I've been thinking about making a journal online about my recent breakup of a 20 yr. relationship. I wrote this article about a month ago, right after my birthday, when I was feeling pretty low. Do you think it's a worthy topic and a worthy start? I look forward to some feedback. Thanks.
2007-12-28 19:15:22 · 8 answers · asked by djjroberts 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that writing and journaling about our lives is helpful for self-improvement. We can go back to something we might have written months back, and see how we have improved or changed.
Do whatever makes you feel better.
take care. and remember to move forward.
2007-12-28 19:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's anybody's business but yours. You might benefit from a few counseling sessions rather than publishing it for the world to see. It takes quite awhile to get things back together after the breakup of a long-term relationship. (Took me 2 years.) So my best advice would be to put it away in the back of a drawer and take it out every six months to read and add information. This way it will be a running journal to prove to yourself that you're moving on. You will be able to see how you're building strengths and where you need to work on it.
I'm not sure you'd get the right kind of support or feedback from an online journal. The tendency would be for those who read it to turn it into an on-line pity party.
However, I'm a very private person and this sort of thing wouldn't appeal to me.... but that's just me. If you think you'd benefit from the process, then go ahead and do it. I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope you find peace and happiness through the journal process.
2007-12-29 03:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to get over your 20 year relationship and move on with your life.. stop thinking about it.. writting poems journals or what ever you do is not going to bring back the relationship.. and nobody but you realy cares about your 20 years with some person thats between you and them ..go write a ournal about what you are going to do from now until the rest of your life
2007-12-29 03:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you write about it once, it is cool...but a JOURNAL... no way. It's over and if you allow yourself to keep dwelling you will OVERANALYZE like crazy... You will go back and re-read old entries and you will be stuck in the WHY... Don't do that to yourself. You will constantly want closure but you can't have real closure if you only have one side to view.
Coming for a former overanalyzer, the best closure is your own ending on it... and to move on.
2007-12-29 08:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure why not. There may be other people going through the same situation and they would like to read about your experience. Besides it may help you to get over it by talking it out.
2007-12-29 03:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by DidIt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends if you can't take the pain of remembering your 20 yr relationship with someone i advice you not to do it. it will be degrading and really hard to accept.
but if you can bear the pain its fine as long as you do not regret it. my point here is if you feel that you can do it no one is stopping you.
2007-12-30 00:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything is worthy to someone.
2007-12-29 03:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely, it may very well help others who are in similar situations, and could be helpful to you as well.
2007-12-29 03:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by lmspencr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋