Marriage & Divorce - 1 December 2007

An online affair...?
Well, I put a keylogger on my computer to watch the teen in the house and low and behold I find my partner doing the online sex thing... so far as even asking someone to go on a date with her. She also said she is in love with me but lacks excitement. I'm floored to say the least, I had no clue. We've been together 11 years. Ten years ago we talked about the online sex thing and agreed not to do it and that it is like cheating, or so we agreed it feels. It never occurred to me that this keylogger thing would come back and bite me like this. I'm struggling with whether to confront her or not? Should I just forgive and try to spice things up? Man this sucks.

2007-12-01 12:21:09 · 10 answers · asked by chet_chic 2

so this is the situation-my husband says 'i want a divorce,' he leaves the house on a very abusive note-ok, i wait until he files the papers, they never come, im left with all the bills and two daughters. then he comes to the house 2 months later to 'see our girls' @ 10 pm! my girls want to see their dad, so if im not 'civil and forgiving' they wont see their dad, and he wont come see them! I dont want this anymore, i want to move on. Yet, Im always allowing him in the door... I hate this. I tell him that we are no longer husband and wife. I have no money to file for divorce, nor a job. Uhh, im drowning, i need a way out of this, what am i going to do? My mother is paying my bills, I believe its my responsibility. I want to find out what am i doing wrong? How do I shift this toward my new beginning? Why do I have to accept my spouce's ways in order for him to see his girls w/out my comprimising my happiness? im so unhappy......

2007-12-01 12:17:04 · 5 answers · asked by Im_Raised_Again@Yahoo.com 2

why is that if a man who is married gives a female worker a ride back home when her car is broken and the wife finds out he slammed with a possible divorce and when he wants a paternity test cause he has doubts he is slammed with a possible divorce. why is that?

2007-12-01 12:15:56 · 6 answers · asked by Hi T 1

He treats me alot better than my husband did. I know that I did the right thing because I haven't even shed a tear. He informed me about alot of bad things that are wrong with this other guy even to the extreme that he sells drugs. My ex is the only one that has told me this and he said everyone else doesn't want to tell me. My ex has lied to me in the past and I think continues to do so. He says I'm going to lose my house because I'm in too deep and he can't help me out. I haven't done anything or seen anything that is wrong. I'm seeing a therepist about this and she thinks that my ex is full of it. Please tell me what you think. Can I lose my house? I haven't done anything. Why is he making my life hell??

2007-12-01 12:11:19 · 10 answers · asked by bear 2

I have always had a high sex drive, i love sex. Ive been married to my Husband for a long time. He wanted to wait til marriage, which killed me, so we did. Then when we started having sex, it was great, but it's been 5 years and its bad, he doesnt ever want sex. Hes always either doing yard work, or cooking(hes a good chef) and he says"No not now."
He doesn't want me to masturbate either(hes against it) but what can i do? I have needs.

What do i do? I know cheating is wrong, but ahhh, i just don't know waht to say to him.

Woman what would you do?

2007-12-01 12:10:40 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was looking into my December calander, when I noticed I had one full week of nothing to do! Now..just to let you know I am a very busy man...so to have one week off is just crazy! Should I make myself relax, or get out into the world and do something? I just don't know what to do with myself. My wife left me 2 weeks ago..and now my life is full or sorrow and tears. If I stay home I'll be reminded of her..but if I go and do something my mind will be on other things. What should I do? Please respond.

2007-12-01 12:01:44 · 16 answers · asked by Seth Josaphine 1

What should I do I been messing with him for three years. Should I be the second wife.I Should I give up my soulmate the man I love.What to do should I pray for him to leave her and come to me. Deep down I know it will happen someday. Anyone out there know what I'm feeling

2007-12-01 12:01:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

Remember this Talking Heads song from the '80s? Did it come true for you? It did for me! Where is my large automobile? How did I get here?

And you may find yourself living in a shotgun shack
And you may find yourself in another part of the world
And you may find yourself behind the wheel of a large automobile
And you may find yourself in a beautiful house, with a beautiful
Wife
And you may ask yourself-well...how did I get here?

Letting the days go by/let the water hold me down
Letting the days go by/water flowing underground
Into the blue again/after the moneys gone
Once in a lifetime/water flowing underground.

And you may ask yourself
How do I work this?
And you may ask yourself
Where is that large automobile?
And you may tell yourself
This is not my beautiful house!
And you may tell yourself
This is not my beautiful wife!

http://www.lyricsfreak.com/t/talking+heads/once+in+a+lifetime_20135070.html

2007-12-01 11:59:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I only want answers from people in relationships. please don't just answer to get points. sometimes when im lying in bed with my live in boyfriend i just despise him. but other times i love him more than anything. is it normal to feel this way??

2007-12-01 11:53:05 · 12 answers · asked by leah_wooooo 3

I've been so busy buying for everyone else, I haven't even thought about what I want. My husband asked me today and I just drew a blank. I think I'll tell him a 19" flatscreen monitor for the computer. ? IDK, how about you.. do you know what you're getting or what you want?

2007-12-01 11:52:35 · 9 answers · asked by ... 1

around my husband they act totally different. i know its because he's stricter but i think i should be equally respected.

2007-12-01 11:52:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Could anybody tell me if in another state or country will be legal to marry my widos´s sister?

2007-12-01 11:50:19 · 20 answers · asked by RucoRico 4

Mine would be: UNAPPRECIATED. :-) Yours?

2007-12-01 11:47:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a fulltime mom. take a good care of kid, house, education,...
but i don't have my social life. I don't want to leave my kids alone...
how can i handle it?

2007-12-01 11:45:12 · 7 answers · asked by rini a 1

my wife has had a ticket for 3 months and start having an affair this November the ticket is to come visit me in Okinawa what do i Do????

2007-12-01 11:42:16 · 32 answers · asked by Nny 1

Use crack and messing up money used to pay bills.

2007-12-01 11:39:52 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

i feel so depressed right now, christmas is coming up and my parents are still living togther. i'm so confused i thouht everything was over with and that the divorce was settled. it happened before school ended and i just want things to just happen and get it over with. its just so much and i can't do it anymore. i know a lot of people go through it and there are so many other problems in the world. i feel pathetic, but i hate that my parents dont love each other anymore and what am i supposed to do? i don't even know what i'm aking you people, but maybe a little support, what do i do? what is going on? has anyone else gone through this sort of thing?

2007-12-01 11:39:23 · 6 answers · asked by rachel 3

2007-12-01 11:37:05 · 6 answers · asked by Sam Z 1

How long do you bite your tongue? How many times to do you have to be in a onesided arguement when you have no idea what the F*** he's mad about? How many time do I have to be called names? And why do I have to be the one who makes up and resolve the problems? Why does he never apologize? Why me? ~cry~

2007-12-01 11:33:27 · 17 answers · asked by mrslewis1123 2

i dont know if i should tell him or not... i mean its not that big of a debt, its about 6,000.00... but hes told me about buying a house and stufff like that... i want to tell him but im afraid of what he is going to think... or is he going to get mad??

2007-12-01 11:32:11 · 17 answers · asked by i cant think of a nickname 1

ok so my friend is having a problem...she's married to a guy that is best friends with his ex'girlfriends husband..anyway,they used to all hang out together until my friend saw her husband (bf at the time this happened) fondling and rubbing on his ex-girlfriend...naturally,there was a big fight and the two couples stopped hanging out...well about 2 years go by and my friends husband starts hanging out with his best friend and
ex-girlfriend again,my friend refuses to go over there ,i guess out of embarassment and anger,but she still allows it,she also said that his ex-gf was allowing her husband to fondle her....so she pretty much just lets her hubby hang with them whilst she stays home...the problem is there is a concert in another state coming up and her husband wants to go with his best friend and the ex-girlfriend (out of state)....would you allow this...she is upset about it but she keeps saying that she doesn't want to seem like a ball and chain....sorry so long..
thx

2007-12-01 11:26:35 · 5 answers · asked by storm 1

2007-12-01 11:25:29 · 24 answers · asked by jeff b 4

A Journalist interviewing me asked me if I love my wife, I said, "I know that I like her very much, but love....... I don't understand"

Sincerely, I have never said "I love you" to my wife!

2007-12-01 11:24:42 · 12 answers · asked by Freeman 5

I am modifying my child support. I went through the whole process for 2006. She is claiming that sheis only making about 16000 for 2007 but had claimed over 30,000 for the past two years. I gave her the business I built in the divorce and now she has ran it into the ground. She got remarried in August(Congrats to her) but can I go after his income since she is unwilling to get a job or try to better her business? Right now he is the main finacial provider for them.

2007-12-01 11:22:10 · 5 answers · asked by IDONHO 1

Here is the just of it... This past August we were on our family vacation, we were celebrating our anniversary and daughter's birthday too. When I walked up on my hubby and caught him off guard, he was on his cell phone. I got that feeling in the pit of my stomach, I thought, "NO, OMG NO." A month before he wanted to separate and go to a counselor, saying he loved me, but not in love with me, he had been distant with his grandmother's death and my newly diagnosed breast cancer. But this? Currently my husband has been having an affair for over a year now. He has said he is an a**hole, but never said he was sorry. He told our daughter that he would go to counseling, hoping we didn't get a divorce, he wasn't truthful. At the first counseling session he told me that he wanted to split up, he doesn't want to come back. I find myself bond by my emotions/feelings, struggling to break free. I need help letting go, I would see a counselor if I could, at times I feel alone just wanting to talk.

2007-12-01 11:20:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my bf of two years broke up last week..

i live 2 hrs away from him

our anniverary is at midnight.

i thought all day he would show up and apologize wanting to get back together on our anniverasry..

i was so stupid.

he doesnt even care.

what do i do??

2007-12-01 11:19:54 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 20 yrs old and just got married about 6 monthes ago. My husband is not super old compared to me but he is somewhat older (29 yrs old) Last night he went to go put gas in my car for me since he know I would be driving around alot the next day and found a speeding ticket I got a few days ago. When he came home he asked me if there was anything I wanted to tell him about. Of course I told him no and thats when he pulled out the ticket and told me to start explaining. Honestly this isnt the first ticket I've gotton its the 3rd in one year. Yeah I KNOW I need to slow down. He told me he refuses to let me put my life and others and danger and proceeded to SPANK ME. He didnt leave any marks on me but it hurt enough to make me whimper and whine. He said that from now onthat this kind of crap will be delt with accordingly. I would have just paid the ticket and he would have been none the wiser BUT I dont work since I go to college and he pays for EVERYTHING. What should I do???

2007-12-01 11:15:25 · 35 answers · asked by Luv_My_Baby 4

what would you do if you just found out that your husband of three years cheated on you before you got married and now you have two children with him? the person he cheated on you with was your younger sister and you see or talk to her everyday.

2007-12-01 11:09:52 · 15 answers · asked by babygirl 2

I feel that i am not welcome to his daughter, he never say hi or bye whenever she comes to the house. (this house we're now has been their house with his ex... long time ago and the daughter was born here). I always say hi to her, trying hard to be friend with her. Yes she talk to me sometimes i often noticed her eyes rolling whenever we have conversation, the three of us ( my husband, me and her) i just ignore that. As much as possible i don't want to embrace that feeling that she is not in to me. This morning, my husband and the daughter went to pick up something, i didn't go with them because i have a lot of stuff to do in the house. When he came home... we started talking casually. He mentioned about the grandmother of her daughter (mother of his ex-wife) that the daughter said, grandmother wants to do baking and that she cannot do that because she's living in a home. The home is very close to the ex where the daughter's live, very convenient to the grandma, no steps to climb.

2007-12-01 11:01:30 · 6 answers · asked by margarita lady 2

-me my husband and my in laws live together
-it is their house as they don't want to leave the memories behind they won't let us buy a new house...so we live @ there place
-my hubby is a doctor so he can afford his own house..but she won't let us!
-every weekend when me and my husband want to got out and spend some time together .she invites her brothers over and they party it up and she expects me to be a slave and entertain them with food, drinks, etc.
-so today i had to go out to buy a poster for my history class and she goes .."why don't u take Al ( her nephew) with you guys u will have fun?"....a couple wants to spend some time together and you want me to entertain ur nephew...!
-so i said...don't worry i will be home in 15 minutes and then help you out! she got upset ...But I had to go..so i went..
-now my husband is mad at me about how he doesn't have fun and his friends go out with there girlfriends all the time and i am stuck with my parents....
-right now he dropped me off

2007-12-01 10:50:14 · 5 answers · asked by Just another gal 3