Marriage & Divorce - 28 December 2007

2007-12-28 18:09:47 · 13 answers · asked by atigirl 2

We are in our early 20s and every time his high school friend comes back into town from the university, he starts huge fights and goes and stays with him. He is always blowing me off for my friends. I have packed up his stuff and told him I will bring it to the security at his work. He does not want me to. Question is: I am a Christian person and don't believe in divorce. But this business of running off with his friends is irritating and immature. Should I divorce him on the basis of this? Or is this something that can be worked around.

2007-12-28 17:54:26 · 42 answers · asked by Retired Punk 2

I'm just curious how you knew. Were you anxious when you got married?

2007-12-28 17:54:19 · 19 answers · asked by Oh it's me! 4

i have/had a wonderful girlfriend she is 4 yrs older than me and is divorced wit a kid i luv them both so very very much but her ex husband cums around and its hard to coop wit it ive had the best sluts and the best back stabbin friends that i have a very hard trustin and not thinkin literaily wantd to think sumthin is goin on cuz he cumz around mostly while im at work and she is still sorta close to him she doesnt want him she wants me but i cant help but believe their messin around behind my bac cuz ive never had a good trust worthy girlfriend plz help

2007-12-28 17:40:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been married for a little over 5 years and have 2 beautiful children , my son is almost 3 and my daughter is 18 months, I speak of them because they are my main concern. I don't want to mess them up. I am and have been very unhappy in this relationship for a long time. He knows somewhat but really if he payed attention would know completely. I am planning on leaving within the next 4 months or so, the reason I have not told him is because I am going in for Bariatric surgery in amonth or so and need the insurance. I also know this will be a rough time and want there to be as much normalcy as possible for the kids. I do feel extremely guilty about not telling him what my plans are but don't know what else to do. We have had problems in the past and things will get better for a while but than it just goes back to the same old crap. I do care about him and feel bad but I know I have to leave for the sake of my own sanity. What is the best way to handle this and make kids be ok?

2007-12-28 17:39:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-28 17:39:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

my fiance has two kids with someone else but she and her kids live with me .and she is still married an the daddy dont pay nothin for the kids .i pay for everthing so can i claim the kids ?

2007-12-28 17:27:20 · 5 answers · asked by LIZETTE 1

2007-12-28 17:26:49 · 14 answers · asked by ¸.•*´`*•.¸ ℓανєη∂єr ¸.•*´`*•.¸ 6

i can not decide please help me.

2007-12-28 17:21:44 · 7 answers · asked by Lifo 1

We virtually have nothing in common except our lovemaking and we usually enjoy the same type of food. He is into playing video games, poker(he actulally wins more than he loses). I am not at all interested in the things that he is interested in. We seldom do things together. We will go walking or hiking about once a month. We watch TV together and have political discussions but I am a believer in Christ and he is agnostic. He only relies on science and I rely more on my faith. I tried to stay away from him b/c he was not a believer but we both missed each other so much we couldn't stand it. I have been going with him for 3 years. How will we ever have the like purpose that a committed couple should share? I know nothing else to do but to keep praying.

2007-12-28 17:11:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi there,
I am newly separated and think it is normal to miss my husband even he acted very immature. Is it? Both of us have to much pride to make that first approach, When he left (he is from Europe) he said not to give up on our marriage yet, and sent me a couple short e-mails. I know his is suffering like me, but won't admit. I on another hand don't want to be a doormat and can't forgive him or leaving during the Chritmas time, he could easily rent a room in a hotel not run to mum and dad when things get tough. I am missing him, but I don't think I want to keep in touch with him at least for now. I know you have to work things out in your marriage, but him running away for the second time
doesn't leave me with too much trust in this man.
How can I deal with my problem?

2007-12-28 17:08:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband sees the negative all the time, whereas I see positives everywhere.
We are in financial trouble, and he gets so down about it. Whereas I am happy we have a roof over our heads, and we can eat everynight.

He grew up with elderly parents and was handed everything, and I lived on the streets after giving up my two children at 18. I now have 2 other children, whom I am greatful for. One is sick and has had 22 surgeries and the other has ADHD and Autism.

I've been pretty sick this last year, and I try to to let him know when I'm having a bad day.

I guess my question is how to I change his thinking, to make things better around the house, because when he gets in his bad moods, he yells at everyone and is so frustrated, because we both work so hard. How do I get him to see that things could be worse, that we could be living on the streets with nothing.
I just would like the happy husband back

2007-12-28 17:06:46 · 10 answers · asked by todamnlovable 2

2007-12-28 17:05:12 · 6 answers · asked by Nice isn't it 1

"Having a great time. Wish you were her."

2007-12-28 17:01:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ive asked my sister to babysit for me tonight but she has said no twice already. Should I push it and ask again?!?!

2007-12-28 16:58:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months in total. We had a 6 month break that I initiated and got back together in October.
I recently (at Christmas) told him "I love you" I am a virgin waiting for marriage but I am very attracted to my boyfriend
we've laid in bed together once for a few minutes (on my single bed) that turned into him going through the motions of sex while we were both fully-clothed (he was on top of me) I stopped it before it got hot and heavy. Yesterday we were talking about marriage casually and my roommate asked if we were getting married, he said hopefully one day. I wasn't surprised by this. We've casually talked about kids too, I know he's the one but how do I get him to slow down? He left, then called me later and said he was looking at diamond rings how do I get him to slow down without turning him away because I know I want to be with him but I'm somewhat worried that he's doing all this because he wants sex and knows we won't have it till we're married

2007-12-28 16:54:00 · 15 answers · asked by <> <3 4

i just fought with my boyfriend like real big problem..what should i do??

2007-12-28 16:49:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are married, but we've been separated since a week after I found out that I was pregnant (July of this yr). He left and since he has never tried to contact me for any reason, even though he acknowledge that this is his child (100% sure). Recently, I learned that he moved to a different state, to North Carolina, as a permanent duty station (he's in the Army). We have not signed a legal separation agreement, which is not required, because what he's been trying to do is avoid his financial and any other kind of responsibility. He even asked the Army to release him from spousal support and it was granted to him because I make 15K more than he does a year... (Yes, they suck!).

So now I am considering not putting his name on the birth certificate when my daughter is born due in March. How will that affect his rights and responsabilities?? Can I still file for child support? Even through the military?

Please advice.

Oh, and for the record, he left after an argument about his x-box!!

2007-12-28 16:48:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

hope someone can help me i want out of my marriage because he cheating on me he take my money and other thing he leave me home all time except when i meed to go to the store or doctors i lost my daughter because of him .sure hope someone can tell me what to do he draw a gun on me he said if i leave he will kill me ...

2007-12-28 16:39:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Did your ex look better than your now bf/gf or husband/wife? And do you compare their looks? Or does it not matter at all?

I'm just curious to see how many people compare their current significant other to their ex.

Thanks!

2007-12-28 16:35:19 · 14 answers · asked by Virginia 3

but as I've said, he "sneaks" them now and then because I've caught him...He said it "calms his nerves from work". How it does that, I don't know, but I am not a smoker. But there are healthier ways to calm your nerves, so to speak. I do not approve of smoking, it disgusts me, but mostly it truly is me being concerned about what it is doing to his health. Then he comes home and has the nerve to take vitamins!!! I had to chuckle at that one....you're smoking, but then you are taking vitamins! May as well throw those vitamins down the drain...But my question was really this....despite the fact that he is sneaking smoking, he is a very good man in every other way, more than anyone could ever ask for....I know this for a fact. I just wanted to know people's opinions on whether is should kind of "overlook" this flaw and hope he really quits for his own sake, given that he is a very good person otherwise. Or should I refuse to give in, and risk losing a good person over one thing?

2007-12-28 16:27:19 · 31 answers · asked by sheri 1

2007-12-28 16:24:40 · 6 answers · asked by tigerb29209 2

2007-12-28 16:19:41 · 36 answers · asked by BreeAnn 3

all we do is fight, we hardly ever see each other anymore. date night will be good for us, just once a week. so, tonight i was getting ready for my date to pick me up and my husband freaked! why are men like this? we agreed on once a week friday date nights and now he doesn't like it? he said we should date each other...wtf??? we're married...we don't date! how should i handle this?

2007-12-28 16:18:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

We got a new puppy for Christmas and Mr. Tough man is curled up on the couch with the basset hound in his lap:) I never expected to see MY husband sleeping with a puppy:)

What has your spouse done that caught you by surprise?

2007-12-28 16:17:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-28 16:15:35 · 5 answers · asked by Dandi 1

My b/f has full costudy of all 4 of his kids. he has the right to tell her when and if she can have them and he also has the right to say if they can talk to her. Christmas eve she was soppose to bring them home and she didn't bring them home until christmas night. Well he call the cops and they couldn't do anything about it. Well tonight she starts to call about 7:30 pm and it didn't end until 8:40 pm almost 60 calls with thin that time. then she started again at 10:00 pm and it didn't stop until we got a knock on the door from the cops because she called them on us because we wouldn't let her talk to them because she is stupid. I just want to know if anyone thinks this is right for them to come for her and not for someone who is the real parent?

2007-12-28 16:08:30 · 9 answers · asked by love_me_not1982 2

my husband and I have been married for almost five years and we have 2 beautiful children. things between us started changing almost after my second baby was born. he barely talks to me and if he does it's only to tell me how sick he is or how unforutnate he is in his work although he has a great job. I don't even get the occasioanl joke anymore. I have talked with him over and over but he just smiles and drops the whole subject as if i didn't say a word. I feel hurt and above all I feel I would like to criticise him all the time. Is his behavior the cause of this. What can I do?

2007-12-28 16:08:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I own a lawn care business. Last year was my first year in business and I didn't do too well. I had 10 regular customers who I would mow for aout every two weeks.
When I mention being a business owner or having a "business" my wife just laughs or says "I'm sure". She wants me to work for someone else so we'll know how much money is going to be coming in every week.
What's it going to take for her to recognize my dreams and my efforts?

2007-12-28 16:06:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been stressed and fighting lately.
Now that the fighting's finally over, I want to make it up to him.
What can I do for him, emotionally to be affectionate and show him I still love him strongly?
Please no sexual answers.

2007-12-28 16:00:41 · 9 answers · asked by Ryuu 3