What should I do I been messing with him for three years. Should I be the second wife.I Should I give up my soulmate the man I love.What to do should I pray for him to leave her and come to me. Deep down I know it will happen someday. Anyone out there know what I'm feeling
2007-12-01 12:01:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Problem is, you haven't lived with the guy yet. Your fairy tale could end there. If he has kids, then just stick with the status quo. If not, he's fair game.
2007-12-01 12:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your kidding yourself, Honey...if he's your 'soulmate' then he feels the exact same way about you.Right? So why is he still married?...For a whole bunch of reasons/excuses and all the wife's fault I suppose.
Sweetheart, if he really cares about you he would be divorced by now, or at least in the process and living apart from the wife.....you say you've been 'messing' with him which indicates he's still with his wife.....Messing is exactly the right word Hon....you've been messing where you ought to not be messing...with another woman's man. And when it comes to a head it will be a great big Mess---especially if there are children involved....
...Don't you deserve a guy who can belong completely to you.....mentally, emotionally,physically,morally and legally? Or do you think so little of yourself that you can only see yourself with another woman's husband...the other woman...the Mistress.. Sit down and rethink this...for your own sake.
2007-12-01 20:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You probably feel like he is the one & only man you will ever love .. and the love is overwhelmingly great for you .. and you feel so incredibley connected to him.
Is this a one way feeling? I know someone who woke up to the fact one day -- that she was the only one feeling that way .. and that her Mr. Wonderful was not feeling the exact way she was.
Your soulmate has another mate. He is married. And .. he will probably stay married to his present wife.
If you prayed .. ask yourself if that would be right .. to ask for something which is wrong to ask for, which would be for him to leave his wife .. which would break-up her marriage, hurt her,etc.
If your guy wanted to get out of his marriage, he would. This may be a hard realization for you ... but he is staying in that marriage because he wants to stay there, with her.
Honor his marriage .. whether he does or not. He is married - and you should not be with him while he is married.
2007-12-01 20:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful what you wish for. You just might get it. Although after 3 years it's pretty obvious he has no plans to leave his wife. Soul mate he is not. That's for damn sure. And even if he were.....do you really think he's lived with the wife for AT LEAST the last 3 years and not had sex with her? Wouldn't that mean he was cheating on you? I'm guessing you're pretty young. Should you become the second wife? Well HELL NO. He is not your soul mate. Not at all.
2007-12-01 20:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by Made You Look 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find that only a selfish person would pray for such a thing. There are way to many single men out there to be messing with a married man. Infidelity is a horrible thing. If he truly loved you as much as you love him he would have divorced his wife a long time ago. I think you should be a woman about it and move on.
2007-12-01 20:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Logan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i was with a man who is still married and i tried to get him to leave,guess what it didnt happen.i loved him,he loved me (so he said)but i realized one day that i had waisted years on a man who was stringing me along 4 sex.these things dont work out the way u want most of the time,unless u dont mind waiting 4 as long as it may take(who knows how long)any way if you r going with your heart ,u could ...but your feelings could lead u astray and u could end up hurt when u r sitting at home alone hoping that one day it could b u he comes home 2.u have to use your brain somtimes and not your heart, u have given him 3 years and he still hasnt left the wife.married or not, men know what they want.if he wants 2 b with u i think he should be talking to a lawyer,if he isnt i guess he has no plans 2 do so yet.wait if u want 2,or not the choice is yours b smart,its gonna b a hard fight .good luck
2007-12-01 20:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by kim27 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
S! You have a serious self-estem problem!! If I am not wrong you are the same person who is trying to use something against this man's wife to get him! 3 years of screwing around with a married man, get a life! as far as praying for him to leave her is blasphemy!! God is not going to hear of that! As far as him being your soul mate rescue your own soul and ask God to forgive you for the adultress affair you are having! You need physcological help honey!
2007-12-01 21:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by Floridagirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The odds are it won't happen someday. You are in love with the idea of him being with you - he's not really with you if he's married, you are just a fun distraction. If you could go home with him at night and see him interact with her you might be suprised at what you would see, and angry at yourself for helping him deceive her.
The unfortunate truth is if he wanted to be with you full time he would have left her 2-3 years ago.
2007-12-01 20:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jen70 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it must be awful to have soul mate who cheats on his wife... how horrible for you (that, my friend, is sarcasm)
If this man felt the same way you do, you wouldn't have to "pray" for him to leave his wife (By the way - what kind of thing is THAT to ask God to do... "Please, God, break up this marriage that was put together in your eyes, so my selfish self can have this cheating man in my life to leave me in a few years" - I'm pretty sure God has better prayers t answers.
Seriously.
Pray that god gives you the common sense to kick this dog to the curb and make yourself available to find your REAL partner (not someone else's).
2007-12-01 20:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by kelannde 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are attracted to this person, for some reason or other, but he is not your soul-mate. He is fooling around while he is married and that is dishonest and unfair to his wife. From what I read, he is not even in the process of divorce. Find someone who is single and available, otherwise you will wind up waiting forever or wind up with someone who is dishonest.
2007-12-01 20:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by Tony d:-) 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then he is NOT your soul mate. You’re in love with an unfaithful man. It is adultery! An even if he decides he will choose you, you will have this on your mind - could he do this to me? I suggest focusing on another area of your life. If you believe in God trust him, repent and do the right thing, and let him go.
I can only speak on this from the outside looking in but this is my personal opinion. You have to live with your decisions. Remember - we reap what we sow. Good luck.
2007-12-01 20:09:35 · answer #11 · answered by G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋