An emotional affair was ended and now under counselling (she want to stay, I want to go). Wife threaten to commit suicide if divorce? I said if counselling is useless in 6 mths, divorce will be filed? Am I right?
2007-12-28 20:19:36 · 12 answers · asked by TT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No pressure then?
2007-12-28 20:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not right in placing negativity and rules to counseling which hasn't started. If you are to go to counseling it should be with an open mind. If you are doing this just to appease your wife then you should make that clear right up front with the counselor. But you should try to look at your wife as the person that you met... or even a young girl. And think of this: Anger and hatred is usually fear. Love sometimes appears as hatred. Insecurity and depression are not always forever and can sometimes cloud your judgement.
I wish you luck and hope that you don't make decisions right now... Nor should you threaten a divorce and have that hanging over your wife's head while you are both supposed to be trying to work this out. It's controlling and egotistical to do that to your wife. It's obvious she loves you and wants this to work... don't threaten or control.. let a counselor help or not.
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2016-05-16 05:31:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do understand that she wants you to stay with her. I do understand that. I do understand that you want to go as well. Well, she should not threaten to commit suicide if you divorce her. Thats not right. Thats putting pressure on you to stay with her even though in this case divorce might well be the best option. Well, six months gives more then enough time. I would say if something does not change big time then yes divorce will be filed. Though sometimes its the counsellors fault that it did not work and not yours or her fault.
2007-12-28 20:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can make the decision if you should stay in the marriage or decide to end it. However, if you chose to stay, you should continue to support your wife emotionally until she is able to stand by herself and move on with her life. After all, divorce is a very emotional time in any ones life and you need to make sure that there is absolutely no way that you two can reconcile your differences.
2007-12-28 20:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, life is too short to be miserable, and you should not sacrifice your own sanity for hers. If it does not work, move on, if she chooses to commit suicide that will be on her, you have done everything that you are obligated to do. Keep her counselor or doctor informed of the impending divorce so that they can be ready for the emotional onslaught.
2007-12-28 20:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by simplyfabulous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, well i guess if you was the one who cheated(emotional affair) you was already done and is she cheated (emotional affair) then she is acting, because if she loved you more then her own life she wouldn't have cheated either way I think for both of you if the counseling isn't working you both need to decide if waiting 6m would do anything if not get on with it
2007-12-28 20:50:05 · answer #7 · answered by onenonlymanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if finding out about your affair has really upset her,and now your putting a time frame on resolution don't think your right there mate good luck
2007-12-28 21:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by RAINBOW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got a nutcase. Find the authorities and friends....and let them onto this situation. Start planning your exit shortly. She needs in-house treatment and has severe issues. Don't make any indepth conversations with her...you are just wasting time. Be nice about it.....but you really got to leave this gal real quick and she needs to get real mental help, and some serious therapy. Marriage counseling is worthless in this case.
2007-12-28 20:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by pepsionice 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why don't you both get some counseling?
2007-12-28 20:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you shouldnt have to stay if ur not happy
2007-12-28 20:23:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋