Marriage & Divorce - 27 December 2007

at my ultrasound today we found out we were having a girl.this is my second child with my husband. (from previous marriages he has 3 sons with me he has another daughter). he actually cried i felt so bad because i know he wanted another boy.hes been ignoring me and slamming things around the house wat should i do

2007-12-27 04:45:35 · 19 answers · asked by jelly bean 1

My husbad and I are going through child custody battle for our 4 children. Unfortunately, I left them with him temporary to relocate in another state and plan on returning for them. He now wants to fight for custody. The thing is he is a state trooper and he is very irresponsible and I feel unfit to continue to have custody of our children. When he comes home he leaves his gun out all over the place (kitchen counter, kitchen table, top of the frig, and even in the middle of the bahtroom floor!). Our son once was found showing it off to a friend. He also leaves the house wide open, the doors unlocked, the windows up, the curtains wide open, all the lights on at night when everyone is asleep in bed while he leaves the house to go run errors and thinks it's ok. I am the one primarily involved in their lives, school work and activities. Since I left grades have dropped to D's and F's from A's & B's. Is this enough to get custody even though he has them now and will try to claim abandonment

2007-12-27 04:43:13 · 16 answers · asked by Bnice2me 1

My daughter's father and I split when she was 1 yrs. old. He is very involved with my daughter. He recently married a very nice woman whome I like very much and so does my daughter. I know he is cheating on her but I don't know if it's my place to inform her. I don't want her to get hurt and I especially don't want my daughter to have to suffer through when she loses her step-mom that she is close too. I feel guilty knowing what he is doing and not saying anything....

2007-12-27 04:40:09 · 17 answers · asked by klynn598 2

I was eating rice last night and my girlfriend made me laugh so hard that I snorted rice right into my nose canal...how do i remove the damn rice...I tried sneezing it out and its stuck. HELP!!!!

2007-12-27 04:39:06 · 7 answers · asked by Cerealkiller 2

is it possible to be just friends with your husband once the seperation/divorce is final?? He is still living at the house in seprate rooms because of the holidays and us having a 4 yr old together we didn't want to ruin it for her. Is it possible to be friends with someone you can'teven stand to look at??

2007-12-27 04:36:39 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I posted a question earlier about me and my girlfriend making plans to travel together with my son and here is the repy I got from Colleen O. I am shocked at some of the replies I get from people not knowing the full story.
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On the contrary, your girlfriend has no right in making ANY plans for your son. Your visitation time with him is to be spent with HIM doing what HE wants to do in HIS time frame...not catering to your girlfriend. Actually she really has no right being a part of your visitation with your son at all...WHERE in your divorce papers does it say that she is included? I doubt very much that there is anything in the papers that even mention her.
Your son's mother has every right to not want her son associated with your girlfriend whether you like it or not and, no, as a child care provider you do not have the right to have your girlfriend watch him if you are at work when he comes for

2007-12-27 04:35:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have a great relationship. There's nothing wrong with that. This is about me. I'm in my mid 30's and I'm wondering when I will hit my sexual peak. I hear everyone talk about it. We have fun when we do but I want to be more in the mood than I am. Any suggestions. The craving and want to is there but when it comes down to it, I would rather sleep. I know that sounds bad but I don't want to be that way. Am I alone on this one?

2007-12-27 04:32:35 · 12 answers · asked by Happily Married/Mom 1

She was looking so much at this $25000 necklace when we went to shop for her birthday but I told her that I was saving the money 4 our future children (I don't want children, lol) and got her a bracelet for $49.99 + taxes. I am not that cheap, I also got her more than $200 worth of lingerie (they r for her and not 4 me, i mean she wears them and not me). I can consider the $25,000 necklace if she is going to always understand and not just once. If she doesn't want to participate that's fine but I just need her permission to bring other women home coz I don't cheat (nemore). we have been married 2gether for almost 3 months now. do u think that she will give me permission? Is there ne risk of being dumbed coz i don't wanna be dumped (i have always been the dumper and not the dumped). my secret is that: I dump them b4 they dump me. will it work? i think that she is str8 but i know that she is very kind. Help me plz.

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2007-12-27 04:24:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-27 04:16:48 · 17 answers · asked by Kat G 6

Do stay with my spouse? I have been involved with someone from work for quite some time now. I am in love with this person they are also in love with me and mean everything to me.Never have I felt this way about anyone before. I have 2 kids the other person is recently divorced & has 2 children also I have cheated on my spouse several times in the past but no feelings nothing this is so different . I can not get this person out of my head. I do not want to.

2007-12-27 04:16:02 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do stay with my spouse? I have been involved with someone from work for quite some time now. I am in love with this person they are also in love with me and mean everything to me.Never have I felt this way about anyone before. I have 2 kids the other person is recently divorced & has 2 children also I have cheated on my spouse several times in the past but no feelings nothing this is so different . I can not get this person out of my head. I do not want to.

2007-12-27 04:14:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do men look for when they choose a wife?

2007-12-27 04:13:43 · 8 answers · asked by SAS 1

We just got married. He took the virginity of 600 young women. He would go to clubs, libraries, colleges and parks and then bring home a girl. Sometimes he would get the girl drunk.He spoke the lingo and he is very handsome.and we just got married 3 months ago. He had about 2000 young women. I can give you circumstances, dates, names. I read a book about sociopathy and he fits the bill. Do I have to try harder ? What can I expect ? How do I love such a man? What are sociopaths like ? He has already threatened leaving after 2 serious arguments. How can I change such a man ? He was badly sexually abused as a child. How should I act ? Yes, I found this out before we married and I married him because I thought no one else would.

2007-12-27 04:05:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

After the break up with the guy I am in love with I got a rebound guy to make him jealous. The guy was cute, but treated me bad. My ex had told me he wanted to focus on college and that he loved me but we couldnt be together. When I got my rebound guy he was angry (hey, he sent me off). I am now married to and have a baby with the rebound guy. I am really in love with my ex and we still talk. Ive asked my husband for a divorce on many occasions but he wont give me one because of child support and he says "Im kidding".I just dont want to be with him. How can he come between two people like this> Why wont he divorce me? I think its selfish to do this, make me miserable with him when I am always wanting someone else.

2007-12-27 04:00:24 · 26 answers · asked by Retired Punk 2

i m 24 she is 25 it was her 4th engagment with me mine was first but we loved eachother so much i had lost my business after engagment and problem started in us i have done mistake that i had blem her for all my lost so many times..i realised my mistake and i m in hell without her but she is not ready to come back after apologising so much at her home everyone in saying she dont wants you she will never get marry anyone now..what do i do i cant live without her..i think she knows now that i m poor is this the reason?..but i love her..y i have given her pressure for my lost..i dont know how to get her back..i cant call her anymore her family given me this warrning..what should i do i see her enjoying with friends after leaving me in this pain..what do i do..?my heart is not ready to except that she is gone..i dont know why i m waiting for her..but i love her.she has not given me one more chance to live with her..plz guys how do i get her back now ?

2007-12-27 03:49:34 · 12 answers · asked by Rex 1

I'm 23 and am planning on going to college two years from now. (I'm moving and I want to get resident tuition so I'm waiting a year before I enroll). Anyway, my husband wants to wait until I graduate before we start a family but I plan on getting a doctorate (Psychology-- and yes I can-- I don't need the rubbish saying it's hard and I won't be able to-- that's not the question) and I'll be at least 35 before I do. I think that's a little late to have children and besides-- it's gonna be hard to try and NOT have a kid during the 10 years I'm in school. Anyone have a similar dilemma? I want to have a family and a career that pays well but I don't want to work for a company-- which is why I'd be a Psychologist and set my own hours. Is it possible to juggle everything all at once: my marriage, school, a career, kids? Serious answers please.

2007-12-27 03:34:33 · 15 answers · asked by Avelyn 4

I just ended a relationship of 20 years and the empathizer in me can't get over the guilt at the hurt he's feeling.

2007-12-27 03:31:36 · 16 answers · asked by djjroberts 3

it was maybe at age 8 my aunt died and i was adopted at age 5 do you think that my aunt that i got close to first in my new family may have something to do with my depression or is it something else my question is what do you think makes me feel depressed every christmas and then it goes away after words and how can i make it not come back or is it always just going to be part of my life. i feel so fresh and happy now. but around november it will return once again.
so what do you think about it?
just a thought so be nice i know alot of people try to be mean but, try to understand others feelings on things and good luck with the question......Happy New Years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-12-27 03:30:40 · 10 answers · asked by daisy 4

He took the virginity of over 600 women. How should I pray for those women. What kind of man was my husband and how should I act around him ? How do I quit the comparison game with all those young women ? My husband was sexually abused when he was a child. Me and my husband just got married, how easy will it be for him to leave me if we have a big argument ? Should I try harder. He was with other young women, lots of them who were nonvirgins when he was younger. I read a book about sociopaths and my husband fits the bill. How should I act ?

2007-12-27 03:26:36 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

True on false? And why... What are your thoughts on that?

2007-12-27 03:21:30 · 57 answers · asked by YinxSphinxmen 4

2007-12-27 03:17:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am newly divorced, and not looking for anything serious right now. I met a man who is also newly divorced and he just recently moved in with his girlfriend (which is rocky at times).
He wants a fling, and honestly I do too - I'm not looking for marriage or a lifetime committment. This can go 2 ways, we have a fling and end it - no harm no foul... or we have a fling and the girlfriend finds out - which means they weren't that strong to begin with. What do I do???

2007-12-27 03:07:06 · 60 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had a friend who has previously been married for about 5 years, and recently had gotten divorced. She came into my store asking me what she should do with the ring. I felt like she should have the diamonds reset into something new. She felt as if it represented a bad relationship and brought back bad memories. What is the right protocol on this one?

We recently asked this question on our blog and as always I like getting more opinions from the Yahoo community. View the full post here and post comments. http://www.kanemarie.com/blog/lifestyled/so_what_to_do_with_the_ring/

What is the right thing to do?

2007-12-27 03:03:13 · 83 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got married to years back and when I met the gal before the marriage I told her and her parents that my income was very less and as such I was not in position to bear the expenses of two persons as such I wanted my wife to do some job, on which the girl and her parents told me that the was a graduate and had done many computer courses and was getting many jobs offers, I was also told that the gal was a very good cook and cooking was her hobby. Though I wanted to marry a post graduate gal, but I agreed as I thought if I refuse the proposal the gal will feel bad. But soon my marriage I came to know that my wife is not even 10th and she doesn’t know how to cook she and her mother are very quarrelsome and they always try to do all sorts of black magic on me and my family. When they did not succeed in all their so called black magic they fabricated a tape recording in which she tried to involve me in false rape case (Sex with my minor maid servant whom I treated as my daughter) Now day by day I getting poor as my wife is a spend thrift, and steals my money, and goes on telling people that I don’t give her money, but the truth is I spend more money on her then any body else. I have don’t have much income and my wife is not willing to earn even a single penny. I don’t want to divorce her as my daughter life will be ruined, as my wife doesn’t take much care of her. I want to know how to make wife loyal and hard working and stop her from quarreling with people. My in laws are considered to be the worst people in town. My wife was not a virgin before marriage though I was. Some times she says I have illicit relations with my client and some times with my sis in law. Im dying slowly. I have been duped

2007-12-27 03:00:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you do to put your marriage back together after something tore it apart. You have both forgiven each other and are trying to move forward, but how. Going to church has, and communication is already taking place, but there still seems to be something messing, what do you do?

2007-12-27 02:44:51 · 16 answers · asked by april j 2

No names, dates times, or places. Have you ever cheated on your spouse? If so, if you enjoyed yourself and what the person did for you and how they made you feel, what made you stop? Knowing that it was wrong to begin with and if found out you would lose your family, honestly what made you stop.

2007-12-27 02:41:45 · 33 answers · asked by april j 2

She doesnt let us see her we love her dearly shes only 2 and we have a pending court date to enforce the visitation order (which she violates) he pays child support, and all we want is to drop off her xmas presents. Heres the thing she lives SUPER close so my husband simply went in the middle of the night and left them on the door step to be found in the morning, he didnt knock or ring the doorbell he just left them. The crazy b***h started texting him the next morning never to go by her house again other wise she would come to our house and act like a b***h. Can she really do anything? I usually mail her things at least once a month but it costs like $9.00 & thats just for a small box. Now we have more presents for her from the rest of the family and all we want is for her to recieve them without out us spending an arm and a leg.

2007-12-27 02:17:19 · 29 answers · asked by cluadia 1

my x husband sent me a court order agreement, for him to see his son for a month. My son is supposed to be back jan 4th..... but the x cant get him back til the 6th..... now reasoning cause he in military and has training on the 4th... well before he went on leave shouldnt he have knwn about this training? Plus i would like my son back on the 4th cause he has school on the7th and has not done xmas with my fiance and I...(also my fiance leaves thee 7th for training as well) i wnated some rest time in bet changes from one home to another and school........I dont have the cash for a lawyer.... do i have to agree to have my son back on the 6th? and can i still keep my orignial agreement for the 4th?

2007-12-27 02:13:23 · 8 answers · asked by prettiekittie1983 2

I am 19 y/o guy and in my second semester of college and never kissed or touched a girl at all. I think girls are really attractive just always to shy and no girl ever interested in me. I like many things but the one thing I have done most my life is box. I am damn good at it too when I was about 15 started sparring guys most were 40 pounds + over my weight and in there 20s. Boxing has been natural for me unlike girls. So I will probably go pro. haha so I guess I got off topic just how much I like boxing. ALright so I think its time I just gave up hope on ever finding a girl. I have never even been able to talk to girls much. I dont know I guess I was just meant to be alone. I dont know there is just a part of me that is always thinking about girls and some day getting married. I am slowly getting rid of that feeling though. NO girl has ever been interested and I think its time to just forget aboutit and move on. What do you think?????

2007-12-27 02:05:31 · 11 answers · asked by I like to drink 1

Hello friends, for New years eve, i want to go out and have a good time. party and stuff. In the mean time my husband says he wants to stay home and hang out with his mother & stepfather. I dont want to stay home, ecspecially with them. I am 22 and he is 26. I think we should go have a good time together. I think is mother is bossy and crazy. If she doesnt get her way she gets all bitchy. I dont want to ring in the New Year like that. Now he is mad at me. He said its our last new year in FL, and i think we should spend it with them, well if its out last new years in south Fl, then we should be on south beach partying! lol. Am i being selfish??? please dont be rude! only honest answers

2007-12-27 02:00:43 · 22 answers · asked by kittenthemagician 2