True on false? And why... What are your thoughts on that?
2007-12-27 03:21:30 · 57 answers · asked by YinxSphinxmen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. You don't get to choose your parents, your sibs, your crazy aunts and uncles, their stories, or how you fit in that story. When you get married, your spouse agrees to accepts you as a part of that family, and as a person who was influenced by them.
Whether or not you like any of your in-laws, or spend time as a couple with each other's family members, or approve of the things they do, you can't escape at least part of the family's imprint on the person you married.
2007-12-27 03:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by musicimprovedme 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
100% true. When you marry your spouse you are married to his family as well. Your spouse loves their family and is going to want to spend holidays and special events with them. Unless you want to look like the evil spouse and have horns added to every picture at the in laws ~ just learn to be supportive.
2007-12-27 03:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is kind of true but you know you choose the man not his family.It all depends on whether you marry a mummy's boy or not, if your guy is too attached to his family then you are in trouble but you also have to draw the line at some point. Make your man understand that your home is for both of you and not for his extended family. This has to work both ways so you don't let your family in and keep his out.
2007-12-27 04:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by simba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that once you get married you develop a genuine love and respect for the spouses family but you don't "marry" them. You have no obligation to that family but to make your spouse happy because they care for your spouse. You marry your spouse and your only obligation is to him/her. Your vows are for your spouse and it is a promise to God, no one else. The problem with so many marriages is that couples involve too many people into their business and frankly, families can break up a marriage. Not saying, that you shouldn't get close to them because they may be lovely people. But your relationship with them should be by choice.
2007-12-27 03:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Eden's Mom 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
FALSE!!! I fell in love with my spouse, not his family. If you are lucky enough to get along with the in-laws, great, but as far as them really being a part of your marriage, I don't think they have much to do with it. In the long run it is up to you two to make things work. It has nothing to do with the respective families.
2007-12-27 03:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True! When you get married to join every aspect of your life including you family to the other person. My poor husband inherited the mess that is my family. I luckily inherited the warmest loving in-laws a person could ask for. Marriages create large loving families (supposidly) that's why the future husband should ask permission to marry from the father or brother of the future wife....to help build bonds of family among everyone!
Good Luck,
Momma_Bear
2007-12-27 03:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For me it was definitely true!, but it could go either way, it all depends on how close the family is that you are marrying into. For example, my wife's family is very close, they speak daily, and 90% live within 30 minutes of each other.
On the other hand my Mum's 2nd marriage the family was old money and did nothing together, hardly spoke, and didn't even kow my mum was married to their beloved son for 3 years!
2007-12-27 03:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by balin_danan 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you do, to a degree. In America marriage are supposed to be a contract between two people, but that seems to depend on how close/dependent those people are on their families. In other countries, marriage is a contract between families, and everybody has a vested interest in getting along and the marriage being happy.
2007-12-27 04:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by Little Lulu 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh, yes. I married my husband when we were living in a different state from his family. Now we live in the same state and spend holidays, etc with them. It wasn't a big deal when we lived far away, we had our own lives but now we have children and rely on them to be in our children's lives.
Even if you have no contact with your family, they still affect your life it subtle ways, my husband acts a lot like his father, more so as he gets older. Had I actually MET his father before we married it may have affected my decision. But probably not. I loved him and still do but seeing his family definitely gives me a different perspective AND I have to deal with them on holidays, etc. They are nice people but not very warm or caring and it's draining. I definitely wish I had different in-laws sometimes. Especially since they are my children's family now too.
2007-12-27 03:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jen M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends... if the spouse is really close to their family (location and feelings wise) then yes, you married their family as well...
If they can't wait to get away from their family... then no, you just married the guy (or girl).
2007-12-27 03:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋