I got married to years back and when I met the gal before the marriage I told her and her parents that my income was very less and as such I was not in position to bear the expenses of two persons as such I wanted my wife to do some job, on which the girl and her parents told me that the was a graduate and had done many computer courses and was getting many jobs offers, I was also told that the gal was a very good cook and cooking was her hobby. Though I wanted to marry a post graduate gal, but I agreed as I thought if I refuse the proposal the gal will feel bad. But soon my marriage I came to know that my wife is not even 10th and she doesn’t know how to cook she and her mother are very quarrelsome and they always try to do all sorts of black magic on me and my family. When they did not succeed in all their so called black magic they fabricated a tape recording in which she tried to involve me in false rape case (Sex with my minor maid servant whom I treated as my daughter) Now day by day I getting poor as my wife is a spend thrift, and steals my money, and goes on telling people that I don’t give her money, but the truth is I spend more money on her then any body else. I have don’t have much income and my wife is not willing to earn even a single penny. I don’t want to divorce her as my daughter life will be ruined, as my wife doesn’t take much care of her. I want to know how to make wife loyal and hard working and stop her from quarreling with people. My in laws are considered to be the worst people in town. My wife was not a virgin before marriage though I was. Some times she says I have illicit relations with my client and some times with my sis in law. Im dying slowly. I have been duped
2007-12-27 03:00:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to seek divorce and get custody of your daughter if she is unfit to care for her your story is sad and pathetic it may be hard on your daughter but it appears you married into a lying sadistic cult of a family and soon I heard black magic and that crap I would have been long gone. Grow some balls and leave your miserable why stay and put up with more crap.
If someone is dying they try to fix the situation before they croke grow-up and grab a brain plz.
2007-12-27 03:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanted your wife to work? Black Magic? Servant? Are you in a third world country? This is crazy-talk.
Can she change you so you delight to throw all the money you ever get to her to spend? If she cant change you how she wants, why do you have the right to change her how you want?
You are speaking dishonoringly of your wife in front of literally the whole world. She has not done that to you.
The best way I know is a hard road and many men are too cowardly, and don't have the heart to walk it. Every time I have seen a man walk the road (and it takes only heart courage) I have seen it work.
1) Understand her as completely and perfectly as she understands herself.
2) Love her as completely and perfectly as she loves herself.
3) Learn to speak to her in her own language.. so that she can understand you perfectly without work.
4) Live a life of only truth.
Here are christian books, because the only people I have ever seen do this are Christians. The books give hints about how to do these four things.
1) "His Needs/ Her Needs" - gives foundation to start understanding
2) "A lasting promise" - gives foundation for communication
3) The New Testament - is arcane and hard to understand, but gives example of how to live a life of love and how to live a life of truth.
2007-12-27 11:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!! ok one u cant change someone to be something that they are not. two if she doesnt take care of your daughter now she never will and that means that if u divorce her your daughter will be better off. its not good to be with someone like that just for the kids. do u want ur daught to grow up to be like her? if not then leave her a**. she is only going to kick since ur already down.
2007-12-27 11:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you both need help. Unless you were forced into marriage with her, you married her for some reason. Find out what the reason is or was and do something about it. Or get out of it.
2007-12-27 11:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mendy P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a fresh one, dude!
Your description with the maidservants and all make it seem like you're wealthy to start with so set her up in a shack someplace with an allowance and start over.
2007-12-27 11:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem seems that u married in haste. and you were brought up in a good atmosphere and Ur wife was not. take her to some psychiatrist. and about money brother give a dam to her and concentrate on Ur profession.
2007-12-27 11:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by annjee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in that predicament because you wanted a wife with a good job to support you
you say that you want your wife to be a hard worker you have never say that you love your wife? I don't think you have been duped I 5hink she is the one that have been duped
2007-12-27 11:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good marriage and family counselor and also a good divorce lawyer...Look like you were duped into being this womans CASHCOW
2007-12-27 11:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got shafted from this wife... toss her a pair of knee pads and tell her to get busy with her work... make you happy man.
slap this women silly
2007-12-27 11:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by Back W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so get out of the marriage take your daughter with you go to another town start a new life have no contact lose yourself
2007-12-27 11:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋