He treats me alot better than my husband did. I know that I did the right thing because I haven't even shed a tear. He informed me about alot of bad things that are wrong with this other guy even to the extreme that he sells drugs. My ex is the only one that has told me this and he said everyone else doesn't want to tell me. My ex has lied to me in the past and I think continues to do so. He says I'm going to lose my house because I'm in too deep and he can't help me out. I haven't done anything or seen anything that is wrong. I'm seeing a therepist about this and she thinks that my ex is full of it. Please tell me what you think. Can I lose my house? I haven't done anything. Why is he making my life hell??
2007-12-01 12:11:19 · 10 answers · asked by bear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
only time will tell, but u know the devil your married to but u don't really know this guy well. your hubby is making your life hell because u have made his life hell. u could loose the house if your husband is also on the deed, its a marital as sett.
2007-12-01 12:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, I think you should give your self some time alone after 18yrs of marriage, that's a long time to be connected to someone. So give yourself some YOU TIME, plus the whole house ordeal I'm not quite sure why you are in that position to lose your house, you didn't really say. So this makes me feel like you again need to get YOU in order first b/4 making any new decisions about being with someone else. As far as the new guy that treats you a lot better, well again after 18 years, anything really different from your husband will probably appear to be better at first. So missy, just take your time to get you together and understand where you are now in your life. One of my favorite lines from the movie "Waiting to Exhale" is from Bernadine (Angela Bassett)..."I tapped dance for a man for eleven years, so do you really think I'm about to rush out and get a new one".... Ponder that and enjoy your ability to be YOU.
2007-12-01 12:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your ex is trying to mess with your head and is playing head games with you. If you don't want to hear it, don't communicate with him. You might want to consider selling your house anyway and getting a new one that doesn't hold all the bad energy of your former marriage. Get a fresh start in a new home.
I do agree with the lady above who said that you need to take some time to be alone to get to reconnect with who you really are, before starting another serious relationship. By connecting yourself to someone else this early on, you will feel the need to do and say things to please the new man, and you may be shortchanging yourself again in the long run. I would try to keep this new relationship casual for awhile. Don't do anything rash like moving in together quickly. Dating is fine, but I wouldn't date any one person exclusively for atleast a year after your separation from your husband.
Good luck!
Oh yeah, and the woman who advised you to see a good divorce attorney is smart too!
2007-12-01 12:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I can tell you from personal experience because my husband of 18 yrs also left me for somebody who treated him better. You don't say how but that is a different story. Your husband loves you and you ripped his f___ing heart out. Do you have any idea how devasting this is to a person.
He is trying to tell you something, I did too and it fell on deaf ears. He moved out hoping to get together with her and she wasn't interested in anything but friendship. HA HA HA
Well then he keeps trying to get back with me and I will not take him back because the way he treated me when he was chasing her even though I still love him and want him, I cannot forget or forgive what he did to me and our children. I also don't want to be the one he came back to because she rejected him.
So you better think about what you're doing and the lives you are recking with your selfish behavior just because you are bored. The guy that makes you feel better is just feeding you,re ego at this point.. For goodness sake you don't even know him.
2007-12-01 12:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your new boyfriend is using and selling drugs out of your house and you know about it, then it's possible that you could lose your house IF he gets busted in a raid on your house.
You need to find out if he's selling drugs or not.
In the meantime, why are you continuing to talk to your ex husband at all? If you aren't talking to him, he won't be able to tell you things like that.
2007-12-01 12:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask your therapist if you can lose your house, ask an experienced divorce attorney! You may or may not be able to keep it. It's a marital asset and you both own it, it may be that to keep it you have to pay your soon to be ex for his 1/2 of the equity and refinance in your own name (qualifying with your income alone).
2007-12-01 12:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jen70 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You did wrong to leave your husband, whether you "connected" better with someone else or not. You made him a promise all those years ago, and you ought to keep it. Feelings have nothing to do with the issue.
2007-12-01 12:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Billy 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He just doesn't like it that you are giving the good stuff to someone who appreciates it. Screw the house, make yourself happy, life is short.
2007-12-01 12:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by jeff b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to accept the fact that it is your conscious that is making you feel like hell.
You will not be judged on the commitments you make, but you will be judged on the commitments you keep.
Good luck.
2007-12-01 12:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-12-01 12:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by angelvic_83 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋