I got married 6 months ago and everything is so far, so good except that sometimes I snoop and when I find any little tiny thing I get soooo jealous! Like tonight I looked in his Myspace (he told me his password a while ago, so I know he's not hiding anything in there) and I saw an old message from a girl he use to like before we met. The message wasn't even that bad, just like "Hey handsome, I miss you." but now I feel all sick and crazy and I feel like there's no way that he will just be happy with me forever. Or whenever he mentions a girl that he works with I feel the same way. Even if all he says is something like "I fixed so and so's computer for her today"...and that's his job- fix computers!! LOL
Please, I need advice. I know a little jelousy is normal but this is not! And I've been like this in all my relationships and it contributing to their ending- but I'm married now so I want it to be different! Help!! Don't just tell me I'm crazy- I know that already, I need solid tips!
2007-12-27 14:54:46 · 19 answers · asked by Tiffany 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need help because if this does not work it will only be a matter of time before you do it again and again
2007-12-27 15:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by Init to learn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine is like that and girl believe me its not gonna be pretty when he lays all your sh*t out for you and tells you either you change or its over. Because trust me he will sooner or later!! Ask him to help you try to change. It will take time but when you start gettin too jealous calm down and take a step back. Are you making a big deal out of nothing? If you are tell him say That makes me jealous but Im not going to get mad. Being jealous to a point is ok but when you let jealously consume you is when is becomes a problem.
2007-12-27 23:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop this. it can drive him away so easy. you have to take a deep breath and live. its hard to just worry all the time and its sick. you have to set your mind if there is no reason to worry why make up stuff. hes telling you all he can and trying to keep it above board. you need to get grip and i am not sure how to tell you but i can ruin a relationship if you keep this up. being jealousy like that is very bad. i mean hey if you trust you trust i have found that out. its good and you can relax. but being upset all the time is very hard and when you have kids its even worse you have to trust and rely on him and hopefully it will come to you in time. but you have to work on it also. take care.
2007-12-27 23:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, myspace isn't a place for married people. What is the point unless you have a joint account there. It leads to situations like you in now. My nephew's pregant wife got on his and saw where an ex and he and been chatting, need I say more how that turned out!!! LOL
2007-12-27 23:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by michael w 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a low self steem problem, try putting all this energy into fixing this, if you continue with this youre gonna turn into a nagging ***** and hell end up either leaving you or cheating on you, youre supposed to be in your honeymoon still instead of having this neurotic freakouts!!
2007-12-27 23:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by suehellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best tip I can give you is to be everything for your man. Chef, waitress, maid, and whore in bed. He will never stray, because he would have no reason to, and would be too worn out to bother with it anyway! Be this for him, and never worry again. The only time I ever even notice other women, is when my wife isn't "in the mood", for days or weeks.
2007-12-27 23:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to make a decision to either trust him or not trust him.
If you don't trust him you really have no marriage because a good marriage is based on trust and honesty.
Talk to him about your insecurities and if necessary get some counseling.
2007-12-27 22:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please trust him or it will never work believe me. Keep looking for stuff and you will find it. Insecurity and jealousy are the two things people always get divorced over. Because after being so insecure for so long you will drive him to cheat.
2007-12-27 23:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by Unknown_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counselling right now before you stuff your marriage up!
Stop snooping around his stuff as EVERYBODY needs their own little 'private space' EVEN YOU!
Imagine if he snooped through all of your stuff? Would you like that? I doubt it!
2007-12-27 23:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Badass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over it. Give him your 100% TRUST! The fact that he's not hiding anything that's a good point that he's really trustworthy!
2007-12-27 22:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by julian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋