Should I or shouldn't I?

Question

I am newly divorced, and not looking for anything serious right now. I met a man who is also newly divorced and he just recently moved in with his girlfriend (which is rocky at times).
He wants a fling, and honestly I do too - I'm not looking for marriage or a lifetime committment. This can go 2 ways, we have a fling and end it - no harm no foul... or we have a fling and the girlfriend finds out - which means they weren't that strong to begin with. What do I do???

I've had enough bad karma given to me when I didn't deserve it... shouldn't I get to have a little fun for all the hurt I've had?

I do have self respect... this isn't about that... I'm looking for a little excitement, a little romance, a little nooky without being attached... If I were a guy you'd understand...

I know this is low class, and believe me I know it lacks morals... but it isn't about that. I don't know this girl, and if it were me in her place, I'd already be 'onto' him - but its not me, so I can't say. I'm not worried about the repurcussions - I'm not going to fall in love, its a fling - that's it!!

Answer 1

Just do it! Even if the girlfriend finds out! Whats gonna happen? She'll either leave him, he'll leave her, or none of the above and theyll still stay together. Nobody burns in hell, etc. If he wants the fling that bad and you don't go with it, that just means somebody else and the girlfriend may still find out. Either way the end result is the same. Or if you worried then find someone to have a fling with that doesnt already have a girlfriend.

Answer 2

I understand that you want a fling, but this fling could back fire on you:
1)The other girlfriend could find out and get hurt. How would you feel about that?
2) If this other man is not loyal to his girlfriend, he probably won't be loyal to you either.
3) You might fall in love with him. Then you would get hurt.
4) You might regret it down the road, end up feeling guilty or shameful.

There are just so many things that could happen. You are making the bed you have to lay in...make it soft, safe and yours : )

Answer 3

ok both of you are newly divorced as you said. if he is trying to have a fling with you why does he have a girlfriend? if he just want a fling he should let the gf go so you two can fling are you should find you someone that is not attached to someone else and is also just looking for a fling. it's not fair to the girlfriend at all.

Answer 4

Forget about it. There are plenty of guys out there that you can have a "fling" with who aren't already with someone. This can't end good for you no matter what - if you really enjoy it you will be sad because it will have only have been a one time thing, or it will be lame and not worth it and you risk drama from the girlfriend for nothing. Find another fling who isn't so much trouble.

Answer 5

Your instinct to have a fling is probably a good one, but it's not really cool to mess with a guy who's living with a girlfriend. It's kind of tacky.

Find a guy who is safe (be direct or even ask for proof), but who isn't someone you would likely actually be attracted to. Most guys would be happy to help out a gal who just needs a little and you would be able to use the sex to move on from your divorce. Good luck!

Answer 6

The main thing is that neither of you are married or engaged. So, even if he is living with his girlfriend, it isn't cheating. Low or no class perhaps, but not cheating. So, as long as you don't mind being low or no class, and don't mind helping the guy lie and deceive his girlfriend-have a "good" time. But, you are wrong about no harm if she doesn't find out. YOU will see a low class person every time you look in a mirror. And by the way- you can check a couple thousand of my answers, and see that I fault guys for being low class too.

Answer 7

as far as im concerned a fling is a fling it'll help u get over ur divorce n get u back into the dating world it never has to be serious if U dont want it to be its ur life so start living it how u want to :) n if his g/f finds out oh well sh*t happens if u want it go for it thats my advice sorry if some people dont like it ive been happily in a relationship for only 2 years but i never expected it to be what it is n im happy i went for it its a long story n at the time i shouldnt have but i have no regrets

Answer 8

I wouldn't do it. There are single men out there looking for the same thing you are find one of them! Then you can have the fling without any worries at all! You don't have to worry about hurting anyone and neither will he!

Now if you like the guy, that's a different story!

Answer 9

Don't do it. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but you really shouldn't. He obviously doesn't know what he wants if he's already moved in with someone and is willing to cheat on her...rocky times or not. If their relationship continues the way it is, maybe they will break up and if you're still available, you two could get together or just see what happens. I hate to say it, but it's also not fair to the girlfriend.
If he is already going to cheat on her no matter what the circumstances are, you need to think about how he would be in any relationship. You're right...you don't need any more bad Karma!!!!

Good Luck

Answer 10

Your marriage fell apart and now you want to have a fling with a man who has a girlfriend? Don't you have any respect for yourself or others? Put the shoe one the other foot and ask yourself how you would feel. Relationships are not always a fairy tail, you have to work at them. Take time for yourself for a while. If you need sex, buy a vibrator.