My husband's brother wife she is my sister in law. I think she liked my husband's x wife better than me she never really gave me a chance from the first time she met me six year's ago she has alway's been rhude to me. It really hurt my feeling's very bad. I alway's buy her family gift's for Christmas and I alway's try to treat her good even though she is rhude to me. She has never came to our home every time we invite her over she make's up an excuse that she can not come over to our home. She never buy my kid's anything and my kid's are little I do not want them to know we get along this way because it is uncall for and very embarrasing. Please help me tell me what should i do to handle this disfunctional matter this is so crazy.
2007-12-27 15:29:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Technically she is not your sister-in-law…she is your husband’s. However, he is your brother-in-law. Just FYI!
The best thing to do is to not let her worry you at all. I have sister-in-law (my brother’s wife) hates me because I am the outside child. She never attends my daughter’s birthday parties, doesn’t allow my nieces to call me, never comes around when I am in town, etc. I have been dealing with this for almost 20 years, but it doesn’t bother me. Sometimes you have to let people be who they are.
Remember that not all people will appreciate you for the person you are.
2007-12-27 16:04:22 · answer #1 · answered by momtojunebaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband must know how you feel and must understand the situation, Do not force him to take sides or make choices. This usually ends badly. he needs to be made cognizant of her behavior and see it himself.
You should continue to be the better person and be friendly and kind. You will only ensure there is a problem if you confront this person. You have nothing to gain by creating a confrontation or animosity.
If there comes a time when you are alone and are compelled, you can ask if there is something you have done to offend her. It is OK to say you have long sensed there was something wrong and just do not know how to fix it. The risk is that she will be a beast, but there is a chance she will come around.
good luck.
2007-12-27 15:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by pchandyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was really close to your husbands ex she may feel that she owes it to her to not like you. Of course she also might not realize she is doing it or she may think that you do not like her. I say leave your husband out of it for now and be open and direct with her. Perhaps start out by asking her if you have offended her in some way. Of course since you weren't around when he was married before it could be just the opposite of what you suspect. Maybe they didn't get along at all and she just doesn't see any point in trying to be friends with you. Good luck!!
2007-12-27 15:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Julie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop buying gifts for the family. Don't invite them over. Just ignore her. If your husband's brother says something tell him that you have tried to get her to accept you and that she refuses. Don't have your husband say anything to his brother. All this will do is create problems. My husband's two step-brothers refused to have anything to do with each other for years because their wives got into a huge argument. It's not worth them ruining their relationship.
2007-12-27 15:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holidays are hard for a lot of families. It really reminds you of the family members you don't get along with because of all the get togethers. It's a shame she doesn't like you. If it's any consolidation- my SIL doesn't like me much. I can just tell. She isn't cruel to me or anything, and I'm not cruel to her- we just get on each others nerves a bit. But OH WELL. That shall be life. lol
Basically, you just have to learn to ignore it. Be civil and don't let it bother you.
2007-12-27 15:34:57 · answer #5 · answered by plastic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not let it bother me life goes on. like i see it if she dones not like you r pay any attention to u r ur family forget about her who cares anyway as long as you have tried i would'nt worry about about her fudge her. later if she wants to be a part of your life then you can try, but i really would not worry about it to tell you the truth. it is just a waste of time. just worry about your family and forget her. trust me don't waste time over spilled milk, she not worth the worry. just love your family maybe later she will come to, if not like i said fudge her cause you don't have to deal with her.
2007-12-27 15:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by lorenda n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront her about it and ask her what is going on does she really not like you because she likes the ex wife and if she has issues with that then it is really not your fault and she needs to mind her own business.
who cares what she thinks as long as your husband likes you right, ask him maybe he knows what is really going on.
2007-12-27 16:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by mayrad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry she's doing that to you.... I would consider it a good thing that she stays away- why would you want a mean person in your home around your kids?
2007-12-27 16:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by runnercaiti1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If, You have "done" and what is fair, 'DO NOT WORRY"! Hold your head high, and tell "her" to F>>>O! Who needs "HER"?
It is hard enough to try to maintain, "calm" in your own Family! Good that you asked!
2007-12-27 15:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by DORY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to talk to her and find out why she is disrespecting you. It is his responsibility. Otherwise, if she chooses to disrespect you, you should not allow her in your home.
2007-12-27 15:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by hippieturtle99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋