My husband and I have a great relationship. There's nothing wrong with that. This is about me. I'm in my mid 30's and I'm wondering when I will hit my sexual peak. I hear everyone talk about it. We have fun when we do but I want to be more in the mood than I am. Any suggestions. The craving and want to is there but when it comes down to it, I would rather sleep. I know that sounds bad but I don't want to be that way. Am I alone on this one?
2007-12-27 04:32:35 · 12 answers · asked by Happily Married/Mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not alone, it is a very common problem.
Change your activity schedule. If it's usually dinner, clean up then watch TV, try dinner, some special bedroom desert, then clean up. The TV won't get watched that night.
Basically change your routine into something that promotes more sex in your relationship.
If there are children at home it is more of a challenge, but it can be done. There are Wednesday date nights and weekend dates at the movies. Send them to a sitter or get a motel room for you two. And don't forget to wear his favorite lingerie under your street clothes, just to surprise him.
cheers.
2007-12-27 04:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Perplexed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyday stress and activity are in the way. Make some romantic plans for just the two of you. Go on an old fashion date. Get a room for the night. Try a lazy Saturday/Sunday morning when you have nothing planned. Seduce him with wine and candles. Take a shower/bath together. Luck!
2007-12-27 04:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not alone! I am the same way. I am tired all the time it doesn't matter what time of day it is and then my husband wants to have sex and I would rather sleep as well. Haven't found an answer to this one, still looking!
2007-12-27 05:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way and newly married! Set a date night. No matter how busy you are or how tired you are just plan on it on that day of the week. Once you make it a routine (as boring as that sounds) it does become easier and you start to want it more.
2007-12-27 04:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make it a point to have a date. Go out...of the house. Get a babysitter if you have to. Get dressed up..do adult things. Make it an EARLY evening so you don't get tired and have an excuse not to be intimate. Another suggestion, be sponteneous..don't think about it..just do what comes naturally.
If you feel like it's something else, you should talk to your doctor. Your levels might be off. JUST a suggestion though.
2007-12-27 04:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by boogsybaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find ways to fun it up for both of you. Try seducing him a different time of the day if when you get into bed and you are just tired. If you want to sleep and you are not tired, then he needs to find some ways to spice it up for you!
2007-12-27 04:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start earlier in the day. Sounds like when it is bed time, you are tired.
Then, do things that will arouse you. That could be thinking about things, or adding something new to your normal bedroom routine... either with or without him.
Don't be afraid to tell him what you want. Trust me, he will like that a lot!
2007-12-27 04:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by . 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need more sleep. Your body's health has a dramatic effect on your sex drive. Eat right, sleep right, and exercise. Watch less tv and do more activities outside.
You'll be a horny goat before you know it!
2007-12-27 05:39:14 · answer #8 · answered by C>/ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being tired is from lack of excersize. If you feel real sexy you'll want to show it off. Try excersing, watching romantic movies (love stories not porno), a glass of wine etc.
2007-12-27 04:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like to read an erotic fantasy story from http://www.literotica.com
They are amazing and some are really real sounding which helps, lol
2007-12-27 04:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Abby L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋