Hello friends, for New years eve, i want to go out and have a good time. party and stuff. In the mean time my husband says he wants to stay home and hang out with his mother & stepfather. I dont want to stay home, ecspecially with them. I am 22 and he is 26. I think we should go have a good time together. I think is mother is bossy and crazy. If she doesnt get her way she gets all bitchy. I dont want to ring in the New Year like that. Now he is mad at me. He said its our last new year in FL, and i think we should spend it with them, well if its out last new years in south Fl, then we should be on south beach partying! lol. Am i being selfish??? please dont be rude! only honest answers
2007-12-27 02:00:43 · 22 answers · asked by kittenthemagician 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not gonna be rude and i will be honest forget your mother in law and go party you're 22 for crying out loud why should you be spending it with her? if hard head husband doesn't want to come go alone after he satisfies mommy he'll meet u there don't let them win this and let me know how it ends. happy new year and good luck
2007-12-27 02:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by blueberry 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You guys are in your 20's. If he is 26 then his parents are at least in their 40's which means they probably can't hang like you guys can all night. Compromise and spend time with the in-laws until they get tired or tire them out with the finest bubbly for new years. Then, just before the ball drops the two fo you can fly out to the beach and party out until and after the confetti falls. It is a perfect compromise because you both lose a little, he won't spent the night chillin' with the parents and you won't be partying all evening (but maybe all night so you make out better!)
2007-12-27 02:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being selfish. There is no reason at all why you can't compromise. You should be able to do one then the other, you just need to figure out where you want to be at midnight. If this is his last time being with his family then yes I can see why it would be very important for him, you can party every year after this. Try to find a way to compromise to make you both happy. If you can't compromise on the little things then how will you ever get past the big things?
2007-12-27 02:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, not so much selfish but more like immature. If you don't learn to make petty compromises for your husband and his wishes I can't see this relationship lasting.
If it's something that he feels strongly about then why not do it. I'm sure he's done a lot for you in the past year, think about all the sacrifices and compare them to your situation. Is it worth having a strain on your relationship? Once you have the ring on finger... It's a symbol to grow up.
However don't be forced to do it, you'll just resent him for it. You guys need to communicate like adults. Talk to him.
2007-12-27 02:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, the problem is that since there is only 1 new years eve and you have two very different ideas of how to spend it someone is going to be very disappointed in the outcome of the argument. You could try arguing that you should go out New Years Eve night and spend New Years Day with his family and attempt to reach a compromise that way, but in the end, someone is going to lose.
So yes, you are being selfish, but so is he, the question is who can give up something to get it for the other. Maybe he gets his way this time but he has to give you something in return, or vice versa.
As for the in laws, it is okay that you don't like them. It is not okay that you try to pull yourself away from them because of that. This is his mother you are talking about and he needs to spend time with her, so in GENERAL, you need to get over yourself and spend time with her especially since you are moving and will be spending less time with them in the future.
But for this particular occasion, someone needs to give up here. Either offer him something he wants in return for going out for New Years eve, or get something you want in return for spending it with his parents. Neither of you are wrong, but only one of you gets to get his/her way :)
2007-12-27 02:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by JA in SC 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband only wants to stay home with his family because it could be his last time for seeing his family for a long time. You can go out and party any time that you want to after you leave. For my New Year's Eve I will be home by myself because my husband will be working. All my husband cares about is working so who cares about me.
2007-12-27 02:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you guys should go out. It's not fun to hang out with your in-laws on a night like NYE. I know, I've had to do it. You and hubby can spend lots of other evening hanging with the in-laws during your last year in FL. I'd tell mom to get over it and be with my wife.
2007-12-27 02:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by BG 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You both are. Isn't there a compromise to this? Can't the four of you go somewhere together? Or throw a party at your house? Invite a bunch of close friends over and his parents than you are all together.
2007-12-27 02:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is about compromise. Talk about how you can do what you both want to do that night- I'm sure there's a way you can both be happy. Keep in mind that New Year's is only one night out of 365.
2007-12-27 02:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Compromise. Stay with the parents until 9 - 10pm then go out.
2007-12-27 02:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by CatNip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋