I had a friend who has previously been married for about 5 years, and recently had gotten divorced. She came into my store asking me what she should do with the ring. I felt like she should have the diamonds reset into something new. She felt as if it represented a bad relationship and brought back bad memories. What is the right protocol on this one?
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What is the right thing to do?
2007-12-27 03:03:13 · 83 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sell it on eBay
2007-12-27 03:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After my first divorce I sold the ring for the gold and used the money to go out to a fancy restaurant.
I still have the ring from my second marriage. I have only been divorced for a year. I will probably have the diamond reset into something else in a few years.
There is no right protocol. She should stick the ring in a jewelry box and keep it for a few years. She will feel different after some time has passed.
2007-12-27 03:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Pam H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend believes it represents a bad relationship...and that entails all the memories associated with the marriage, then resetting the stones into something else will not be worth the effort, because she will still be holding onto it. Personally, I think she should sell the ring, and do something with the money she gets for it just for herself. It is her ring and her property, she should do with it what she wants: the only opinion that counts here is hers....but one thing she should not do is give it back to the ex-husband. Only engagement rings are returned if an engagement is broken. If a marriage was contracted, the rings belong to the bearer, even if the marriage (contract) has failed.
2007-12-27 03:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky question, traditionally the woman keeps the ring, sort of a "gift" for putting up with a bad marrage. However it is true these days that many women are keeping them to have them reset or to give to children or what have you. Coming from a guys prospective I dont advise giving the ring back but what I do advise is to sell the ring and use the money to buy a gift of your liking to remind you of your future and to allow you to not forget the past but to learn from it, IE change the meaning of the ring into a meaning of personal growth. Tell your friend Good Luck and keep true to herself because real happiness comes when one is true to themselves!!
2007-12-27 03:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by Steven C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a husband, I believe the ring is hers to do with as she pleases, no questions asked. Resetting the diamonds, changes the ring completely, so it's no longer the one her ex gave her. Selling the diamonds would be bad from a financial standpoint....she would receive much less value in return.
2007-12-27 03:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by boogsybaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my sister divorced her first husband she had the ring set into a safety deposit box for thier son to give to his wife. When my Mother divorced my father she had the stones taken out and made into a necklace she now wears whenever she has to see him because it is proof that she took the bad relationship he made and created a new life for herself...it is symbolic of her trymph over adversity. Personally I don't intend on getting a divorce, but if I did I would have to give my ring back to my husband or keep it for our daughter because it is a family heirloom....his grandmother's wedding ring....his grandfather gave it to us a week before the wedding and died two months later. It is up to her on what she should do with it. IF she feels she has triumphed over adversity then she sould have it made into something she will wear as a reminder that she can over come anything. If she has children with the man she can save it for them. If she just despised it and him then sell it.
Momma_Bear
2007-12-27 03:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got divorced we had a beautiful daughter so on her 16th birthday I gave her the ring. If I did not have a child I would have had the stones reset,,,, to me a wedding ring represents a part of your life...at one time there had to be some wonderful memories....Hang on to those not the bad ones.
2007-12-27 03:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by wilma s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To each their own but I had mine melted down and put it on a chain. The diamond was placed in the middle of the pendant and it doesn't in any way resemble the original ring. The second marriage, I hocked it to pay for the divorce. You do whatever you like with it.
2007-12-27 03:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set protocol. If it has bad memories for her I would say either sell it or reset the stone into a new peice of jewlery. I wouldn't recommend just holding on to it in the jewlery box.
2007-12-27 03:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by hootie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's several options. If she has a son or daughter, it could be saved for them to use as an engagement ring in the future. She, as you suggested, could have it reset into something different, even a necklace. Or, she could sell it, and put the money into something else. It's her ring, her call!
2007-12-27 03:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by N L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who come and get the instant divorce in Reno throw their rings into the river that runs through Reno. If the ring is a reminder of a bad time, she should sell it for cash, or donate it to charity.
2007-12-27 03:07:43 · answer #11 · answered by Ranger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋