We are married, but we've been separated since a week after I found out that I was pregnant (July of this yr). He left and since he has never tried to contact me for any reason, even though he acknowledge that this is his child (100% sure). Recently, I learned that he moved to a different state, to North Carolina, as a permanent duty station (he's in the Army). We have not signed a legal separation agreement, which is not required, because what he's been trying to do is avoid his financial and any other kind of responsibility. He even asked the Army to release him from spousal support and it was granted to him because I make 15K more than he does a year... (Yes, they suck!).
So now I am considering not putting his name on the birth certificate when my daughter is born due in March. How will that affect his rights and responsabilities?? Can I still file for child support? Even through the military?
Please advice.
Oh, and for the record, he left after an argument about his x-box!!
2007-12-28 16:48:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
File for child support through the military ( IG Office ) and through the state. Make ten copies of everything, too. While you are still married, he is the presumed father, however, if you don't put him on the birth certificate you could possibly force a paternity test later. Those are expensive and it would be unnecessary, to the extent that you both agree he is the father.
2007-12-28 17:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically,anything you go after for the kids will need his name on the birth certificate or else you may have to prove to the courts that he is the biological father which could be time consuming and expensive. No matter what happens or happened he is still responsible as the father ofhis children and has a fiduciary responsibility to you as you two are still married. Forget the military and go thru the civilian courts. Theyll make him own up to his responsibilities. Good luck
2007-12-29 00:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An X-BOX??? Are you serious??? WOW! Well it doesn't matter if he is on the birth certificate or not to get child support. Actually in the state of California they won't even let you name the father on the birth certificate unless he is present to sign it. I guess it depends on your state. But no matter what if he is proven to be the father then he has to pay up.
2007-12-29 01:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by zaiden24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can get child support from anyone unless their name is on the birth certificate or through a court order if you later found out who the dad was (if you didn't know at first)
Also, for married couples it's different. Married people don't pay support unless they get seperated and the court orders it.The courts would have to know that your seperated for you to get child support otherwise they will just think you are married and living together unless you state otherwise.
2007-12-29 00:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by what were you expecting? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't put the child's father's name on the birth certificate you aren't hurting your husband... but the child might be a little unnerved with you when he or she gets older.
He is still the father, no matter what a birth certificate says....
I don't know if you can file for child support -- you have to consult a family law attorney for that information
2007-12-29 00:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a former military wife (my husband retired after 30 years of service), I urge you to put his name on the birth certificate.
Your child is entitled to medical insurance thru the military, for as long as your husband is enlisted, even after the divorce.
Civilian medical insurance can be expensive.
2007-12-29 01:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by braves squaw 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jbl is exactly right. I don't have any military experience, but I'm quite familiar with family law. Take his/her advise!
2007-12-29 13:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Missie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, when you go to court for it they will court order a dna test then when the results are back you will go to ourt again and they will make him pay.
2007-12-29 13:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Niccole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is that petty, just move on
2007-12-29 01:10:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the father indeed.. then yes!
2007-12-29 00:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by drarkane 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋