I know this is the wrong catagory, but I need more mature help. So anyway, to start off, I am not like other fifteen year old girls, I practically gag when girls say i love you to their "one and only." I used to be one, and beleive me it is not love. Yes, I have a cynical outlook on dating these days. Its not like I have a reason to be, I'm confident in my looks and I can take care of a man's needs. Needs other than actual sex. Too many girls with STDs at my school. Anyway, I stopped dating guys because I mean whats the point right, its high school, and it's not gonna last. But lately, I've started to like a guy in my class. He's funny, we laugh, yada yada yada.
The problem is I don't know how to act in a relationship. I mean I was a girl who had like a new boyfriend every month. I don't want that. I'm not very good at having a middle ground between mental and sexual attraction. And all my past relationships have been one or the other. Please, help, and no judging.
2007-12-27 15:08:44 · 11 answers · asked by mizz. answers. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I will answer by giving you something to think about.
My sons are going to a large university. Separately, they told me that they hated it because they could not find a girlfriend who had morals. They said that their friends felt the same way.
My boys are good looking, play sports and make good grades. I think that you get my point.
Do not let peer pressure drive you. There are no men to please in high school, just boys in larger bodies. Think of the future. No, is the best answer.
PS. I do not remember the names of the notches on my belt.
2007-12-27 15:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by jeff shaffer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. You do seem more mature than 15. So keep putting your head in your decisions. Focus on your studies and school activities. Then you'll find someone who supports and understands that. Thence you can build a true relationship.
(Did I just use the word 'thence'?)
Keep in mind this little bit of wisdom from Brian the dog. I quote:
Brian: You know, Connie, I think I have a theory about why you're such a b*tch.
Connie: Excuse me?
Meg: Brian, let's just go.
Brian: No, no, no, no, no. Now hang on... hang on, Meg, hang on. You see, Connie, you're popular because you developed early and started giving hand jobs when you were 12. But now you can't stand to look at yourself in the mirror because all you see is a whore. So, you pick on Meg to avoid the inevitable realization that once your body's used up by age 19, you're going to be a worn-out, chalky-skinned burlap sack that even your step-dad won't want. How's that? Am I in the ballpark?
2007-12-27 23:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Voice of Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the tip of the day: you don't ACT in a relationship, you ARE in a relationship. The way you act is your personality. A relationship can develope with someone when they like the way you ACT and you like the way they ACT. Be yourself and if he likes you and you can laugh and be friends, then something else may develope but reality says (in your words that you wrote) "what's the point, right? It's high school and it's not gonna last!" A friendship can last forever and turn into a relationship when you both are old enough to understand what a relationship is. Just be his friend.
2007-12-27 23:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, get to know him more, and make sure that the atrraction is physical and mental. The way to act will come naturally if you like him, but don't stay to far away, just be comfortable, and yet, be cuddly! Make sure he understands that you aren't used to a real relatioship and that you never really had a relationship like this, so if you go wrong in any way, he already understands. I also want to say that I am 17, and I have had the same boyfriend since freshman year, and it's still going great, sometimes highschool relationships do last, and I hope yours does
2007-12-27 23:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by LiiLY PAD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make friends with the guy... If it turns into a relationship great, if not your back on your plan of not dating. By the way if it turns sexual make sure and use a condom, you don't want those std's that seem to be going around in your school.
2007-12-27 23:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by cin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is you need to just be yourself. Why put on an act or try to be someone your not? When the right guy comes along he will attracted to you not only for your outer beauty but also for the real you! Be yourself.
2007-12-28 00:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, be yourself and everything will come naturally. Secondly, you are sooooo young, you have many many years ahead of you. Forget a BF right now and concentrate on your education. I was a momma at just 15, lifewas very very difficult. Just be a kid while you can and don't rush growing up. TRUST ME!! Good luck honey.
Mary in Beulah, MI. USA
2007-12-27 23:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by maryannmccarthy2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and do not be afraid to make mistakes.
No matter what you do, you are going to make mistakes and collect regrets all throughout your lifetime.
What is important is you need to learn from your mistakes and keep moving forward with your life.
Good luck.
2007-12-27 23:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to see who you really like and you need to test that person..see if they will be there for you no matter what! after you hook up with him you need to keep in touch and hang out enough...be proud of him and love him...dont look at other guys and dont do bad things like clubbing or talking to other guys...dont even find guy friends because friends can ruin relationships sometimes....believe me it is sooo great to love one person and to be loved by that person...it is the best thing in the world...i love my gf and she loves me..we are both happy...i can never be with other girls..ive tried it but i was never interested in any of them...god bless you honey
2007-12-27 23:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by assyrian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself..build up a friendhip and whatever is meant to be will. It is nice to be friends first....good luck
2007-12-27 23:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by josiejo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋