after 4 years of being together, and engagment ring, and baby and all the bullshit under the sun that i have stood by my man for...he turns to me, the day after christmas, 3 days before my birthday and says..."im just not that into you anymore" i have never been so hurt in my life and dont even know where to start to get over this. i hate him, and i dont hate anyone, hes says thats normal, and someday ill appreciate him for ending things...but i wont.....what the hell do i do!! im also 3000 miles away from home...and he expects me to sit here with him til i have enough money to go home, so i dont have to ask my parents for money or to move in with them....does my life get any fn worse?
2007-12-28 19:17:31 · 18 answers · asked by Teri C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While I am so very sorry that happened to you, it could always have been far worse. For instance, you sound like you are young. There are so many who devoted decades of their lives to a bad relationship and ended up with nothing, and little chance to rebuild their lives. Count yourself as lucky that you do have a long and potentially full life ahead of you, as odd as that may feel right now.
2007-12-28 19:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by lmspencr 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing I can really say other than thank god you found out now, rather than 10 years from now. I know you must be devastated! I'm so sorry you had to go through all that! Just remember that you had a life BEFORE him, and you've got a life AFTER him. You said he expects you to wait until you have enough money to go home.... Well. I wouldn't do a damn thing that he expected me to. You do exactly what YOU want to do, and the hell with him. If you want to ask your parents for help, do it. If you want to move back home, do it! Forget about what he wants and expects. It's about you and your child now. You'll be okay, just hang in there. I wish you the best!
2007-12-29 03:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He' a jerk to put it nicely! Call your parents and borrow the money to go home. If you have to move in with your parents then so be it. Family is there to help you out when you need it. Why sit there with him when you could be around people that love and care for you. It would do you good to get away from there so you can think things over and do some soul searching.
2007-12-29 03:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that your relationship is over. Your guy's timing is awful as well. I would suggest that you need to leave as soon as possible. Even if you do have to go to your parents for money or a place to live. Staying there with him will only make things worse. It will be very painful for you to continue to be around him now that you know he doesn't want to be with you. You will resent him more if you stay. It doesn't seem like it now, but someday it will get better.
2007-12-29 03:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by jpete 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pack up what little things you have and move home. Dont do what he expects you to do. That is probably what went wrong in the relationship in the first place. The bad part is if you decide to go you have a child with him and you would have to separate them. But sometimes you have to do what is best for the both of you.
2007-12-29 03:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by DidIt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Sweety but you are getting exactly what you deserve.
When you go to bed with a guy and get knocked up you just showed him you are not worth respecting.
You are an old joke: "I wouldn't want to marry any gal that would be willing to screw me before we got married."
Dump the *** hole. He doesn't deserve you. Take the engagement ring to a pawn shop, get some money and go home,or bite the bullet and call your parents for money to go home. This guy is going to start kicking your *** for not leaving. He used you and now he wants some new pussy. You jumped in bed with a real looser. Cut your losses and get away from him.
2007-12-29 03:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by Harry Laborde 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have been together for four years,he is responsible for you and the baby, do not move, go see a solicitor,get advice on how to get maintenance for you and the baby, hit him in the pocket where it hurts the most, and I am sure you will be glad he is out of your life, apart from the check he will be sending you every month, good luck
2007-12-29 03:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have p[parents that can and will help you there is no shame in going back home, why stay and be hurt over and over. Think of the baby. You will get on your feet and one day get over him, prob not completely but you'll get by and be a stronger woman for it. Good luck
2007-12-29 04:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by onenonlymanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it could get worse. He could have kept his mouth shut and just been seeing others behind your back until he found the one he wanted to leave you for, 10 years from now. This way, you get to recover and go on and have the chance to find happiness a lot sooner. I wasted 22 years with a coward who wasn't brave enough to do what your man did.
2007-12-29 03:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy's a dick. Bite the bullet & ask your parents for the money so you can get the hell outta there. They will understand once you spill the beans on the situation.
Break ups hurt like hell but you'll get over it, i promise!
2007-12-29 03:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by Lizzywiz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋