I am currently 17 years old. I graduate highschool in 4 months and I am already dually enrolled in college. My boyfriend is a United States Marine. We met when I was 14 but just got together a year ago. He is currently serving in Iraq and will be home about the same time I graduate. He is 20yrs old. I know he is going to pop the ? when he gets back and I love him and want to be with him FOREVER! We do not plan on getting married until I graduate college (2yrs) but is this too young to be considering marriage. I know deep down I am ready for this with him but I know my parents are going to freak out. What do you guys think?
2007-12-31 02:18:04 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He will be out of the Marine Corps in a year. ;))
2007-12-31 02:30:01 · update #1
&&my parents LOVE him. and his family LOVES me. && we love each other!!!! i just think my parents will say that im too young to know what i want.
2007-12-31 02:32:25 · update #2
I am 6 credit hours away from my AA. thanks tho. i will only have two yrs left for my major!
2007-12-31 02:33:18 · update #3
It's your choice, no one will be able to stop you or make the decision for you.. good luck
2007-12-31 02:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes honey you are toooooo young! PLEEEEESSSSE wait!! your parents will have a reason to freak out!!! you have all of your life ahead of you and if he really loves you he should understand. If he does not undertand that then he is not the one for you anyway!!
2007-12-31 03:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by vonsmommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are too young to get married, but I do think you can be too dumb to get married.
If your parents know that they did not properly prepare you for marriage then of course they are very concerned. If you are true in your knowing/belief/feelings then educate yourself even more than you may have. Find a premarriage class to attend. Something that is more than three days. If you know you know that your parents did not train you on issue of life then you need to seek with all dilegence all the wisdom you can get. An ask your love to do the same.
Ask the hard questions now!! Assume nothing about your love! NOTHING!! If you are afraid to ask him, then know that you already have a problem.
So too young, No. However, too stupid, YES! Educate yourself and ask the hard question of him and yourself.
Read Fasinating Womanhood.
2007-12-31 02:48:41 · answer #3 · answered by Naomi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was your age I thought the boyfriend I had was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, I was so convinced he was the one, & I made the mistake of allowing my feelings & emotions take over, looking back I should have listened to my brain, & my mother, as I did end up in a ugly divorce that was preventable had I not been so imature, but hey, I was 17, what did I know? Now 20 years down the road, things have changed drastically, as they will for you, you are not gonna be the same girl you are now, versus when you are 20, & at 20 you wont be the same as when you are 25, you are gonna go thru many changes, and with these changes you will not feel the same about this guy as you will at age 25, because you wont be the same, so many people tried to explain this to me, but I never did listen, so its up to you, are you gonna use your brain? or act upon emotions & feelings? If you were my daughter & you told me that you were thinking about marriage, I would explain this to you & hope to god that you waited at least untill you were 25. Also, theirs no rush, many young women are in this big hurry to get married, then they do & they regret it, you are only 17! Slow down! If this man cares for you & loves you, he will respect your decision to wait till you are ready.
2007-12-31 02:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 18 and my husband was 21. He was in the Navy at the time. On the third we celebrate our 6th wedding anniversary. I wouldn't trade it for the world.
There is no right age or wrong age to get married. You have to decide whats right for you once you are 18.
Truth is a lot of young marriages especially young military marriages can fail, but a lot of the succeed. Ive seen both. We succeeded we have seen failed marriages.
A lot of people get married at an older age have failed marriages, but a lot of them are great. I again have seen both.
Its up to you to decide, you have to live your live for yourself. Not how someone else tells you to live it.
Girl you really do sound like you have your head on straight. Listen to your heart. You know whats best for you and your boyfriend.
2007-12-31 02:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by Cebsme 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you guys should live together first for at least 1 year, and see how it goes. It's almost the same as getting married... but you sould wait until you've been together long enough.
2007-12-31 02:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by mommy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I got married at 19, it wasn't a wise decision. I didn't know ANYTHING about being an adult and living in the adult world...I went from being a kid and living with Mom, to being a wife.
My advice to all young people is to experience a few years being an adult. How we feel about ourselves, others, emotions, life, etc changes a LOT between our teen years and becoming an independent adult. If you and this guy feel the same about each other a few years down the road, then go for it...but there's always the chance that maturing and life experience in the near future may cause one or both of you to see that you aren't a good match after all.
Mid-20s and up, imnsho, is an appropriate time to start thinking of marriage. Prior to that, the risks of failure are high (the younger you are, the higher the risk) because ya just don't know who you are yet or what you want out of life...as an adult.
2007-12-31 02:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are asking this kind of question, you already know the answer. At 17 you are in love, but still to young to make a life long comitment to someone. Just don't rust into anything. If after you graduate college, and get yourself grounded in life, and your feeling haven't changed for this young man, than go for it!!
2007-12-31 02:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by Life*goes*on 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it's too young. You two need to spend more time together. There's nothing wrong with dating for a few more years.
2007-12-31 02:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by Alice Lockwood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait. You're too young to tie yourself down in this way. If you really love each other, then your relationship will survive waiting. Go to college, and then see how you feel. Give yourself a chance to see a little of the world before you make any final decisions.
Good luck.
2007-12-31 02:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are doing the right thing by waiting, there is nothing wrong with planing, and if you love him and he loves you then there is nothing more to be said!
2007-12-31 02:21:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋