Its like I know some people are for it and others are against it and I don't know what to think.
2007-12-28 13:20:02 · 24 answers · asked by Little Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wives shouldn't be disciplined by their husbands! I've really never heard of such a thing before and I've been married for almost 10 years!
2007-12-28 13:29:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I seriously hope you are talking about a husband that makes comments and not true "discipline". Either way - never in front of the kids unless you are doing something truly harmful. You would be surprised though at just how savvy kids are at what goes on when they "aren't right there".
If your husband disciplines you - you need to do some serious thinking. One, a marriage (or any relationship) should never be about whom is in control. We are not in the dark ages. And if he is physically harming you - GET OUT. Think of your children and what it teaches them, what they see, what they feel - let alone what it is doing to you and your self-worth. Lady - look in a mirror!! YOU are a mother and THAT is one of the greatest things to be. Know that, feel that. You are a hero and the entire world to those children. It's why we are called Mom.
You are not a puppy or an unmanageable child - you are a grown woman. He should treat you with the respect you deserve no matter who is or isn't around.
2007-12-29 02:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by inbetweendays 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you his wife or his child, give me a break, you are a grown woman and no one has the right to discipline you, the only time an adult should receive discipline is from the court system, if you are so young or stupid that you require discipline than you should not be married or left in charge of children, as this denotes someone that is not responsible enough to take care of herself or do the right thing, and if you are allowing your husband to discipline you, you need psychiatric help, the only people that should have to be disciplined are children and as all things go children eventually grow up and leave home, is that what your husband wants you to grow up and leave home, cause when you have had enough of being treated like a child you will leave home and i hope you have grown up enough to take your children away from that kind of abuse, in that case you are not old enough to drive either, as if you are not old enough to take care of yourself i don't want you driving on the same roads that i and my family travel on, get a grip, and bring this type of nonsense to a stop so your sons and daughters don't grow up with that type of warped attitude of how a man and a woman behave towards each other
2007-12-28 13:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by Dale T 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Disciplined? What the hell do you mean by that? She's a wife and an equal, not a child or a piece of property, for crap sakes! Disciplined, my rosy red rectum! He needs to speak to her like an equal, respectfully - especially in front of the children. Even if he disagrees with something she's said or done, it is not proper or appropriate for him to "discipline" her. A calm, rational discussion is acceptable; nothing else is.
2007-12-28 14:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a major difference between discipline and PUNISHMENT.
Discipline is what makes one get out of bed and go to work or do their school work. Punishment is meted out on children for violating the rules.
ANY husband who would punish his wife in front of his children is a major league @sshole.
There are disagreements which are aired before children which teach them how married couples deal with conflict. To punish your wife for whatever reason is WRONG regardless.
To do that in front of children is even more WRONG. A marriage is a blending of husband and wife.
It IS NOT some sort of school principal from thee 19th century punishing a wayward school child
If this is the method of submission that his religion requires you to exhibit I would suggest you run and find a new religion.
2007-12-28 13:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A woman should not be disciplined by her husband period. He is NOT her boss he is NOT her father, he is her partner in the family and should behave accordingly. Obviously a husband who feels the need to "discipline" his wife feels inferior and in the "discipline" can he only feel adequate at best and "adequate" is just another name for mediocre and a mediocre partner is worse than none at all.
2007-12-28 14:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wife should not be disciplined. She is an adult. I would love to see mine try. If it is done it should not be done in front of the children. Do you really want them to think that this is how it is to be?
2007-12-28 13:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How does it make YOU feel? Do you feel inferior to him? Belittled?
Discipline???? Like that would happen to me. I am not a child anymore!!! I cannot stand to be put in my place! Does he believe in that "Women need to be submissive to the husband" philosophy?? Maybe I was a single parent for too long but no man will ever "discipline" me!
2007-12-28 16:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by polkcindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
husbands have no right to discipline their wives at all in any way, if they do they may have a control problem. if the husband has something to say to his wife he should talk to her privately, what is this man teaching his children ? what a child is exposed to is often how they act in adulthood. not to mention how the poor wife feels. some women will take it but most will not.
2007-12-28 13:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well no wife should be disciplined by her husband for starters. And two if that is the case...It should not be done infront of kids.
2007-12-28 13:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by Rae70 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋