husband does not want to share in house work should I be a slave cause i am not working?

Answer 1

Whatever you decide to do, remember, this is the way you are training him.

Do you want him not to share? Then do everything

Do you want him to have responsibilities, then give him some and put him on a routine.

He will never help if you do not get him to help from the beginning. He lives there too.

Answer 2

okay he works but so do you, keeping a household running smoothly is no easy task, i know. he expects to get definite time off from work so why shouldn't you. even in the fifties men were expected to get stuff done around the house.try stroking his ego about it "but baby you do it so much better than i do" play to his strengths and on his weaknesses.

Answer 3

No you shouldn't be a slave but if he is out there working while you are at home, then you should try to deal with the home front. If the chores that you do are beyond what you can handle then you may need help. If funds are available hire a part time housekeeper that can come in for at least 1-2 days out of the wk. If this isn't the case then talk to your hubby and ask him to chip in a bit when he is home like with the mundane things that take up some of your time such as, bath time for the kids or doing a load or two of wash like those kinds of things and I'm sure he will be glad to help out.

Answer 4

First off you shouldn't feel as though you are a slave in your own home....Being married and taking care of house hold duties in my opinion is a 100/100 thing. My husband and I don't have 50/50. If I come home and the house is a mess I clean because I saw it first and I'm taking on the responsiblity right then and there....I'm not going to wait until he gets home to take the trash out or wash the dishes...I see it needs getting done so I'm going to do it....simple as that. Now, being real there are times that I come home and my husband is home and things aren't they way they should have been but we discussed how we wanted to work taking care of the duties and we worked together to work it out...and that was that. I feel as though you should sit him down and let him know you are a mom I'm guessing and you have a lot on your plate...If he could come home and help with some small duites that would help you alot....I had to let my husband know the same thing....I was doing it all from trash to cleaning and he was just kicking it on the couch....That started to piss me off because I felt as though I was being a slave just as you were. And I just let him know I get tired just as you do, I want a rest just like you....if we want to keep our house clean and our family together we have to work out a plan to keep me from hurting you....lololol. Like I said just let him know, and start himw with little things and then work up from those....When he actually does somethings and see how hard they are he will def understand where you were coming from....Good luck :)

Answer 5

It depends on if you have kids. If not, then you should do all the housework. If you have kids then they are your priority (and that itself is a full time job) and he should pitch in sometimes to give you a break. Also, he shouldn't take advantage of you. If you cook chicken for dinner, then he should eat it and not expect you to cook something else. What do you mean by "slave?" Is he taking advantage?

Answer 6

You dont have to be a slave but the least you can do is keep the house clean have dinner ready when he gets home. He should not EXPECT for you to clean up after him when he gets home. He should be man enough to pick up behind himself. Its only fair that if you cook he sould wash the dishes.

Answer 7

I have never been a housewife...but I am off for Christmas break since the kids are out of school...my husband is out daily working...put yourself in his shoes; would you want to come home after working all day and he's at home doing nothing and the house look a mess? no, you wouldn't like it, neither would he, but there's no reason to complain about it..you like a clean house - he's not there to assist, then d what needs to be done. don't let trash and bacteria sit around until he gets home...that's just nasty.
if there are certain things you cannot do, like haul the trash out...then just ask him...but clean house and a full spread on the table never hurts if you are home all day...

Answer 8

Maybe when he came home all the house work would be done, and it would inspire him to pick up his stuff. I highly doubt that he just does nothing. Theres a good book called Proper care and feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura schlinger would be a good read for both of you. Yes it is your job when your a stay at home mom to have all the house work done, now in the evening when he gets home and you have the wonderful meal that you have made, yes there should be some help by him to complete the day, so you can ride off into the night in bliss. Read the book, youre fighting what alot of ladies would like to have, "BEING A STAY AT HOME MOMMY"....

Answer 9

Please define everything for example does he do the lawn upkeep, change the oil, shovel the driveway etc or are you complaining about laundry,dishes and cooking? Most guys who work all day wants to chill out after work not to come home to a house load of chores that could have been done while he was working. The base problem with housework it is very routine and boring but needs to be done. So maybe if you could shake up the routine by trading off things or sharing them with him. For example switch off cooking but be creative with menus or shared cleanup with a glass of wine instead of nagging or complaining. You get more with honey than vinegar!

Answer 10

You said you are not working.Well your job is to take care of the household.There is no excuse for you not to have the house work done and dinner on the table when your husband walks in the door.Even with children on most days this is possible.You must be just a lazy excuse for a wife.Grow up and take on some responsibility or get out and find a job outside the home if you want him to help with the housework.

Answer 11

If you aren't working shut up!!! Once you are both working then split the work. Women want equal right and want everything to be fair. What would make you think that he should work then come home and F(*&&*NG clean when you don't even work?!?!? Are you insane?!!!