Can the mother of my husbands daughter do anything?

Question

She doesnt let us see her we love her dearly shes only 2 and we have a pending court date to enforce the visitation order (which she violates) he pays child support, and all we want is to drop off her xmas presents. Heres the thing she lives SUPER close so my husband simply went in the middle of the night and left them on the door step to be found in the morning, he didnt knock or ring the doorbell he just left them. The crazy b***h started texting him the next morning never to go by her house again other wise she would come to our house and act like a b***h. Can she really do anything? I usually mail her things at least once a month but it costs like $9.00 & thats just for a small box. Now we have more presents for her from the rest of the family and all we want is for her to recieve them without out us spending an arm and a leg.

Answer 1

Save the presents for when your husband gets visitation rights. That mother sounds very hostile & may not even let her have them anyhow.
So, just wait & let her open them when you can see her do it, for the joy of it. Let her keep her things at your home.
She is very young & her mother probably will not even tell her that they are from her father.

If she has no restraining order, then I don't see how she can do anything.
Just tell your hubby to document all this nonsense in a notebook & take it to court, to show the judge. That is how it is done.

Answer 2

I would hold on to them and give them to her yourself. Yes, you want her to have them on XMas day, but dropping them off on the doorstep is a little silly. Besides I would want to have XMas with my daughter myself!

Obviously, we are only hearing one side of the story, but the Mother is being terribly rude and "b***chy about the whole thing. Then again, you are the new wife and you are supposed to think the old wife is a b***h so that only goes so far :). I just hope that the court or something is able to put everyone into place so you start focusing on what is best for the kids and not using them to hurt each other.

This is a rough situation, let the court sort it out for now, and just hold onto the rest of your gifts until you can have her over.

Good luck.

BTW, SAVE those text messages. You will need evidence like that in court.

Answer 3

She's still bitter. Maybe because he's with you, maybe because he's not with her. Wait till the court date, maybe you'll luck up and get a good judge and he/she will make her do what's right. Save the gifts. Don't spend extra money to get them to her. The mother probably won't let the baby have them anyway. Until something gets resolved, just enjoy her when she's with you and don't make plans. Sorry to hear that you're having to go through. Now for the part you don't want to hear. -- You are way too passionate about this. You are letting this other woman control you emotions and your action and its really none your business. I know he's your husband and you hurt for him in the situation but you have to step back and let him handle this one. This is between him and his ex. Just be supportive. That's hard I know but it's the truth.

Answer 4

i would wait until the visitation order is put in place. then she has to go by it, if she doesn't it is considered contempt of court and she will go to jail. best bet is to stay the hell away from her and her home. you do not want he telling the judge or misconstruing information in court. i see this happen all the time at my job. go to court have the visitation set AGAIN and makes sure she abides by it. you may also want to go talk to someone in juvenile court about filing for full custody IF and only IF you feel the child is being neglected or not in a stable environment. Hope all works out well! keep her presents until she comes over for visitation then you won't have to deal with mom's crazy behavior.

Answer 5

People will say no, she can't do anything, but I'm going to tell you, that I've seen how crazy jealous ex's are, and she will try to twist the whole situation around, she will probably even lie in court. As for now, keep the presents at your house, until your husband is finished with court. You can always give the presents to his daughter later.

Answer 6

if there is a court order for your husband to see the kid and the ex isnt allowing it, you can get a cop to come over with you and enforce the legal papers! You will also need to go to court talk to your lawyer because she's incontempt and she can go to jail.

Now give it he dosnt need to go in the middle of the night to drop off presents, even thought it didnt harm no one, but the mom is going about it illegally and you can get the courts to let you see the kids

She can't do jack! Go to the court and a lawyer ASAP..

Answer 7

take it from someone who has been there and done that, the Mother has the upper hand no matter if your hubby is paying child support or has visitation rights through court, its sad but reality. I live it everyday. the best thing for your hubby to do is to abide by the rules set in court even if she doesnt, he can file a petition ot the court over her violating visitation rights but they wont do anything drastic to her, she will only have to write a letter saying why she been missing visitation, the courts wont do to much to her. I hate to say it but she has the upper hand until your kid is old enough to start asking for you. You can fight he battle but take it from me, it will seem like you doing something but at the end of the new court dates and everything, your kid will still be with the Mom and you will still be paying child support and playing the Can I See My Kid game. I live in Maryland so maybe courts in your ditrict might be better but we as Fathers get shafted in court, no matter what you do for your kid. I get my kids all summer but I still pay child support when they with me for 2 months !!!

Answer 8

Do you currently have court ordered visitation? Go to your local police station and ask that an officer escort your husband to your daughter's house during the regular visitation schedule so that he may at least make sure she gets her presents. The mother could end up in jail for contempt of court for not following the court appointed visitation, make sure every visit that you have missed is documented. If she shows up at your house acting like a b****, then simply call the police and file harassment charges. We used to have to meet at the police station to pick up my husband's kids because his ex is such a wacked out nut case, but it helped make sure that everything stayed safe for the kids as she would do things like throw rocks at the car if he pulled up in the driveway of the place she was staying to pick them up.

Answer 9

Unless he calls and warns her he is entering the property, she can have him cited for trespassing. The pending court case you refer to may determine visitation rights, but even they must be coordinated and he can't just drop in anytime he wants. As far as the presents go, give them back and make the relatives responsible for the delivery if need be to keep peace.

Answer 10

You need to take that woman to court. She is not the guardian of the child. Be careful though if she sees you on her property she does have grounds to call the police and get you in trouble. I would go again in the middle of the night and leave them, but he should bring another male friend along as a witness just in case something happens.