i m 24 she is 25 it was her 4th engagment with me mine was first but we loved eachother so much i had lost my business after engagment and problem started in us i have done mistake that i had blem her for all my lost so many times..i realised my mistake and i m in hell without her but she is not ready to come back after apologising so much at her home everyone in saying she dont wants you she will never get marry anyone now..what do i do i cant live without her..i think she knows now that i m poor is this the reason?..but i love her..y i have given her pressure for my lost..i dont know how to get her back..i cant call her anymore her family given me this warrning..what should i do i see her enjoying with friends after leaving me in this pain..what do i do..?my heart is not ready to except that she is gone..i dont know why i m waiting for her..but i love her.she has not given me one more chance to live with her..plz guys how do i get her back now ?
2007-12-27 03:49:34 · 12 answers · asked by Rex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know what you did to her but face it you blew it big time, now all you can do is watch her from a far and hope someday she will forgive you and give you another chance personally i would forget her and move on life is to short..
2007-12-27 03:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Violence is the obvious answer but nothing is the rational answer. Just move on. Screw her. She's a b*tch and you don't need to waste anymore time being around her let alone thinking about her while you're by yourself. There are a lot of reasons why she may not be coming back but the only one that matters is that she doesn't want to come back. Considering that, you should be less concerned with pleasing her and more concerned with pleasing yourself. You should take that idea into every relationship that you develop.
2007-12-27 12:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I have much the same issue with my Ex wife and the begging, crying and telling her I'm in pain was not good, not good at all. I started to date, but felt to bad that I was using one women to get over another. But now that I see that she is not coming back, I've started seeing a women and been honest that I'm still fragil and wanted to be friends and take it slow. Don't talk about your Ex thou :) Women want what men want, someone who can be there for them and you can not be there for anyone right now my friend, not even yourself. That has to change first, then other things will come. Take a deep breath, let it out slow and start your life again. God has help me, so has my family, my firends (old and new) and book called the purpose driven life. Start living for things bigger than yourself that you have feelings for, help others, talk to people, listen to people and get yourself well. Think of yourself as very sick right now, you're not is a position to fix anything in your current state. Work on getting better and that comes by accepting what happened to you (your fault or not) and finding a new path without your Ex for now. You can be there for her, but assume she's not coming back and start to get well. Good luck my friend.
2007-12-27 06:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to move on she never cared for you if she would not support you after you lost your business. Your mate is suppose to be comforting and well there for you when times get tough. It appears she ran from you when times got tough and the money went low she is a golddigging hussy and you deserve better.
You need to find a woman that will love you for you and won't leave over some stupid crap that will be devoted to working through anything in the relationship.
Be very glad that you never got married You don't want her back find someone new you really deserve someone better. Hopefully the ways you had treated your ex however will make you think before doing that again to someone else.
She gave you a wake-up call use this for your next relationship and maybe things will go better for you.
PS never blame the woman for your crap!
One last thing this ex. woman of yours is commitment phobic she was never going to marry you.
2007-12-27 04:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Focus on yourself dude. Pick your self up. She is ok. Se is having fun with her friends, probably laughing at you. If she still have your ring that means she will not come back to you until you have another business or money in the bank. If that is the case, you are better off without her anyways. But for now, get a life. Visit old friend. Surround yourself with positive people and try to not dwell too much in your pain. Time heals everything,,believe me.
2007-12-27 03:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may hurt like hell for losing waht you thought was love but trust me, you are WAYYY better off in the long run. A gal that has been engaged 4 times is not anywhere close to being ready to get married and if she runs at the first sign of trouble...she will always run.
I'm sorry for what you have to go through but honestly sweety, take the time to get over her and please try to find a "real" woman who will love you as much as you love her.
2007-12-27 04:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by mom tree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman wants a complete man. She wants a man that works and has a life. You are so stuck on her that you let everything else go and it cost you your relationship. Focus your energy on working and having a life and being well- rounded and living right and God will send you who he wants you to be with.
Quit focusing on what you want and let God give you what you need. Too often we pray for what we want when God has said no, we think he is not listening. But in truth he did listen, and he said NO. Because he has a better plan for you.
2007-12-27 04:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes afraid to go through all that again, if shes not ready to be with you then all is lost and you have to move on, the more you wait the longer you wont expose yourself to other fish in the sea. but dont rush her if you want her back that badly
2007-12-27 03:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by A Decade Ago 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't and you best stop obsessing about before you either do something stupid or make yourself sick. The best thing for you to do is surround yourself with family and friends and try to move on. It takes time but time heals all wounds.
2007-12-27 03:53:47 · answer #9 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try writing her a letter and say everything that you just said to us. E-mail her but maybe she is afraid of marriage if she has had 3 engangements and has not actually gone through with it then maybe this is her way of running
2007-12-27 03:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by Debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋