Just wondering on general opinions about getting married young. I personally plan on getting married around 23-24 after daying my boyfriend for over 3 years. (I'm 22 now.) We personally think that it's not too young at all, and it'll actually be easier on me and boyfriend to be together earlier since we can't live together until we married.
My cousin got married at 19 to a 24 year old guy and they've lived happily together for the last 10 years, no problems.
Recently a friend of mine got married at 22 to a 25 year old guy, and they seem very down-to-earth and happy with the marriage.
A family friend's daughter just got married at 18 to a 19 year old. I feel less comfortable with this because they're practically out of high school, not college.
How young is too young? When do you think someone is old enough to make such an important decision about their life?
2007-12-31 02:09:26 · 24 answers · asked by Evoo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Being prepared for marriage is less about age and more about maturity and wisdom. What some young people fail to realize is how little they know about themselves, life, commitment and the stages of love.
You sound more intelligent than most your age. I think waiting is wise.
As one Top Contributor has written, "Wait for the right person and the right time, then marry for the right reason."
Good luck!
2007-12-31 02:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are right - A promise ring at this stage is more than sufficient... you are on the right track.. I can't tell you if your relationship were to last if you stay together for another 4 years as a relationship is a two-way street. I met my husband when I was 17, married at 23.. I currently have 2 children and have been married for 15years.....do you think we've made it? NO! considering life expectancy is approx 78 years, email me again in 40 years & I'll tell you if it's worked out ;) - MARRIAGE IS HARD WORK! tell you friends if they fight over petty thing now they are just looking for heart ache by getting married so young... 23 was too young. If I had to do it all over again I probabley would of waited until about 30.
2016-05-28 05:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by bev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents got married when my dad was 21 and my mom was 16. They were together until my dad died of cancer 30 years later. My husband and I got married when I was 18 and he was 23. So far, so good! We've been married 3.5 years and now have a beautiful daughter. I dont think its a matter of age, its a matter of the individuals and what they can handle and what their situations are. My husband and I lived together at me parents house for 2 years before we were married and then when we got married when I was 18 we moved into our own place. Every situation is different and every person is different. Even if for some reason you dont want to have sex before marriage, I would definitely recommend living together for awhile first to test the waters. Good luck!
2007-12-31 02:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if you are old and mature enough to worry about these things, you are probably going to be fine. Teenagers that get married in spite of advice to the contrary because of an "I don't give a damn what everyone else thinks" attitude are showing a lack of maturity that will most likely doom their marriage unfortunately.
2007-12-31 02:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by saturdays child 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what keeps people together? There were couples married after knowing each other 2 weeks during WWII that stayed together happily their whole lives. Personally, I married my only real boyfriend at 20, after being together many years.
Everything went great until his mid-life crisis at 40, when he had an emotional affair, then sex with someone else - a co-worker. 2 years of marriage & individual counseling later, I left him as he made no changes. I did not even ask him to quit the job, just make some changes. He would not even move to another position, shift, anything.
I feel personally we should have dated other people, and started a career first. People need to know themselves and feel comfortable standing on their own before they tie their life to someone else.
2007-12-31 02:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by mustanglynnie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have not my husband for 4 years before we got married last year when i was 22y/o and we now have a baby it is wonderful i don't regret it at all
2007-12-31 02:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by MEETOO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are way to young to even consider getting married.
2007-12-31 02:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It actually wouldn't be bad, because that's the recommended age to get married. If you guys are truly in love, i would say go for it!
2007-12-31 02:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different, there is no magic age. I know people who got married young and are still very happy, and people who got married later in life and it didn't last.
That being said, I wouldn't recommend getting married before the age of 25.
2007-12-31 02:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 21. But I had known him since we were in kindergarten. We went to the same church, had the same friends, etc. So for us, it was a piece of cake...almost like our next step. But every situation is different. I don't think someone should get married younger than 18 though. That is a legal adult.
2007-12-31 02:13:23 · answer #10 · answered by *Almost ready* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It usually dosn't work, Sorry
2007-12-31 02:11:48 · answer #11 · answered by gldchild2 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋