Or do you let your hubby be his own man?
In other words, do you TEACH him to associate sexual desire with you and only you? Or do you TRUST him to handle said desire appropriately?
If you're wondering, I'm a husband, and I posted this because... well, let's just say this question is based on a female's answer to one of my questions. Interesting, indeed.
2007-12-27 16:05:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, fine. I asked a question about what you would do if you caught your hubby "giving himself a hand." This one woman said that her husband's not allowed to do that UNLESS it was in front of her and ONLY with her permission. Sounds like insecurity spurred on by a horrific childhood to me...
2007-12-27 16:08:37 · update #1
Pete I have to wonder if that woman constantly stands over her man with whip or something. I don't think anyone should try to weild that kind of power over another in any situation.
I would venture to guess that her man does it every chance he gets and just doesn't tell her. I would just out of spite, of course that is just how I roll.
2007-12-27 23:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by FallenAngel© 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mental. But ranked in order: 1. Mental 2. Physical 3. Emotional 4. Spiritual. Or maybe 3 & 4 can be switched. But I will keep them for now. I enjoy thinking about various things, from stuff I learn, ideas and theories, what is going on with people ( family and friends ), my life, what I'm going to do or eat, and other stuff. I will think about anything. Sometimes I even day dream, or I think of ideas for my stories. Some people try to talk to me, but I am in my own little world. I think a lot when I am exercising, either running or walking. I do both. Sagittarius sun, 9th Leo moon, 6th Pisces rising Sagittarius Mercury, 9th house Scorpio Venus, 8th Aries Mars, 1st Gemini Jupiter, 2nd
2016-04-11 04:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a man is gonna be a man regardless of what anyone says and tries to make them out to be. But you should let a grown man be his own self because I wouldn't want anyone trying to impose their emotional desires on me. You have to have some kind of individuality in a relationship to keep your sanity I do believe.
2007-12-28 02:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by ~Cheta K.~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never be so foolish as to even think it is possible to control someone like that, you cannot teach someone desire, and most adults can handle themselves well enough to control their desire. That woman who thinks she has control over her husband playing with himself is stupid, I bet every time she leaves the house he knocks one out.
2007-12-28 00:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to be honest, I don't like the thought of my husband getting himself off, but he feels the same way about me. I trust him not to do something that would hurt me, and he trusts me. If I found out he was doing it, it would just make me wonder why he didn't tell me, that's all. I love sex, and I love sex with him more than anything (also I like to watch the actions mentioned above, so he's welcome to give himself a hand, and I'll give him a hand too!).
So yea, I trust my husband to do what is healthiest for our relationship. If he was needing a hand, I'm sure he'd honest with me about it, and it'd be 100% okay.
Cheers
2007-12-27 16:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah P 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
if you have to "teach" him to associate sexual desire with you and only you, then you have married the wrong person. if he's madly in love with you and looks to you for his sexual needs, then no problem. if he's doing this "activity" while watching pornography, or some other woman, then there's a problem, but otherwise--he's his own person. can't control someone's sexuality.
2007-12-27 16:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by diamond heart 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's clearly a control issue. People are not puppets.
I would not involve myself with a person with such
issues. Unhealthy relationships lead to dysfunction
if unchecked.
Great question.
2007-12-27 16:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by joseph t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for me and my fiance we have a mutual agreement that sexual satisfaction is a two way street...not a solo act.
It takes a lot of communication and cooperation for a relationship to work that way but it make us happy.
2007-12-27 18:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a grown man and makes his own decisions...I trust him to keep only unto me.......And if he wants to masturbate without me around.....I have no problem with that desire....
2007-12-27 16:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Attempt it...no. He's made it clear that I am not ever going to meet his desires and he gave up.
2007-12-27 16:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋