What do you do when your man believes you are cheating on them?

Question

Well I am back me and my bf had a fight today and he was on myspace again and I told him that he was to be in a relationshio so exactly how was he getting stood up by another woman and he told me we wasn't in a relationship so I got my children dressed and left but before I could leave he came and told me not to leave with his chlidren. Well make a long story short he let me know that he is only doing these things because he thinks I have found someone else and it hurts him to think that way so he uses the computer to pissme off because he know they won't do the things that I do for him and that they will never be what I am and he just feels like playing with them to make hisself feel better but he would never be with them because he doesn't have enough money and he doesn't want to lose his family again. What should I do?

I meant to tell you that he has paranoia schizophrenia and I left him 4 years ago and tried too kill his self because of it and I am in love with him,

Answer 1

I hate to hear that you and your man aren't doing so well ,and it makes me scared for you that he is using mind games to make you feel sorry for him . If he is talking to other women trust is already broken but to make it seem like your the reason why he is doing what he is doing is an excuse you and I both know nobody can make you do anything you don't want to do already so what is the next step ? you need to decide what is best for you and yours don't be fooled I know you love him but how long do you stick around before you loose yourself I mean in all that drama one day you'll look back and see that it was a waste of your time and energy all the love you give you'll never get it back I know believe me I've been there before.email me

Answer 2

If that wasn't the biggest load of BS I've ever heard yet and I'm getting up there in age. He has NO reason at all to doubt your loyalty. He wanted a reaction out of you and walking out with the kids wasn't what he was after.

To lessen the severity of the wrong he did, he's projecting his fears and insecurities onto you, by making you the villian, justifying his own actions. Don't buy it, don't believe it and most of all, don't think any of it is your fault.

He's got some serious trust and intimacy issues, whatever you say or do isn't going to make him feel better about himself, only he can do that, maybe with professional help and only if he sees it and wants to do something about it.

You don't have to do anything but believe in yourself, you're a good person, it sounds like, a great wife and mother, don't let him tear you down or bring you down to his level. Protect yourself, talk to him about this and be prepared for it either to get worse and/or leaving him. You can't save him from himself.

Answer 3

I can't say it any better than the rest of these people said it. He's trying to feed you a load of crap, please don't eat it.
My boyfriend has a myspace page and he has some friends on the main page but he has deleted the link to the rest of his friends. Says there aren't any others. If not, why delete the link? So one day he posted a bulletin where each person who reads it signs their name and sends it on, like a chain letter or something. Well, the person (Kay), whose name was before his, is obviously the person who sent it but she isn't on his friends list. Guess what, I didn't believe his a*s*s when he said he couldn't remember who sent it. Myspace is a place where people say they are connecting with friends but it is really a dating site as well. Be cautious.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

He is cheating on you, you found him cheating, and tried to turn the tables on you. He his saying he thinks YOU ARE cheating, so he can feel better himself.

You need to pack up your children and leave this man. You are setting yourself up for a ton of heartache.

I do not care what his mental issue is, He has NO RIGHT to say that to you. Also his mental problems do NOT give him a pass to act like way. He need to take his meds

Answer 6

well..tryingly his self b4,psychological he s not healthy that's why he thinking that Ur cheating ,n i think he s believe in his sick thoughts,so u ask him to go to psychology doctor or u couldn't keep this unstable relation that's will hurt ur children if not now then afterawhile when they will grow up...trust in me its not about cheating its about sick,,take care of urself n talk to him kindly cuz he s a sick man n we cant guess how his reaction will b ..take care of Ur children n hide knifes from Ur kitchen n hide his gun if he have 1,,i dint mean 2 make u scare ,but just b carefull n dont use computer sometimes when he s at home...g luck

Answer 7

Look him in the face, after he get through saying all of that bull crap and tell him, he's lying and you are sick to death of his lying. Myspace is just a way of talking to friends if you are in a relationship, but to get caught is a whole other thing. That's what he was doing. BEING CAUGHT. After being caught he started telling all of these other lies. Now what are you going to do about it.

Answer 8

He is just telling you this story, because he got caught. If he loves you so much than he should marry you and get off the computer and flirt with other women. Action speak more than words.
Good luck.

Answer 9

he doesn't really believe its u cheating, he is saying this to deflect onto u what he is actually doing. when a man is cheating he often will accuse the wife of being the cheater so he won't be confronted or look bad. he is trying to save face at your expense. and he definitely would hook up with someone if there were any takers, and there will be one day. someone will fall for him and he will leave u, why endure this kind of treatment. get out of it and find someone who isn't so immature.

Answer 10

you leave him, that's what you do. do you really believe his BS storied about using the computer to make you upset because he thinks that YOU found someone else? honey, wake up. he's the one that has found someone else and he's filling you full of lies. get out while you still can.