Marriage & Divorce - 27 December 2007

Or do you let your hubby be his own man?

In other words, do you TEACH him to associate sexual desire with you and only you? Or do you TRUST him to handle said desire appropriately?

If you're wondering, I'm a husband, and I posted this because... well, let's just say this question is based on a female's answer to one of my questions. Interesting, indeed.

2007-12-27 16:05:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My partner and I would like to get married. We are sensitive people and prefer the company of our close friends, as we find others, particularly my family, pushy and try to pigeonhole our lifestyle as we can sometimes think "outside the square". This is irritating for us as we find their remarks can be ignorant, insulting and lack respect.

Our families have been pestering us about getting married, but we would like to do this in our own time, in own way. We would like it to be a small quiet affair with the friends we trust and no big fuss made. The problem is my family would never forgive me for excluding them from a ceremony, even to the point of my mother yelling at me and my partners parents would be disappointed as well.

Arranging and attending big events gives me anxiety, having had a nervous break down 4 years ago I am careful about what I take on. It is easier just not to get married. What should we do? It sounds crazy but we are both in our mid fourties.

2007-12-27 15:54:54 · 7 answers · asked by ? 6

What is it called when you tell your partner that you are working,when you are really sneaking around with another man or woman?

2007-12-27 15:32:05 · 29 answers · asked by Huckapoo 1

My husband's brother wife she is my sister in law. I think she liked my husband's x wife better than me she never really gave me a chance from the first time she met me six year's ago she has alway's been rhude to me. It really hurt my feeling's very bad. I alway's buy her family gift's for Christmas and I alway's try to treat her good even though she is rhude to me. She has never came to our home every time we invite her over she make's up an excuse that she can not come over to our home. She never buy my kid's anything and my kid's are little I do not want them to know we get along this way because it is uncall for and very embarrasing. Please help me tell me what should i do to handle this disfunctional matter this is so crazy.

2007-12-27 15:29:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is driving me crazy with his non stop gambling addiction, every time he hears we have a dime he has to take it to the casino and spend it. when i tell him we are broke he starts a rampage tearing things apart looking for money. what should i do to help him stop? he wont even think about calling a 1-800 number or even go to counseling, I'm so lost.

2007-12-27 15:08:56 · 33 answers · asked by snickers 1

I know this is the wrong catagory, but I need more mature help. So anyway, to start off, I am not like other fifteen year old girls, I practically gag when girls say i love you to their "one and only." I used to be one, and beleive me it is not love. Yes, I have a cynical outlook on dating these days. Its not like I have a reason to be, I'm confident in my looks and I can take care of a man's needs. Needs other than actual sex. Too many girls with STDs at my school. Anyway, I stopped dating guys because I mean whats the point right, its high school, and it's not gonna last. But lately, I've started to like a guy in my class. He's funny, we laugh, yada yada yada.

The problem is I don't know how to act in a relationship. I mean I was a girl who had like a new boyfriend every month. I don't want that. I'm not very good at having a middle ground between mental and sexual attraction. And all my past relationships have been one or the other. Please, help, and no judging.

2007-12-27 15:08:44 · 11 answers · asked by mizz. answers. 3

I bought my wife a VERY expensive air mattress ($69.99) so she should be grateful and appreciative, but she has been very mean and nasty to me all evening and I don't know why.

2007-12-27 15:02:18 · 60 answers · asked by progrockfan80 2

Not any specific married woman, its just something thats in my head, and for some reason turns me on.

Please don't be mad at me just for imagining it! I thinks its weird too, that why I'm asking!

Anyway so I have long imagined having sex with a married woman, who, well, specifically who has a husband who's penis is smaller than mine (so <7). And I imagine her telling me how I'm bigger than him, feel great, etc.

Ok, so I said it was frickin weird! But how do I get this out of my head? When its been there since I was a perverted little teenager (I haven't acted on it yet, but it is a temptation)?

Or how should look at it? Deal with it? Etc.?

2007-12-27 15:01:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I guess i have to say this has been the best time of my life. He says he will slow down to avoid scaring me away, but it's hard to slow down when everything is just flowing all on it's own. He says he knew i was the one the first time he saw me, now im getting married to someone who has been a blessing to me from the start. Anyone have a familiar story? Is love at first site possible?

2007-12-27 14:58:43 · 7 answers · asked by Sheba 2

I got married 6 months ago and everything is so far, so good except that sometimes I snoop and when I find any little tiny thing I get soooo jealous! Like tonight I looked in his Myspace (he told me his password a while ago, so I know he's not hiding anything in there) and I saw an old message from a girl he use to like before we met. The message wasn't even that bad, just like "Hey handsome, I miss you." but now I feel all sick and crazy and I feel like there's no way that he will just be happy with me forever. Or whenever he mentions a girl that he works with I feel the same way. Even if all he says is something like "I fixed so and so's computer for her today"...and that's his job- fix computers!! LOL
Please, I need advice. I know a little jelousy is normal but this is not! And I've been like this in all my relationships and it contributing to their ending- but I'm married now so I want it to be different! Help!! Don't just tell me I'm crazy- I know that already, I need solid tips!

2007-12-27 14:54:46 · 19 answers · asked by Tiffany 2

My husband secretly looks at call girls online, what do i do? I checked the history and saw.

2007-12-27 14:53:21 · 10 answers · asked by Katie 3

I've heard about people doing divorces online or using paperwork online, no lawyers. There are no kids involved and we have already divided everything up evenly. Basically, we just want to move on with our lives. Anyone know any websites? We live in OK. Thanks!

2007-12-27 14:50:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or view them as insecure for pointing them out? For example, Tyra Banks acknowledges and has mentioned a lot of times that she has a big forehead. A girl I know who is really pretty says she wishes her butt was bigger. I probably would've never noticed if she never pointed it out.

So, would you respect them more or look down on them more?

2007-12-27 14:49:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my fiance argue over stupid things everyday we love each other and were each other's best friend were getting married in a couple weeks and we dont wanna make a mistake.

We are happy when we are not argueing, but we want to make sure this isnt going to be a mistake.

Money is a big issue because we dont have much money at the momment and it is the root of all of our arguements.

2007-12-27 14:45:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-27 14:44:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-12-27 14:41:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my husband have been married almost two years and we fight alot. We fight alot when he is working out on the roadwe dont fight as much when he is home. We fight about our son and how to discipline him. We love each other so much and are madly inlove. we fight so much about stupid things not money or anything. He says I think for him and that causes alot of fights too. I think he just gets off on being mean whats going on

2007-12-27 14:39:17 · 5 answers · asked by pualla walla 1

Our state is Oklahoma...not sure what to do to go about getting the divorce! And info helps...thanks!

2007-12-27 14:34:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok Here is my problem..my husband changed on me. He was always nice, overly caring (like worried if my jacket is not warm enough, making sure i remembered my gloves, etc) Now he became obsessive about the house..like I left a book out and he freaked that he has to be the one to put it away, my sister came over and did not take the shoes off..he started mopping the floor as soon as she left, freaking out while the kids are eating because they are getting crumbs on the floor..even though I am standing right there and I say to him I will clean it as soon as they are done..no sense in cleaning while they are eating, i put the dishes in the dishwasher and he takes them out and washes them...he was never like this and all of a sudden he is angry, complaining loudly to himself..Did he develop a compulsive disorder? he will not talk to me or see a therapist and I don't know how much longer I can hang in !

2007-12-27 14:28:11 · 8 answers · asked by josiejo 3

2007-12-27 14:21:52 · 15 answers · asked by Mrs. McK 3

My husband and I work at the same place. A year before we started dating we used to write notes back and forth to eachother. Once we started dating they become love letters. Overall I have about 100 or more romantic love notes. As of right now I have them in an old metal box....my question is, can you think of any way to keep them or display them or do something creative with them? The are very sweet and I hate for them just to be in an old shoe box. What do you think?

2007-12-27 14:21:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

He promised to lose weight (he needs to lose 100 lbs). We started together a year ago. I have lost a ton..within 5 pounds of goal....I am active and want to go and do...he has gained weight, has more medical problems...and I am very lonely. I do not have anyone to do anything with.

2007-12-27 14:21:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

is there anyway to get him back home? what do i need to do?

2007-12-27 14:17:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am with a younger guy, and he totally Controls this relationship ! it makes me feel kinda crazy, because I'm the older woman. and he should be chasing after me !
Instead, I'm the one waiting for the phone to ring, and losing sleep. He visits me on his schedule. and basically dictates when we spend time together, and how much time. He controls every aspect of our relationship.
In the beginning of course, he chased after me, and sang to my music, but now tables have turned.
So tell me what I should do..?? I need step by step instructions. should I ignore his calls, start an argument and avoid him for a few days ? what will work ? I dont want to break up, because I love him, but I feel like I'm getting taken for granted.
Please no sarcastic remarks or nasty advice...I'm looking for some realistic answers to the question....thanks

2007-12-27 14:16:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

We fight a lot, we disrespect each other, we say nasty things to each other, his family hates me, they ignore me all the time, we hardly see each other cause he works a lot and when i do see him, we are just fighting.. SO i want to know if i should leave him.. ive been thinking about it but hearing other people's opinions would be comforting.. We do not have children yet. I am 21 and he's 25...

2007-12-27 14:07:09 · 41 answers · asked by cLaU 5

2007-12-27 13:57:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

bought house after we got married, but only wife's name is on the title

2007-12-27 13:57:35 · 8 answers · asked by Peggy P 1

even we kiss sometimes,and we can only be together in the movies or at a hotel room,but i want more

2007-12-27 13:56:10 · 44 answers · asked by Diva X 2

Like they are tricked into a seduction and don't realize it's happening before it's too late. I'm just curious to hear what women say about this.

2007-12-27 13:52:27 · 40 answers · asked by David L 2

2007-12-27 13:43:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous