I was looking into my December calander, when I noticed I had one full week of nothing to do! Now..just to let you know I am a very busy man...so to have one week off is just crazy! Should I make myself relax, or get out into the world and do something? I just don't know what to do with myself. My wife left me 2 weeks ago..and now my life is full or sorrow and tears. If I stay home I'll be reminded of her..but if I go and do something my mind will be on other things. What should I do? Please respond.
2007-12-01 12:01:44 · 16 answers · asked by Seth Josaphine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should go out and explore the world. An idle mind is the devils playground. In other words if you stay at home doing nothing, your mind may stay on the troubles you have. So take this time that you have free and explore the world, meet new people, and live your life.
2007-12-01 12:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Logan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and do things, keeping yourself busy, doesn't mean your not relaxing. Besides if that's what you need right now, do it. Your the one who knows best what you need, calenders are for reminders or planning. Relaxing can be done anytime, and for most is done almost every night while sleeping. Relaxing is a state of mind. I hope you find peace of mind soon.
2007-12-01 20:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by ferochira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that it's not normal for you not to be busy... And your life is changing... getting out into the world, doing what makes you feel like yourself again helps. It's hard to focus and not to get in that cycle thinking, where you feel vulnerable so you can heal. Letting go is the hardest part. BUT doing things that you truly love on your week off is something you owe to yourself.
2007-12-01 21:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something that let's relax and go out into the world.
If you can afford it there are some great prices on cruises this time of the year......and they have a lot of last minute cancellations.
There's always single women on a cruise....you can have fun, build up your self-esteem......and be ready to come back to the real world.
Don't get serious though.....it's just for fun.
2007-12-01 20:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, you have asked a question that echos to the deepest part of all of us...... "to be or not to be...."
You definitely need some you time. But how you choose to use that time can only come from you. I guess the best idea is to get some kind of grief/divorce counseling. It sounds like you definitely need time to reset.
Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-12-01 20:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by freeD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy. Get a massage join a gym take walks. Just keep busy. I no that pain been there myself. Please do yourself a favor and keep busy.I promise you it will get better there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Doesn't seem like it now but there is.
2007-12-01 21:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by cathie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I normally don't condone prostitution, but it really sounds like you need a hooker to get back in the saddle. Try Erotic Services on craigslist. Good luck!
2007-12-01 20:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Christmas shopping ...And if you don't have any one to buy for than volunteer at a church.....Or help a poor family with their Christmas...There are allot of things you can do to cheer your self up .... Don't let this divorce define you...Let you define your life....
2007-12-01 20:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by diva102288 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go learn that you need to make time to make your life happy and meaningful. that is why she left you. you most likely did not give her the attention you gave other things.
2007-12-01 20:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go have some fun,go somewhere you never been before.Maybe you'll meet someone interesting and start something new.Good luck!
2007-12-02 00:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by brownsugarbr02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋