I have been married for almost 3 years. I have been a faithful wife and mom. Lately I have been, wanting to have an affair. With no one in particular. I have dreams of other men and I tend to watch other men when I go out. I don't want to break my husbands heart, but I can't stop these thoughts. What is wrong with me? Why do I want to do something so drastic?
2007-12-28 19:03:42 · 8 answers · asked by Ms. Logan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i often have those feelings and thoughts to, i think its just because we are used to waking up next to the same person everyday, nothings new and exciting any more.. and the idea of meeting someone new and having those butterflys and giddy feelings bk excites us...
plan somthing special with your hubby, get away just the two of you, focus on each other only nothing else, and do somthing wild and exciting together, spice it up a bit ya know.. gotta add flavour soo it dosnt keep tasting plain.
2007-12-28 19:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by Golden_Godess 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are experiencing a hormonal fluctuation or perhaps your husband just doesnt interest you like before?
You can try to remedy this by making dates with your husband and doing things together more often. Plan dates 3 - 5 times a month -- going away for a weekend, or just to the zoo. Join a gym and go together. Learn to dance. Go on picnics. Take hikes. sometimes just saying home and playing a few games of cards is a good way to reconnect and interact... it allows for some conversation.
I'm not sure why you are feeling like this now, but maybe try some diversions.. you can also take up brisk walking or exercising, find a new hobby?
I do think that doing things with your husband is very important.
2007-12-28 19:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a hobby to occupy your time. Just because the thought popped into your head doesn't mean you need to carry it out. It's called self-control. Perhaps you and your husband need to work on your marriage so you don't have these thoughts?
2007-12-28 19:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is only a fanatasy think it through what would you like your husband to do if he had the same wishes you would want him to use self control
you are looking for passion try what some of the other replies spoke about trying dating etc but look to yourself to find a passion art etc to vent your feelings
Infidelity destroys so many peoples lives it is not worth it
2007-12-28 20:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by BeeBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dig deep into your soul for the answer.
I can only tell you that if you cherish your marriage, and respect your husband, you will continue to be faithful.
If not.....
2007-12-28 19:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bored with your relationship with your husband. You need to put the spark back into it.
2007-12-28 19:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you, its human nature to look around. Don't act on your impulses though or you will destroy your family.
2007-12-28 19:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by slo_gin007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will break sooner or later, you got that fever like the girl on black snake moan.
Email me. ;-)
2007-12-28 19:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋