how do you overcome a restraining order if you feel the other girl wants to see you? we had a breakup and got into a huge fight - she cheated and i said some thing like threatening to go to her ex husband where she would lose her custody.i didn't mean it. before we had the chance to talk about it - she filed a temporary restraining order. the argument was over another guy she began seeing while she was with me for two months. i went over to her place when i wasn't supposed to so i could pour my heart out, and was afraid i was losing her to the other guy. she called the police. the restraining order went permanent. in the last four months, she has heard through friends why our relationship fell apart and now she understands and wishes she could see me, but she's very scared of losing custody b/c if she drops the restraining order, her ex will use it against her in her current custody battle. what could i do in this situation b/c i still love her?
2007-12-25 18:32:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we lived together for four months. the last two she was cheating. but it was my fault b/c i abandoned her emotionally when i got scared of her ex husband. he's really going after her in the custody battle. and i was scared to get into that situation. but now i realize this is truly the only woman i've ever loved.
2007-12-25 18:35:03 · update #1
i am so hurt by all this. i have never been in trouble with the law. i am an educated, decent person. this is so hurtful, ya know.
2007-12-25 18:51:29 · update #2
Wow, sounds like someone's got a low self esteem..... why would you be so MADLY IN LOVE with someone who cheated on you........ and then blame YOURSELF for *HER* betrayal on top of it ..... !!!!!!???!! That's not healthy, it sounds like you're rather obsessed and addicted to the drama.... not in love. And I think that everything happens for a reason... maybe all this happened for you to realize that you 2 are not meant to be. It's not the husband's or anybody else's fault..... you tried, you both failed, it didn't work... end of story.
I agree with lovepeace..... if that woman REALLY wants you just as bad as you want her, SHE will come looking for you.The custody battle cannot last forever, at some point that issue will be solved and then she will be free to drop the restraining order IF SHE WANTS TO.... why are you SO SURE that she wants to do it??? If her fear for what could happen on her custody battle is greater than her desire to be with you, then I guess you should ask yourself whether her feelings are as strong as yours. Maybe you're just projecting on her what you would "LIKE" things to be like, not what they really are.
If she betrayed you, on the other hand, I wouldn't think that this is the right person for you. And no, WE ARE NOT guilty for someone else's choices and actions. Take responsibility for your part on this situation BUT let her take her share as well. She doesn't sound like good news to you...... and I'm glad that you can't approach her because that way it will be easier for you to move on and get over her. Good luck.....
2007-12-25 18:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before you had a chance to talk about it..? Whatever that is supposed to mean stay away from her because people like you scare all of us.
Just go ahead and let that permanent restraining order ride out.
2007-12-26 02:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE!!! ...LEAD A DEFENSIVE LIFESTYLE...do a google on "Tom Leykis Rule 101" ...understand that a domestic violence order is a criminal record and it's up to a judge, not her, to drop it. for her to drop it, she must admit in court that she lied and she might possibily goto jail. now, since, it permenantly appears on your record for 5 to 10 years, your limited in finding a good job and career; also, your social welfare benefits will be limited; shelters will deny you; also, if your planning to start your own business, forget it...your life has been effectily ruined....you've been marked as violent, volitle, combustible, meaning you'll be in jail for a long long time, very very very soon....i advice you to get a GREAT restraining order defensive lawyer...since your not willing to take as the second place boyfriend, why would you take second or third place from her own kids? ....for the well-being of her children, keep her kids away from her current lifestyle. NOTE: YOUR ENEMY'S ENEMY IS YOUR BEST FRIEND.
2007-12-26 03:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that your perception of what SHE wants is different from reality. THATS why she has a restraining order on you. My advice... leave her the hell alone or you are going to jail.
2007-12-26 02:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah heres how get over her burn all ur memories and delete everything that remind u of her cuz i think a restraining order says were over. she cheated just get over her if she wants u she'll come find u so...? why are u whining?
2007-12-26 02:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by lovepeaceopinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know that choosing you..she can lose custody..then leave her alone...to much drama...she cheated anyway..it will happen again...build a bridge and get over it..move on with someone that cannot have you arrested for violating order again
2007-12-26 02:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by ~Jenny~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You reap what you sow. There is not much you can do. You don't need to put the children in that situation. Be a man, and walk away.
2007-12-26 02:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try to let it go. What sucks is that only time can heal things like this one.... So just let it go and move on the sooner the better.... Honest!
2007-12-26 03:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by webblebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing leave it! this is a toxic relationship your both going to have to face it! better now than later.......................edit; smart, educated people can get involved in bad, unhealthy relationships. we cant help who were attracted to, but we should try to be rational in our decisions.
2007-12-26 02:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a toughie. good luck though=]
2007-12-26 02:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋