I want to know what people don't consider of when they think of marriage. Is it really different from what people imagine? And also if you can, give your age. Is marriage worth it?
2007-12-25 19:00:20 · 18 answers · asked by sweetdreams 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If done with the right person then its heaven.
2007-12-25 19:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a loaded question. Marriage runs both ends of the spectrum from time to time. It's can be great and it can be a nightmare. you spend alot of time with just one person and things do go wrong from time to time. There is no fairytale like marriage as people hope for. Is marriage worth it. I would say yes very much so when it's right there is nothing better than what can be gotten from marriage. But marriage is another full time job if either or both people quit or get lazy it wont work out very long from that point. I am 34 and have been married and divorced twice. ( With the right person I would get married again )
2007-12-25 19:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by frank61799 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my husband 3 yrs and we had a child before we got married. I was 21 one when we married and we have been married 10 yrs I'm 31 now. Marriage is just like a long term relationship except that you have a marriage certificate. I love being married. We have had hard times but we got through them. We have a great marriage and my husband is the only person that I fully trust. He is my best friend with extra benefits! We have 2 kids now and its great. I always wanted to get married like Mum and Dad and formalise things our way.
Marriage is worth it to me, but it isn't for everyone. A long term relationship works just as well for people who don't feel like they want to be married, because it is made up of the same things between 2 people. Love, trust, friendship, attraction, honesty, respect, fun, loyalty and being there for each other in good times and bad times. Hope this answer helped you.
2007-12-25 19:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by annie76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married from when i was 18 and i am now 20. i don't know if it is worth it because it will leave you with a "trapped" feeling whenever the relationship spins out of control. Honestly though there are times when i look at my husband and feel completely infatuated and in love with him. But when we fight my marriage becomes the most wicked thing to happen to me. It's definitely a roller coaster, and if you're the kind that doesn't run away after a harsh fight, and you really love your partner, and all in all you both treat each other with great respect, the marriage should withstand well.
2007-12-25 19:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by ИΦĬςΩҐҐļº² 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is what you make it. There are times when it's hard, and there are times when it's the best thing you ever did. It goes both ways. Some say it gets boring, but you need to find ways to keep it exciting! The single life is fun, and much easier, but in the long run, it's so satisfying to know that I have someone who loves me waiting at home every night. Marriage is no joke, and not something to take lightly. It means sharing your life with someone else, and when you take your vows, you should take them seriously. Marriage may be hard, but divorce is a 1000 times harder! Good luck.
2007-12-25 19:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking, you're asking for "Pandora's box".
Philosophically speaking,(assuming a "christian" relationship) it should be a commitment between a man, a woman, & GOD. Moreover, things to be considered(not all, but some) "what do I "bring" to this relationship that makes my "mates" life better? What does my "mate" bring?" How do WE enhance each others lives(Do WE?)? Can we "grow" together to maintain/sustain a mutual harmony?
Is this helping? I hope so. Good luck.
Me? I'm 52, second marriage, almost 17 years this time.
2007-12-25 19:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a newly wed I've been married for 5 months and I absoluty love it I was 20 yrs old when I got married. It's really not that differnt from dating we didn't live together before we got married but that wasn't such a big cahnge well for some ppl it is but for me it wasn't when we was getting ready for the wedding and all I would take a step back alot and be liek is this the guy I really want to spend my life with and it was... thats just something that you have to do. We were worried about if we were going to have enough money to make it but we finally relized taht aslong as we loved each other we were rich with love. hope I helped...
2007-12-25 19:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by Natalie L 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been married one time to the same person for 12 yrs now. The thing you cannot predict as newlyweds is, what your lives will be like YEARS or DECADES from now and that NO ONE stays the same...everyone changes and grows.
Question to ask yourself, are you ready to risk spending your WHOLE life with those changes, no matter what (good or bad) they may be?
Its a tough question when the little lovey-dovey hearts and flowers fade....and they do fade.
2007-12-25 19:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people don't consider the fact that some person is going to invade your space. Eventually you get used to this person around most of the time. I didn't enjoy my 1st marriage, but I am REALLY enjoying my 2nd. I am 44 and it is WELL worth the pain, tears and joy!
2007-12-25 19:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by CJ P 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a nightmare and a lie. Don't listen to those people that say they are so happy they are lying. Take an honest look at all the married people you know!!! Take an honest look at all the married people you know that say they are happy!!! Are any of them truly "in love"?!?!??! NO!!! Being happy, settling are completely different than bein "in love"!!! Did you notice when they stopped being in love?!??! When they got married. Good luck and don't do it!!! You have been warned. Email me if you want honest answers to your questions.
2007-12-26 02:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 18. It's worth it. I can tell you that. Yes i'm young and dont criticize me for it. Me and Jake wanted to get married. We have been together for 4 years. His parents kicked him out of the house because they hated him. So he moved in with my parents. (he lived across the street) and that was bout 8 years ago.
2007-12-25 19:12:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋