I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and he wants us to have a baby. He's a very responsible individual (more than I). However, he won't even think of us moving into together unless I'm pregnant. He says I'm rushing him on that, but he's rushing on having a child. I told him if he wants to have a child we at least need to be living with each other first. I would prefer marriage before having a child, but at least living together is a start for a stable home. He says that he loves me and that time is running out for kids and that we can worry about moving in later. I would love for us to have a child together, but not sure if I'm wanting to compromise myself that far.
2007-12-31 03:38:35 · 32 answers · asked by Courtney B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is very interested in my fertility. He's a great boyfriend though. He works 12 hours shifts at the hospital 4 days a week and spends the remainging time with me and my daughter. He's very affectionate and not the type to cheat and run around all hours of the night partying. If I'm not at his house, he's at my apartment. We spent Christmas with my friends and Thanksgiving with my mother. This is the first guy my mother has ever liked. She doesn't know he wants to have a kid though. I don't want to get away from him. I want to continue our relationship. I've told him how I feel. We've not brought it up in a few days wondering who is going to bring it up again.
2007-12-31 03:52:59 · update #1
Would it be wise to show him the results of this Answers questionaire or would that probably come off wrong?
2007-12-31 05:14:22 · update #2
STOP!
You've only been together 5 months? Gads, talk about rushing!! Wait until you've been together 6 months or more before living together, then living together harmoniously at least 1 yr before even thinking about bringing a child into the picture.
You two barely know one another, don't know if you are compatible to live together, so have no business having a child together (how badly do you want to be a single monther fighting to get child support? hmmmm???)
Think about this with your logical brain, not the one that thinks it's "in luv".
2007-12-31 03:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ok its stupid to think of that in case you have a toddler you wont be waiting to end college. All you're able to desire to do is get a job. in case you have a toddler it could definitely make your college greater value-effective. the government will bypass off of your earnings rather of your mothers and fathers. The state has information for low earnings people in case you progression out on your individual for housing and baby care. Your mothers and fathers are being *** holes. I advise its your toddler, in case you desire to have it do no longer enable them to allow you recognize to no longer. Its no longer a decision you may undo in case you have an abortion. I advise in case you men do final. How could you experience in case you knew you killed your first toddler? ( i understand you stated you had an abortion be for. in case you had that toddler with the boyfriend you're with now and you men the place nevertheless at the same time now could that be no longer easy which you will handle?) Its no longer continually a brilliant option to have a toddler. even nonetheless it is your decision. you're 23 a suitable age to have a toddler. and you in easy terms have 3 semesters until eventually you're executed with college and could get a physically powerful pastime and you would be set for existence. you're able to have your loved ones and your pastime. merely ensure you end college on account which you're so close. in case you and your boyfriend are truly close you 2 could desire to stay at the same time a minimum of until eventually you 2 are executed with college. yet on account which you 2 stay one after the other you does no longer understand how that could desire to paintings or if the two one in each of you're able to be able to desire to get alongside (that could desire to be between you men) in the experience that your boyfriend had his bachelors he could desire to absolutely see if he can detect a job that could desire to look when you 2 until eventually you're executed with college then he could desire to bypass back to college and you're able to be able to desire to get a job. i can declare nonetheless My husband and that i are 21 going to college and have a toddler. Its no longer poor greater problematical because of the fact we've greater of a hectic schedule. yet i admire my daughter greater beneficial than something and that i could no longer fathom what i could have executed had the two one people desperate we could no longer take care of having a toddler together as going to college.
2016-10-02 23:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be putting yourself in a bad situation.
Being a single parent is extremely trying.
You have only known him for 5 months....I'm sure you have panties older than this relationship. The fact is that you probably do not know the real him, and why is he so stuck on getting you pregnant? Does he want you stuck cause thats what will happen.You should live with him for a year or so at the bare minimum before considering bring another person into the relationship.People don't usually rush something like this for no reason, I would investigate on that one.And if he truely, wholeheartedly loved you he wouldn't ask you to compromise yourself honey. I hope you think very deeply about this but maybe he isnt the one.
2007-12-31 03:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by cherokee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to me, it sounds like a very selfish request, hes thinking about more of what he wants then what you or the baby needs. don't ever lower your standards for someone else. it's just what worth it in the end, right now it seems ok, but ok will turn into something that younever wanted.
2007-12-31 03:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by kimber g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would try and get pregnant until I have lived with him for awhile. Wait til you are both ready to make that next step. Good Luck.♥♥
2007-12-31 03:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by ♥LS♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um hello....you have been with him for 5 months and he wants to have a baby?
RUN!
2007-12-31 03:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by Heather B 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
And if he impregnates you and leaves...what are you going to do Miss ??
2007-12-31 03:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by momof3 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
He makes NO since!!!!! Never have a baby with someone unless you are married. The liberal thinking of let's just have a kid, we don't have to be married is BS. A child needs every advantage in life and the possibility of a stong family unit is important. If you want to learn more, read about Blended Family problems. You won't have a blended family initially, however, with a start like this.....chances are you will and you should know what you are in for. Good luck.
2007-12-31 03:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by Rein 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!!
2007-12-31 03:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by Joan H 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If he's 'responsible' then he would offer you marriage first. Don't do it.
Be careful...he sounds controlling if he's ALWAYS with you when not at work.
2007-12-31 03:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by mmturtle 5 · 9⤊ 0⤋