celebrate the end of a rough year 2007. this year we had lots of smiles and tears. But through it all we always remained together. There is a new baby face is our family as well as faces we all miss dearly. I want to reflect back on this year from the joyous times at Orlando's(my son) baptism, to the joyous times of Xavier's birth. even the antisipation of the Mets losing there shot at the play-offs.(just for laughs) but the good times and smiles quickly faded away. as we all lost peole we dearly loved. I want to tell my son Ceasar I Love you baby boy, daddy misses you very much and you will forever stay in our hearts. My Father Victor Barrezueta there aren't enough words to describe a man that has been loved by so many. I know you are here holding my son tighly as i say this speech. watching us all as we proced in life. we love and miss you pa. 2007 will never be forgoten. All we can do is pray that 2008 is much better for us all. I love you all may god give you

2007-12-28 19:29:49 · 5 answers · asked by whoa whoa whoa! ok 3

How do you break the news that you want a divorce to a husband who is emotionally unstable? I fear for my safety and my familys safety if I just present the papers to him, yet I also worry about my heirlooms in my home if I just leave him. Is there any middle ground to tread on when asking him? Any way to protect my family and possesions while still telling him that I dont love him anymore?

2007-12-28 19:20:25 · 14 answers · asked by California Girl 1

after 4 years of being together, and engagment ring, and baby and all the bullshit under the sun that i have stood by my man for...he turns to me, the day after christmas, 3 days before my birthday and says..."im just not that into you anymore" i have never been so hurt in my life and dont even know where to start to get over this. i hate him, and i dont hate anyone, hes says thats normal, and someday ill appreciate him for ending things...but i wont.....what the hell do i do!! im also 3000 miles away from home...and he expects me to sit here with him til i have enough money to go home, so i dont have to ask my parents for money or to move in with them....does my life get any fn worse?

2007-12-28 19:17:31 · 18 answers · asked by Teri C 1

I've been thinking about making a journal online about my recent breakup of a 20 yr. relationship. I wrote this article about a month ago, right after my birthday, when I was feeling pretty low. Do you think it's a worthy topic and a worthy start? I look forward to some feedback. Thanks.

2007-12-28 19:15:22 · 8 answers · asked by djjroberts 3

My husband comes and goes for days especially when its payday. But always return he has a bad drug habit, when he is not doing that he is the best husband in the world. Never yells, cuss or hit me ever in the 15yrs together. Right now we are serperated and I tired not to talk to him on the phone but he keeps txting me on my cell how is hurt and sad, that he is nothing without me. He's been talking about killing himself and I'm scared since he has tired it once awhile back. He promise to change but I heard those words before. What do I do? I still love him so but can't handle being a doormate no more.

2007-12-28 19:14:30 · 18 answers · asked by mzlatina 1

Hubby and I are married for 3.5 yrs. Its his 2nd marriage +he got a child with his ex. Bout 2 yrs ago his mum, him and I had a big fall out, ending with her telling me she doesnt like me, as long as she is alive she doesnt want to see me, she wants my hubby back together with his ex. Since that day I havent seen or talked to her. I told my hubby not to push her away, after all she's still his mum but he said he doesnt have anything to say to her. Yesterday I decided to clean the basement and found a stack of letters my hubby has been receiving from his mum. They have been in contact for the last 2 yrs. They sent each other bday,xmas cards/presents, she calls him at work every week. Also I found letters from his ex. They are in contact for a while now and there is no word about me in his letters. I asked him last night if he had talked to his mum or anyone else lately, he said he hasnt heard a word from his mum in 2 yrs. I dont know what to do. It seems like he is living in two worlds.

2007-12-28 19:04:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife and i made a porno and now we think that it screwed up everything.

2007-12-28 19:03:44 · 5 answers · asked by mmike_18_1984 2

I have been married for almost 3 years. I have been a faithful wife and mom. Lately I have been, wanting to have an affair. With no one in particular. I have dreams of other men and I tend to watch other men when I go out. I don't want to break my husbands heart, but I can't stop these thoughts. What is wrong with me? Why do I want to do something so drastic?

2007-12-28 19:03:42 · 8 answers · asked by Ms. Logan 2

My Ex & I divorced in MN & now both Live in ND (Same City). We have split custody. Right now he has them EVERY weekend (Friday night to Monday night)They now are going to have him start paying Child support in Jan. 08. He's pretty upset about this cause he has them Almost 50% of the time.(More like Him 41%, Me 59%). He feels since we have them almost 50-50 that he should get some kind of decuction in his payments. He said if he had to pay the full amount, he wants (or needs) to reduce his visitation to Every other weekend, as he needs to get another job to pay the child support & all his other bills. I'm perfectly fine with him switching it to every other weekend but my question is:

Since we divorced in MN (thats where the child visitation was determined) do I have to go back to MN to have this changed or can I do it in ND, since thats where both of us live now. Are there any requirements to having this changed?

Any web addresses I can view would be great! Thanks

2007-12-28 19:00:40 · 1 answers · asked by Heather 2

I remember when I was14, I had this fantasy and I've always had it. I imagined being married and sharing my wife physically with other men. Watching a woman have sex and be extremely into getting/giving pleasure is so arousing for me. I'm 24 now, and I am happily married. I love her to death, and vice versa. Foot massages in front of the tv after work, little surprises, passionate sex. Seeing the only woman in my life so turned on and into giving/receiving pleasure with me and even other men is insanely arousing, I can't stop thinking about watching her have sex with someone else.

It's not that I don't want to have sex with her, she's the greatest and our love live is tops, but it's just disappointing that my #1 desire isn't being fulfilled. I don't want any other women.

Women, if you were in a relationship that was wonderful for 4 years and counting, and your man shared this fantasy(although not asking you to do anything), how would you respond?

2007-12-28 18:51:05 · 6 answers · asked by Chris S 2

they r fix maariage have to follow their elders ??/ anyone....??/help.....

2007-12-28 18:51:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-28 18:50:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-28 18:40:46 · 9 answers · asked by ladyheart 1

My husband is an illegal immigrant and he constantly tries to start an argument with me to start a fight. I am so sick of it anymore I want him to move out but he refuses. I would move but I am the who does all the responsibilites of owning a house, i write in the bills, call some one if i need to fix or make improvements to my house, take care of our child. he doesnt do none of that except for making me feel like his b***h. what are some good ideas. I think i know the answer why he won't go, but please tell me what you think about why he won't move and stop all the arguing with me.

2007-12-28 18:27:49 · 14 answers · asked by tootie 3

When I met my husband I had a close friend but our relationship was never more than buddies. I haven't seen him in a couple of years. However from mutual friends I hear he asks about me all the time. Everyone seems to notice our chemistry and my husband is silently jealous of him. We have never been physical and I have told my husband this. He does not like my husband and for good reason ( my husband is a drug addict ). My husband is in rehab now but I can't help having this feeling of too little too late. My husband was a social drinker and occasionally used drugs usually at parties or things not very often. For th past 5 years it has gradually gotten worse and the last year or so it has gotten insane. I cant count how many times I've gone through the I quite ordeal with him but he finally went to rehab but hes not out yet. I think I married the wrong man. I didnt give my old friend enough time to start a romance or was it just never meant to be, why can't I stop thinking about him

2007-12-28 18:22:35 · 9 answers · asked by beani baby 2

This guy is in total control of finances, transportation, etc. and will get drunk every other night, name call, give orders, and be a general jerk towards his wife. He wakes up the next day and apologizes, like nothing happened. If she attempts to discuss these issues with him he will turn everything around on her, like she is being controlling. Their marriage councelor told them that he will have to allow transportation and (at least!) discuss financial matters in order for their relationship to move forward. He still hasn't done anything the shrink told him to do. So how do you effectively communicate with an abusive jerk?

2007-12-28 18:15:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous