He took the virginity of over 600 women. How should I pray for those women. What kind of man was my husband and how should I act around him ? How do I quit the comparison game with all those young women ? My husband was sexually abused when he was a child. Me and my husband just got married, how easy will it be for him to leave me if we have a big argument ? Should I try harder. He was with other young women, lots of them who were nonvirgins when he was younger. I read a book about sociopaths and my husband fits the bill. How should I act ?
2007-12-27 03:26:36 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is 37 now.
2007-12-27 03:29:04 · update #1
Please give me advice, should I go to the psychology section ?
2007-12-27 03:30:43 · update #2
He has threatened leaving after a couple of big arguments.
2007-12-27 03:37:12 · update #3
Is he a rapist or something?? Why the hell are you still with this guy? Being abused as a child (in my opinion) is NO excuse to hurt others.
There's only one solution to this problem:
DIVORCE HIM IMMEDIATLY.
2007-12-27 03:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 2⤋
Wait - was he a serial rapist? If so, no matter how much you love him and how much you pray, the man needs to pay his debt for those crimes and YOU need to contact the authorities!
Theoretically speaking, a man could go out every night for less than two years, talk up a girl at a club, have sex, and then never talk to her again and not be a "predator;" a sex addict, yes. Have problems? Most likely. Not that I'm trying to cover for him, just playing devil's advocate.
It's also entirely possible he's lying or embellishing. In any case, something is NOT right and I'd suggest contacting someone about it.
And thanks... suddenly having been with 20 women doesn't seem so bad!
2007-12-27 03:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mysterious Racer P 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was not abused sexually as a child but my mams bf's used to try and i would shout fr my mum asking if she wanted a drink or some thing though i caught her in bed with lots of other men, i neve knew my father as he left to go back to where h came from (Greece) and she never told him she was pregnant. I in turn thought that sleeping around was the normal things to do as i got my self addicted to drugs for ten years and i ventured into prostitution and i haave now managed to sort that out, i needed self worth and self esteem which did take time but i am clean 3 yrs coming up to 4 on 28th feb. The sleeping around is installed in you and i have no idea how or why i think that as we grow up the more we see of things, the more we think of it as being normal. Give your guy a chance to talk as i have made so many mistakes in the past i could write a book!!!!! Tell him that he is not alone and show him this message and i can better talk to him myself, All the best to the both of you sarah
2007-12-27 09:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT? YOUR HUSBAND? ok do you even read this? You are basically telling everyone here that you married someone that you don't even know well enough and are forced to ask perfect strangers how you should go about your married life based on information that you should have already known before getting married in the first place!! I honestly don't think anyone could possibly answer your question, besides the obvious, get over it and move on with your marrage, or if it bugs you too much then end it... basically it's up to you.... and your man.
2007-12-27 03:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by justin l 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he told you this before you got married then you should not be worrying about it now because you must have looked past it then so why not now. If he just told you now I would say get a divorce because that is serious. And he is not a predator if these women were ok with it, he is just an active guy. 600 do you really believe that though, please get tested ASAP if this is true. You need to talk to him regardless and let him know that it does bother you, and you having an argument and him leaving has nothing to do with his past.
2007-12-27 03:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well has he received any counseling? Does he look at porn, disrespect you by looking at other women? Does he rationalize his past or present behavior? What's his definition of respect? Women in general? These are things you should have worked out before you were married? If he's much older than you, then your are in the same boat as the other women. You need to seek counseling on your own, hopefully you are not being taken advantage of.
2007-12-27 03:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should be asking why you chose to be with HIM (who IS a sociopath) in the first place!! Yes, he was abused as a child, but that is no excuse for him to act on it. Many people lead normal lives after being abused as children. I think you need to think about your future with this person (and will he abuse your future children). If you're so damn concerned and REALLY love him, go to marriage counciling before something happens. Be honest with your feelings...you're his WIFE. As far as the women he had sex with, he should be the one to be thinking about his own actions, you should be praying for HIM.
2007-12-27 03:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by Maria 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because he fits the bill-doesn't mean he is. That is a lot of women to be with, no a tremendous amount. People who have been sexually abused tend to either dislike and ignore sexual relations or go overboard and are over sexual...couldn't you suggest seeking counseling for him? You married him so he obviously has good qualities. Talk to him.
2007-12-27 03:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Maybe should have thought about this BEFORE you said I DO?? Ahh..the plight of a young woman..marry marry marry..that seems the trend these days. If you are that afriad to lose your man because of a simple argument..then maybe you deserve to live in fear..you need to work on your self esteem and confidence. a man isn;t going to leave because you get into an argument....but..suit yourself..
2007-12-27 03:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Pandora 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that people with this addiction never get over it..they can stay in re-hab and some do well..it is a constant battle for sex addicts just like ac holism or gambling. I can't believe you married a person like this and it is sad..this often happens to people sexually molested as a child. There is nothing you can do for him....Leave now before it is to late...Trust me.
2007-12-27 03:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by wilma s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um hello.... why did you marry this guy if you think he is a sociopath not to mention that he is a predator? Do you think he has actually changed? I dont think people like that ever change, thats just my opinion and I would not be surprised if your husband continues that behavior.
2007-12-27 03:35:50 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋