Marriage & Divorce - 28 December 2007

I'm in a relationship with a person who is having Rheumatoid Arthritis since 2 years... I'm thinking of marriage now... Am I thinking right?

2007-12-28 15:59:32 · 14 answers · asked by Steve b 1

2007-12-28 15:53:54 · 20 answers · asked by anita p 1

I have a big problem. I was in a bad relationship with my ex and have 2 kids with him. I trusted him and gave him everything and it just backfired in my face. This happened once before when I was a teenager. I am now engaged and have been with him for over 5 yrs now, but I find myself not trusting him the way that he deserves. I need to be able to trust him or I won't be able to marry him. Any serious advice please...Thank you ...

2007-12-28 15:52:40 · 9 answers · asked by kristianneveah 1

My husband acts very different when we visit his family and in a bad way!
He becomes a selfish jerk and acts like i am the enemy.
Any ideas why???

2007-12-28 15:48:20 · 10 answers · asked by Lil lady 4

I am a 31 year old male with a beautiful wife, a 3 year old, and one on the way. My wife is done after this one an wants me to get fixed. I wouldn't force her to have a third but I wouldn't be sad to have 3 either. I dont know that I am comfortable getting fixed. I said that if anything ever happened to us or her, there could always be the chance that I would want another one. Am I really being the incensitive, conceided *** she says I am by saying that? Isn't 31 young to be doing something permenant to my body if it's not something I want? Any marital advice is welcomed here.

2007-12-28 15:41:37 · 32 answers · asked by dpcrogan 1

how do you overcome a restraining order if you feel the other girl wants to see you? we had a breakup and got into a huge fight - she cheated and i said some things like threatening to go to her ex husband where she would lose her custody. i didn't mean it. before we had the chance to talk about it - she filed a temporary restraining order. the argument was over another guy she was seeing for two months while she was with me. i went over to her place when i wasn't supposed to so i could pour my heart out, and was afraid i was losing her to the other guy. she called the police. the restraining order went permanent. in the last four months, she has heard through friends why our relationship fell apart and now she understands and wishes she could see me, but she's very scared of losing custody b/c if she drops the restraining order, her ex will use it against her in her current custody battle. she knows i'm here for her if she needs me. how long do u think it will be if she comes back?

2007-12-28 15:38:48 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was getting upset because my husband played on line poker and I believe he was flirting. so he set up a female account and flirts as a girl with men. I see what a kick he get's out of it so I still think he does is as a man with woman when i am not around. what is the turn on with this, or the turn off with me.

2007-12-28 15:35:31 · 10 answers · asked by Angie M 1

2007-12-28 15:27:14 · 8 answers · asked by BIG T 4

i am married and i got married 4 months ago...he dosnt say i love u and he hardly kisses me and when he wants sex he practically jumps on me and when i want to he says he dosnt want to...he also calls me names..he calls me from hoe to **** to even b**ch...he says he is just joking around when he says it and i have told him more then a thousand times to stop....i told him when u "joke" its funny the first few times but after that its not funny anymore and it hurts...i love him and i can't leave him cuz divorce is something i am strongly against...he was never like this when we were dating...today i was dancing to some music in the privacy of our bedroom and i was goofing off and he told me to stop and that i cant dance he also tells me i can't sing when i sing to fav. song....will u guys give me some advice please....idk what to do...im done crying...i am at the point where i am ready to sleep on the couch (because its his bed and he dosnt have to do anything he dosnt want to do)

2007-12-28 14:58:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I asked this question the other day, and only got a few real responses, I'm going to ask again, hoping more people read it and give their story.

What does your marriage mean to you?

Be honest with yourself, what does it mean to you? Why did you get married? I ask you this because i have found myself having to face that question recently. And as simple as it may seem, you would be amazed how far you will have to go to prove it, if you see it too late.

While we are being honest here, I have treated my wife poorly for 3 years. I ignored her, and I took her for granted. Many people, my therapist included, blame the fact that I suffer from PTSD for the fact that I push my loved ones away. While I know that this accounts for some of my actions, not all of them can be counted towards my PTSD, I still hurt my wife, it was me, and not some mental disorder, that caused the pain. I'll not go into details, but trust me, I took my wife for granted and while I would never lay a hand on my wife, it was still an abusive relationship. The only difference is the kind of abuse, ignoring the woman you love and asking so much of her with giving nothing in return can sometimes be just as hurtful as a physically abusive relationship.

At the beginning of the summer, my wife was stationed overseas on a 1 year unaccompanied tour. This means that my son and I were not allowed to go with her to this station. After she left, a lot of issues came out that she never brought out when she was here. Angry words were exchanged, and we had our share of bad arguments. I was unaware of it at the time, but after this big argument, she cheated on me with a guy she knew there. I would never excuse such action, but I can honestly say, I never gave her much of a reason not to. It hurts now that I know this. Now, Christmas has just passed. My wife came home for Christmas, but more to see our son and her family then to see me. She and I have spoken and act civil, but there are still problems. I have worked out much of my issues and am working on dealing with all of them, but there is a long way yet for me to go. My wife stays across town at her parents' house, she has stayed with me here 1 night, and my son usually sleeps there with her. She stayed here the night of Christmas Eve, and I was happy for that, but it wasn't the same. We talked that night, and that is when I confronted her and asked her and she admitted to having slept with another man, and it kills me to think of that. In the space of 3 and a half years, I took a loving marriage that had all the potential in the world and destroyed it. I will admit, there was wrong on both sides, and what she did was not right, and it kills me to think she will be going back for the last 5 months of her tour and she will be there with him. We agreed that we would work this out, and most of that will come when she gets back and we go to her next station, but I don't know how much she feels that is true, or how much she cares to work it out. She promised that so long as I don't screw up between now and June when she returns, we will both move to her next station and work things out from that point on. My marriage could be over, and when it comes down to it, I have no one to blame but myself.

I am asking this question, not to get advice, but to give it. How much does your marriage mean to you? Guys, stop, get over your selfs and look past your stupid pride, and take a real honest look at your marriage. Do you tell your wife you love her every day? Do you tell her she means the world to you? Do you call her for no reason, just to say “I Love You”? Do you remind her every day why she married you? And tell her that you are lucky to have her? Ask yourself what your marriage means to you and what you would do to keep it. If you are honest with yourself, you know if you treat your wife how she deserves to be treated, and you know what is coming if you don't. Don't let yourself get in the way of your marriage. Stop, take the time to tell her what she means to you, your marriage may well depend on it, because you never know when it all about to fall apart. And when it falls apart, you'll be lucky to try to hold the pieces together.

Remind her why she married you, and tell her that you love her, she deserves to hear it, even if she knows.

2007-12-28 14:50:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't drink as I'm an alcoholic. I've been sober about 14 months. I find that when I am around people drinking I get uncomfortable particularly if everyone is getting drunk or if I'm around people drinking for more than three days in a row. I don't like having alcohol in the house either and my husband's drinking makes me tense. I don't get "tempted" uncomfortable, just uncomfortable. However my husband happily drinks and thinks that I'm being a control freak for getting uptight about it. Like the other day he'd had 5 glasses of wine at a function and even when I said I would like him to stop he had another 2. He's also been drinking every day for the last 8 days including when we were on holiday with drinking family members and we got home and I thought yay, no alcohol today then he has a beer cause he's "thirsty". Am I a control freak? Should I be trying harder to accept the fact we live in a drinking culture? How can I sort my prob with husband and also not feel like a killjoy?

2007-12-28 14:37:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 38 yrs. old and have been married to my high school sweetheart for almost 20 years. My husband is 39. We have a 17 year old daughter and a 8 year old son. The problem is my husband just doesn't seem to be interested in sex anymore. It's not that our sex life was boring or at least to me it wasn't. I was always up for anything. And I don't feel like I'm unattractive. He isn't any more tired or under any more stress than he has been in the past. I've tried to think of all the reasons he might not want to have sex with me and can't come up with any. If anyone has any suggestions or ideas please let me know. Thank you for your help.

2007-12-28 14:36:37 · 23 answers · asked by morgant2008 1

my ex-husband has physical custody of one of our sons and i have the other one..well we both have joint legal custody of both the children...he wants to leave the state he lives in and let my son live with his friend in the state he is leaving..he told me i have no say in this because he has physical custody of this child..i told him yes i do ..so is he allowed to leave my son in the care of a friend of his to live while he resides in another state and i also live in another state...if he does leave my son with this person can i have him taken out of this home and sent to me since the father doesn't want him to live with him...

2007-12-28 14:31:20 · 13 answers · asked by pebbleshny 1

Ok here is the story my husband has a job and it is commision, and his checks have been really bad! I have asked, begged, pleaded and yelled for him to get a new job. He always tells me he is or he has looked or he tells me what I want to hear. I have a job and I got asked to become a store manager and he says I should take it because I wont have time to spend with the kids, BUT we need money we have not made a morgage payment since october. I tell him he should get a second job more excuses. He is driving me crazy it is like he wants someone to hand him a job with out him doing anything. Please help what can I do to make him realize that he needs to do something before something really bad happens?

2007-12-28 14:19:12 · 23 answers · asked by shelle4392 3

my in-laws spoil my new husband and his 22 year old son rotten, my husband will not stand up to his parents, he and his son has dinner with them 3-4 times a week, they don't invite us, if i say anything my husband says u guy can come as he is walking out the the door, the real kicker is mil always invites ex-daughter in law to all the family functions, when i say something they all act like i'm nuts, my in-laws are very wealthy and my husband kisses their a---. They all including my husband treat this 22 year old son like he is a king he gets whatever he wants, my boys see this and they want the same, i don't want my boys to think life is that easy, but it hurts to see them treat us like we are not as special or important in thier life. my boys have no contact with thier grandparents from my ex, and i can tell they feel left out, my husband is to busy kissing his son *** to stop any of this, cars,apt,anything he wants. do i divorce this man? nothing is in my name, i used up all my $

2007-12-28 14:16:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

What im trying to say is in seeking the perfect companion...we all imagine what that partner will look like.....and ive noticed a high volume of couples that end up together have said "i never would have thought we'd have ended up together! I was always interested in a different style, etc"

Im an not vain this is a serious question. My partner and I dont LOOK like the "ideal" couple because im actually a tad bit taller than him. And I seemed to have always been looking for someone else other than him. I could not have ended up with someone better than him. We compliment eachother very well, but im just curious with some of you....how your outcome turned out.

And of course they say the longer you are together ---the more you look alike!!! Isnt that awesome!!??? AND SO TRUE!!! thanks you guys <3

Hope all this makes sense

2007-12-28 14:15:24 · 17 answers · asked by ★ Vaginal Discount ★ 4

Well I am back me and my bf had a fight today and he was on myspace again and I told him that he was to be in a relationshio so exactly how was he getting stood up by another woman and he told me we wasn't in a relationship so I got my children dressed and left but before I could leave he came and told me not to leave with his chlidren. Well make a long story short he let me know that he is only doing these things because he thinks I have found someone else and it hurts him to think that way so he uses the computer to pissme off because he know they won't do the things that I do for him and that they will never be what I am and he just feels like playing with them to make hisself feel better but he would never be with them because he doesn't have enough money and he doesn't want to lose his family again. What should I do?

2007-12-28 14:15:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband does catering and has planned many lavish affairs but on my bday he can't even plan a trip to the movies! Burn out from Christmas Is what the prob prob is.(dec27) but the efoort is what I expect and I am HURT, each year...The 25th is lacking slowly as well....ps.. I am always doing it up for events. Am I wrong to want the same treatment...??

2007-12-28 14:13:31 · 23 answers · asked by Miz Peaches 5

For the past 8 months, I've endured my husband getting drunk every weekend or should I say every 10 days and mentally abusing me. I think I have fallen out of love for him. I dont feel nothing for him. He's put on so much weight that he doesnt turn me on anymore. Our sex life just sucks too because of that. In the last 3 weeks he has realized as to what he's doing or so I hope. He tells me he loves me and wants to start a new begining, but I cant tell him that because I dont feel it. He has made some improvements. Will those feelings ever comme back? I am rather confused and not sure what to do. we also have two boys together that I have to think about. Please I need some real and honest answers. My marriage depends on this. thank you

2007-12-28 14:06:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband sometimes eats out with females, pick them up from their home, drop them off at home, drive them around, process paperwork for them, meet with them one on one in the office...would you feel comfortable with this? Yes he does this with guys too. But naturally, I dont like it when he does all this with females. He is a military recruiter and all this is a part of the job. He says he could get in alot of trouble if he tries to mess around with one of the girls. He didn't say he wouldn't do it because he loves me and Im all he needs. Only because he could get in trouble. I thought I would be ok dealing with his job but now Im starting to feel really uncomfortable. He has to do this for the next four yrs. All he ever does is get angry with me if I try to talk to him about my concerns. I guess I get on his nerves but I'm not happy. Any advice?

2007-12-28 14:00:13 · 16 answers · asked by sweetness 2

I am only asking this question because it is through the internet. :)

I am a 21 married student and have been married for a year. My husband as of recently seems to only want me to give him 'oral sex' instead of make love. He doesn't do it to me, so it doesn't seem fair. I do not do it all the time or anything, but just wanted to ask.

I guess my question is how do know that I am not being taken for granted? And how can I not be?

2007-12-28 13:58:48 · 33 answers · asked by Becca 2

that same situation and criticize him or put down the woman for doing that to him? Isn't that kind of contradictory?

2007-12-28 13:52:35 · 6 answers · asked by The Starr Company 1

My wife pays 0% of the bills/rent/groceries etc and does 98% of the housework and 60% of the cooking. I pay 100% of all the expenses and do only 2% of the housework/laundry and 40% of the cooking. I work full time and provide a decent living while my wife stays home with the kids (the youngest is now 11)

My wife thinks that her doing all of my laundry is a laudable sacrafice that goes beyond anything I do. She thinks that paying the bills is something I would have to do anyway even if she was not around.

So is the act of working to do the laundry for your family somehow better than working to earn the money to put food on the table?

2007-12-28 13:47:34 · 21 answers · asked by der_grosse_e 6

well my hubby is overseas and i have been being friends with this guy that i meet online, well i have started haveing feelings for him. as looking for friends to chat with while my hubby was gone. can anyone help me?

2007-12-28 13:33:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

our two youngest was still living with me when to applied. should i report her and would anything be done?

2007-12-28 13:28:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-28 13:27:18 · 17 answers · asked by marie 1

Oh it is Christmas time,..
my husband said that this year he is not going to get me a Christmas gift. I agreed but I am hurt. He got a gift (which he always does) for his mom and grandma; but he did not for me. He does not give his brother any presents either.
We have been married only a year.
I don't want to be all dramatic, but I am really hurt by this. I love giving out gifts to people I love, so I do not understand.
We get along great, we love each other, but it really hurts me. He did not give me a birthday gift either. Why didn't he?

2007-12-28 13:22:24 · 29 answers · asked by Becca 2

I often wonder about the rate of divorce, and don't want to contribute to the statistics. I know that some people believe in marriage before moving in together, but heres the thing...
If you marry before moving in together then how do you really know hat someone is right for you?
What if they are annoying and have bad habbits that you didnt know about?
what if your not sexually compatible?
what if you have different taste in furniture?
what if they snore/kick or have night terrors in their sleep?
what if they have annoying relatives who visit all the time?

do you think its better to move in and have a trial run before the wedding, I mean, after all were talking about spending THE REST of your life with them?

I have had a few christian friends who have found out they cant stand their partner after the marriage and I dont want this to happen to me!

how do you know your compatable?

2007-12-28 13:21:33 · 9 answers · asked by psycgirl25 4

on a daily basis including weekends, would you leave him?

2007-12-28 13:20:17 · 14 answers · asked by ohsonowisee 1

Its like I know some people are for it and others are against it and I don't know what to think.

2007-12-28 13:20:02 · 24 answers · asked by Little Angel 1