Do stay with my spouse? I have been involved with someone from work for quite some time now. I am in love with this person they are also in love with me and mean everything to me.Never have I felt this way about anyone before. I have 2 kids the other person is recently divorced & has 2 children also I have cheated on my spouse several times in the past but no feelings nothing this is so different . I can not get this person out of my head. I do not want to.
2007-12-27 04:14:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, he deserves to have someone that doesn't cheat and you deserve to have someone you truly want to be with..why live life unhappy. I'm not sure why you married the guy in the first place unless you either got pregnant by him or rushed into it. Lesson learned.
Its unfortunate for the kids but they know when there isn't real love in the house. He probably has stayed with you for the sake of the kids( if they are even his kids) so why not talk about it and work out an equally fair divorce agreement and move on with as little hassle as possible.
2007-12-27 04:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by Dude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should man up and divorce your wife. If you have ever cared for her in the past then you owe her a chance at her own happiness. I wouldn't tell her about the other woman...no need for extra hurt on her end. I'm not judging you, but it sounds like you have some issues with fidelity so the one you feel strongly for now may not seem as interesting once you have your freedom. I hope you can find happiness in the future and a willingness to be faithful.
2007-12-27 04:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by Teresa S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be happier if you leave. You will have to deal with all the same things that you think make your current husband not as desirable as he was when you married. You are in lust. It's powerful and wonderful and overwhelming. Please, please take my advice. Suffer the pain, end the affair and get back to your family. Nothing stays new and wonderful forever. You can't keep jumping from new to new just to hold on to that feeling. There is a lot to be said for passion that has waned and reignited. Standing the test of time can fan the flames like you wouldn't believe. And you don't have the guilty conscience to boot.
2007-12-27 04:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by It's Her Again!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it is probably best that you leave your spouse but I won't take your relationship with this other person any further than it has already gone for a good year or two after the divorce is final...
2007-12-27 04:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing. File for a divorce and do not mention the other person. Matter of fact, be respectful and keep the other person on the back burner for a while.
2007-12-27 04:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No point of staying and cheating on ur spouse. If you cheated before and still cheating now it should tell you something. Just move on be honest to ur spouse and to yourself
2007-12-27 04:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by Joanna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't in love with your spouse and you are in love with someone else stop wasting your spouses time and set them free. Give them the chance to find the mate they deserve. Someone who truly does love them.
2007-12-27 04:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have cheated on your husband before and the man you're messing around with is divorced how do you know this one is right ...to me its sounds like you're just dating and sleeping around until you find what you're looking for ...I've said it once and I'll say it again ...people who cheat are cowards confess tell your husband the truth and then move on.... otherwise you reap what you sow ...what goes around comes around
2007-12-27 04:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by meka33311 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have broken your marriage vows already. Your husband doesn't deserve your disrespect and adultery. You won't find happiness living the way you do. You know nothing of commitment, and that is what it takes to have a good marriage. Remember your wedding vows, forsaking all others?
2007-12-27 04:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dated a married girl this summer
she eventually went back
what u feel is a connection
he gives u what yer current hubby doesnt
but it doesnt last
its a fling
he is what u need NOW, but not forver
good luck seek therapy
and yer kids, uh boy,, they aint gonna like this
2007-12-27 04:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by The WingHunter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋